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My best friend of two years recently stopped speaking to me for reasons I can’t understand.

The last words He spoke to me were “Tim I think we should stop talking. It’s been great getting to know you, but honesty I have grown tired of talking , I shall keep you in my prayers and I think it is for the best goodbye”.

We never argued, agreed on everything and both of us felt Our Friendship was a blessing form God.

I have reached out to no avail and I asked an SSPX priest what his opinion on the matter was He told me that technically my friendship is merely going to more beneficial to me since me and my best friend are going to praying for one other and that we will always be united as brothers in Christ and that I should look forward to seeing him in Heaven.

Is this right and I forgave my friend a long time ago but I still miss him dearly and we haven’t spoken in two months. This Lent has been really painful for me.

If you wish to pray for my situation then I posted a prayer intention awhile back
 
Do you have any other friends, that know him, too? They might have spoken to him, and know more of the story. Do you have trouble making and keeping friends, in general? In this case,try and speak to a counselor. Otherwise, just chalk this up to experience. It sounds like he has a problem:most people who want to distance themselves from a friend, just make themselves less available, and soon, the friendship just fizzles out. Anyway, unless this is something that happens to you often, keep praying for this guy, but move on with your own life.
 
I am very sorry this happened, and yes it can be painful and lonely. But frankly, maybe it is for the best. A true friend would have brought up the things that bothered him instead of just waiting until he could no longer take it and dump you like that
 
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To be honest my friends don’t know him and I feel gulity letting a friendship die out when there was no need for it
 
This is quite sad- I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. It sounds very unexpected. Your friend must have some type of reason. It would be nice if he would have given you a better explanation… 😦
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but honesty I have grown tired of talking
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Do you have any idea what he means by grown tired of talking? Do you guys have in depth conversations too much, and not do anything fun? Maybe he’s worn out somehow? Some people aren’t big talkers maybe? It’s hard to say.
 
If the friendship was a grace from God, perhaps any blessings that were to be shared, have been shared.
That he asked for the friendship to end must be respected, as otherwise it might be taken as stalking. Pursuing it could destroy in his eyes even the friendship for what it was, just leaving him with frustration against you.

It was what it was, and you need to think better of yourself than yearning for someone who tossed you aside like a toy he got tired of. Aside from that, people do have a right to choose their friends.

I’m sorry for the loss you feel, and am glad that you have other friends who might in fact be truer friends than the one who threw you away.

Prayer for your recovery and refocus, and prayer for him that he will grow in genuine caring for others.
 
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Our talks dealt with Our love for the traditional Faith, the Latin Mass and really anything else we could come up with.

To be honest I bear no anger,bitterness or even hatred of Him for what happened. We are required as Catholics to love unconditionally and to give of ourselves the way Christ has done for us.

I reached out as an act of kindness not bitterness or hatred plus my friends and family told me to try it anyway.
 
Blessings
What is an SSPX priest? I figured same sex ——? He’s tired of talking about what?
Were you in same city?
In Christ’s Love
Tweedlealice
 
The first answer is a priest who is a member of the SSPX. I told the Priest about my friend and asked for His guidance and advice while also asking for the location of the SSPX chapel in my city.

I have no idea what my friend was talking about and still don’t.

No we actually live in different States I am from Texas and He is from California
 
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I, for one have been convinced that it is now your former friend’s problem, and, apart from praying for him, your job is done. You shouldn’t pursue him, but, if he reaches out to you again, be willing to hear him out.

As you have other friends, which you didn’t mention in your first post, it’s not your problem. So, get on with your own life, but pray for this person sometimes. God Bless.
 
Yes we had an online friendship that also used texting and phone calls to communicate so yes it was online
 
Ok, well that might be the problem then.

Not everyone likes to have friends that they don’t spend actual time with. Maybe he thinks the online/text/phone friendship has run its course. It is difficult for some people to maintain a friendship that way.

There may also be the possibility that you value the friendship more than your friend, and perhaps require more attention and connection than your friend wants to spend time cultivating.

These things happen online. Best to just be happy for what you took away from it and spend time with your real life friends in person.
 
Most of my close friendships are online only since I feel more safe that way since I am disabled.

Real life friendships usually fail to last these days anyway because people never bother to actually try anymore
 
Self isolation is not good for us.

God created us to live in community, not to be alone with only “invisible friends” on the other end of a text.

Get involved with something, a class, some outreach work, a Bible Study at your Parish, volunteer at the Library or the Dog Pound. Make some real life friends.
 
I am involved in a Catholic Student Association at my university but none of them understand what traditional Catholicism is.

They are unfortunately Novus Ordo Catholics and I personally don’t view Novus Ordo Catholics as favorable to traditional Catholics as friends.
 
As the term “Novus Ordo Catholics” is a pejorative, guess I’m not qualified to be your friend.
 
That is not true.

I use it as a term to describe the vast difference between traditional Catholics and modern Catholics
 
Modern Catholics attack the Latin Mass, look down on those who enjoy it and refuse to listen to Traditional Catholics concerns over the issues of Vatican II and the Novus Ordo Mass
 
Traditional Catholics are more than willing to accept Novus Ordo Catholics as friends but they must be willing to respect the TLM and those who attend it
 
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