Advise: Cremain disposition

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I would appreciate thoughts / comments on how to address family members who want to scatter some of the cremains of their husband/father. They do understand the church’s teaching.

What other approach may be of benefit.
 
If you are not immediate family (e.g. son/daughter, brother/sister) I wouldn’t push this issue - unless the deceased left specific instructions it is usual for the next of kin to make decisions pertaining to the deceased’s body. When a family is grieving for a husband/father they are unlikely to take kindly to the perception of someone telling them what to do with the remains because it’s the requirements of the Church. (I’m not saying you are forcing this issue but these issues are so very delicate and people aren’t always thinking straight when grieving.) Presumably they will have a Catholic funeral so it may be better to ask the parish priest to approach this subject.
This is one of those reasons why people should make clear instructions before death, it’s clears up any confusion and takes a burden off the family.
 
Thank you for the reply. This was may sister’s husband, and my close friend for many years. We can talk easily, but the grieving process is intense. Sudden and unexpected. My goal is to help (as much as anyone can) her and her two young adult children through this process.
 
By scattering, they are irrevocably depriving others of a permanent place of visitation regardless of their own personal beliefs. Are they willing to deprive others of this so indifferently? That might be a good question.
 
Thank you for your reply; it helps to have thoughts outside my own black and white views. I am fortunate that I have both some time and a good relationship that will allow discussion.
 
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