Advising someone on communion

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I have a younger sister who is baptized and has had first holy communion. However, she doesn’t believe in Christianity/Catholicism and has participated in the occult. My mom doesn’t want her to be discouraged from coming to mass so she wants her to be able to receive communion. How can I communicate to my mom that she shouldn’t receive communion and how can I communicate this to my sister without making it sound like the Catholic Church just wants to exclude her?
 
How old is your younger sister?

How old are you?

The answers to these questions will help in formulating a response.
 
Mom, you should talk to Pastor Joe about this situation. Sister may need some spiritual counseling.

This is for your parents to handle. Not you.
 
My sister would never go to spiritual counseling. And I don’t think my mom is aware of the significance of receiving communion in a state of mortal sin. I don’t think she is interested in talking to a priest about my sister. My parents are divorced and my dad is a staunch anti-Catholic. I don’t think my parents would handle the situation very well.
 
Well she keeps it very secret. I discovered it on instagram and it seems like telling her about the dangers of it would just make her laugh and want to do it more. She doesn’t understand the reality of it. Also my mom is concerned but it seems like prayer is the only solution. Also my dad is not a believer in the supernatural so it doesn’t bother him
 
"Participated in the occult’ how? A Ouiji board? Gone to a tarot reading a few times? Was she even aware that the above are wrong? (IOW, might any sins she committed have been venial, considering her age, lack of instruction, etc.?) Look, normally I’m so rigid that boards look like spaghetti next to me, but in this case, I’d advise you to let your sister receive and hope that as she goes more often she will get to know others, especially the priest, and let things go from there. Have you considered getting her something like a beautiful rosary, maybe a CD of Catholic music, a poster, holy cards, etc? (Especially if YOU have these things yourself and use them, then it comes across as sisterly sharing of gifts). Cultivating a devotion yourself to a particular saint, learning about the saint, talking about him or her? Sharing some of your own struggles and wishes so she knows you’re not ‘talking down from the righteous position’ but instead holding out your hands alongside her as you both try to walk the path of righteousness? Emphasizing some of the ‘positives’ as opposed to the negatives, sharing some of the ‘funny’ saint and authors’ quotes, like Hilaire Belloc’s, “Wherever the Catholic sun doth shine, there’s always laughter and good red wine, at least I’ve always found it so, Benedicamus Domino”, and some of St. Theresa of Avila, who famously said, “Lord if this is the way you treat your friends, no wonder you have so few of them”. Making the faith more into the "Look at the beauty we have, the art, the music, the candles, flowers, poetry, laughter, sharing, companionship, stories, prayers, sacramental, etc’ gives her ‘the rest of the story’.
 
I appreciate that. She is very hostile to Christianity and would not be happy if I got her a spiritual gift I don’t think. However I will give that some thought
 
This is not an easy situation. When she made first confession, these things were explained to her, ie, regarding being worthy to receive.

Since she has become a non believer, why not ask her why she receives communion at mass? If she has no belief, what is the difference to her? I don’t understand that part.

You can still take the advice above regarding being a good and loving role model, and of course pray for her return to the faith.

God bless you.🌸
 
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