Technically it is permitted, under the new canon law (1983) but it is still a really bad idea. The purpose of the sponsor is to connect the candidate to the parish community - the wife or husband doesn’t do that and in fact often just reinforces the bad habits of the family, rather than giving the candidate a broader perspective.I have seen wives sponcer thier husband, and vice a versa, so I don’t think that is correct.
it used to be the case under canon law that the relationship of godparent-godchild was understood to be too intimate and close to allow marriage, so there is still a holdover. In this diocese the spouse or fiance of a confirmation candidate is discouraged from being a sponsor because they may be, such is the sad state of the culture today, actively participating with the candidate in a sinful activity (cohabitation, contraception etc). which the candidate must renounce and confess before receiving the sacrament. The other reason, particularly in the case of a fiance or bf/gf is that the relationship might break off during the course of sacramental preparation, damaging or derailing the process.Someone told me that the Church forbids a Confirmation sponsor to have a romantic relationship(i.e. dating, courtship, marriage…) with their Confirmation candidate. I can’t find anything on that, so is it true?
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