Advice about Dating someone with a child

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Also, as another poster mentioned, you will NOT be the mother and won’t have any authority. What if the babies mother lets her do things you don’t want your kids doing? How will you explain that their older sister can do that and they can’t ?

Well, if she marries the father, then she will have authority as a step-mother and the child may not have the same rules in both houses, but she will need to follow the rules in her dad and step-mother’s house, while she is there. I say this as someone that already had 2 kids when I married my current husband, and we had 3 more kids together, and it’s never been an issue. It was the other way around though, to where I had the kids full time and their dad had them every other weekend. Our 3 bio children have never been jealous of their older brother and sister having an extra dad etc. that’s never come up at all actually.

OP, if you commit to loving the child as your own, then it can work out. I’m so thankful that my husband was willing to give me a chance, having 2 kids, seeing the way many people apparently feel about this. My marriage has been wonderful, we’ve been together almost 20 years and he’s a great father and step father. We haven’t had many issues at all with the step parent aspect, my kids call both he and their bio dad “dad” as he’s been in the picture for most of their lives. Your situation will be a bit different than mine since the mother has full custody, but blended families can be successful, it just takes a commitment to make things work.