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kage_ar
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I was going to ask the same thing - chapter and verse please!
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brigid12
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Jesus also told us to do to others as we would have them do to us! Who here would not feel they had the right, as a creation of our Lord’s, to know when they had been lied to and cheated on.
Actually, this did happen to me. Being cheated on (once), in a moment of weakness, I believe most women can forgive (although, the statistics i’ve read numerous places, say that once a spouse cheats it usually happens again in the vast majority of cases). Being lied to about it over a period of time is something totally different. The trust, which may have been shaky before, is totally gone.
Actually, this did happen to me. Being cheated on (once), in a moment of weakness, I believe most women can forgive (although, the statistics i’ve read numerous places, say that once a spouse cheats it usually happens again in the vast majority of cases). Being lied to about it over a period of time is something totally different. The trust, which may have been shaky before, is totally gone.
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janw
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Having been there and hurt beyond anything ever in my life. Its not so much the act itself that really hurt but that the person you felt was your soul mate, shared all with, lied and had a secret life that they kept from you. That this person was willing to put at risk their relationship with you and if children involved, put at risk their happiness just to experience a little thrill.
That is the things that really hurt the worst. You realize that your spouse put being with that person above their love for you and the rest of the family.
If you feel it was a horrible mistake and it was a one time thing and you know you would never do again, I think best to keep it to yourself. If there is anyway the injured spouse would ever find out or if the spouse suspects something has happened. Then you need to admit and beg forgiveness.
A person who suspects will go through hell knowing but not able to confirm. You can’t work this thing out if you can’t admit.
Sometimes a person knows in their heart their spouse has cheated but feel they can’t settle the matter and put behind them because the guilty person won’t admit. So you go through life not really trusting the one you love and share your life with. That is torture. Even though you feel you know for sure, you keep thinking what if I’m wrong and it will drive you crazy.
So, if the injured spouse suspects, you should always tell the truth and then deal with the problem. You may lose you spouse but they have the right to decide if they wish to give you another chance.
Because you told the truth, your spouse may feel they can trust you again even through you made a serious mistake.
This kind of thing not only hurts the spouse but damages children for life.
That is the things that really hurt the worst. You realize that your spouse put being with that person above their love for you and the rest of the family.
If you feel it was a horrible mistake and it was a one time thing and you know you would never do again, I think best to keep it to yourself. If there is anyway the injured spouse would ever find out or if the spouse suspects something has happened. Then you need to admit and beg forgiveness.
A person who suspects will go through hell knowing but not able to confirm. You can’t work this thing out if you can’t admit.
Sometimes a person knows in their heart their spouse has cheated but feel they can’t settle the matter and put behind them because the guilty person won’t admit. So you go through life not really trusting the one you love and share your life with. That is torture. Even though you feel you know for sure, you keep thinking what if I’m wrong and it will drive you crazy.
So, if the injured spouse suspects, you should always tell the truth and then deal with the problem. You may lose you spouse but they have the right to decide if they wish to give you another chance.
Because you told the truth, your spouse may feel they can trust you again even through you made a serious mistake.
This kind of thing not only hurts the spouse but damages children for life.
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