Advice

[HNA444]

Hope everyone had a very Happy Easter! I have a friend who I’ve been on and off, because I am always the one who gives more than I get, because she doesn’t seem to care. But, when she texts me all the time I feel bad ignoring her, so I fall into her trap and end up being her friend. my issue now , is today for instance, I messaged her saying happy easter and god bless her and her family. And she did not respond back . I know she read it, because I have a blackberry and it shows if someone read it. Than, later on at night around midnight she decides to msg me and comment on a status I had. She didn’t even bother to say happy easter to me or thank you. I know it’s not a big deal, but it hurts my feelings and I can’t say anything to her because I have in the past, and she ends up making excuses and gets defensive and I dnt like dealing with it. Plus, she never changes when I tell her how I feel. My wuestion is, what should I do? Should I just ignore her ot accept the way she is ?

 

[Moscati]

It seems to me like you’re reading a little too much into a pretty simple exchange.

My own personal rule is (try) to never get upset over text messages or Facebook posts (or forum posts), because it’s just too easy to misunderstand what the other person meant. Just let it go. If this person isn’t really important to you/treating you well anyway, don’t waste your energy being upset about it.

 

[flyingfish]

I also think you’re reading too much into it. She might have received your text, but she may have been busy at the time. Maybe she was out with friends, or at a dinner, or watching a movie, or working. Maybe she just didn’t feel like texting.

Are you attracted to this girl? Why is it important to you that she respond all the time? I would see her as just an acquaintance and not invest too much emotionally.

 

[HNA444]

I also think you’re reading too much into it. She might have received your text, but she may have been busy at the time. Maybe she was out with friends, or at a dinner, or watching a movie, or working. Maybe she just didn’t feel like texting.

Are you attracted to this girl? Why is it important to you that she respond all the time? I would see her as just an acquaintance and not invest too much emotionally.

No i am not attracted to her, i am a girl lol! I know it seems silly or stupid, but it’s just that she does rude things a lot and does not consider my feelings at all. The thing is, she didn;t have the decency to respond by simply saying thnk u too , but yet she messages me at midnight commenting on my status. I think she uses me because no one else listens to her the way i do. I just don;t know how to deal with her the right way, because if i am nice to her, she uses me and i don’t feel like i should be used or not treated the same way i treat her. I guess my question would be, should we let people go who aren’t good to us? because, I am very close to doing that (and it is not about the text, but that is what triggered me to doing this). I just hate losing a friend, even though she’s not a good one. I pray to God that he show me who my real friends are and show me who is good or not good. And, I think this was sign. What do you all think?