Very true. My primary reason for mentioning this, is that I believe adults do not generally give young children enough credit for understanding things as well as they do. Consequently we fail to teach them as much as we can and should. I am continuously amazed at what children do understand, if they are given the chance to express that understanding and to develop it further.
Yes! I have 5 children, ages 11, 10, 7, 5 and 3. Each has reached the level of understanding (and thus responsibility) at different ages, but each of them has certainly reached it before age 7. My 7 year old son, who is preparing for Confession, asked me a few weeks ago if he could just go to Confession now. We asked our priest, who questioned him briefly about his understanding of the Sacrament, and heard his first confession a few minutes later. Shortly after that, my daughter, who turned 5 in November, asked me “Shouldn’t Confession be for everyone?” She knows right from wrong, she knows what the purpose of the Sacrament is, and she desires God’s forgiveness. Although I don’t think it is strictly necessary, I am not going to deny my child who earnestly desires this sacrament and neither will my priest.
It bothers me that in most places, children are prevented from receiving the Sacrament of Reconciliation before 2nd or 3rd grade. I don’t think a 7 year old is capable of mortal sin, but I have no doubt that most 7-year-olds are capable of sin. Even canon law acknowledges this, stating:
The age of reason, also called the age of discretion, is the age at which children become capable of moral responsibility. On completion of the seventh year a minor is presumed to have the use of reason (canon 97 §2 of the Code of Canon Law),
“On completion of the 7th year” means “by the 7th birthday”, not “at the end of 2nd grade” or “at the end of 3rd grade” or “before First Communion”. Canon 989 also binds those above this age to annual confession:
All the faithful who have reached the age of discretion are bound faithfully to confess their grave sins at least once a year.
Again, I don’t believe that 7 or 8 year old is capable of having grave sins to confess, but shouldn’t we give them the opportunity to experience God’s love and mercy in this sacrament as early as possible? Shouldn’t they know that this is the remedy for sin as soon as they have the understanding of sin?