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It is in the paperwork that he gets them. We are going to sign a statement saying that I did give the rings back and we both will sign and have witnesses… I’m sure he will not be alone. Friend is also going to video transaction. Those rings are the only thing “owed” to him and I am going to make sure he isn’t foolish.

Tomorrow morning we pick the stuff up. We are going out to dinner and have a couple of drinks Saturday night and Sunday, after Mass, we are going to vedge out on the beach. Oh and shopping, because a girly mini vacay has to include some shopping. 😃
 
KendraDZ1902 said:
It is in the paperwork that he gets them. We are going to sign a statement saying that I did give the rings back and we both will sign and have witnesses… I’m sure he will not be alone. Friend is also going to video transaction. Those rings are the only thing “owed” to him and I am going to make sure he isn’t foolish.

Tomorrow morning we pick the stuff up. We are going out to dinner and have a couple of drinks Saturday night and Sunday, after Mass, we are going to vedge out on the beach. Oh and shopping, because a girly mini vacay has to include some shopping. 😃
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I suppose the rings ensure that you get your stuff back safely.

Make sure you have ALL of your stuff back before you hand over the rings.

Best wishes!
 
KendraDZ1902 said:
I was going to throw them off the side of a mountain. Seriously. Glad I waited. Lol
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I work with a woman who threw her rings into the woods.

Then later regretted that she hadn’t sold them because she needed the money. 😉
 
KendraDZ1902 said:
It is in the paperwork that he gets them. We are going to sign a statement saying that I did give the rings back and we both will sign and have witnesses… I’m sure he will not be alone. Friend is also going to video transaction. Those rings are the only thing “owed” to him and I am going to make sure he isn’t foolish.

Tomorrow morning we pick the stuff up. We are going out to dinner and have a couple of drinks Saturday night and Sunday, after Mass, we are going to vedge out on the beach. Oh and shopping, because a girly mini vacay has to include some shopping. 😃
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Kendra, I join the other posters in commending you for the way you have handled this. I probably would NOT be as charitable to a guy who did what this loser did to you.

Hope everything went as well as it could.
 
It went OK. He showed up with his mom and step dad:rolleyes:

I got everything except my granddaddy’s iron skillet, my senior year softball blanket, and my confirmation certificate. When we got back to our cars he asked for the rings and I told him that I’m not giving them to him until I get back what is mine and that I would be here until Monday. He was furious, but his mother actually understood where I was coming from. I also didn’t take everything that I could have, just my belongings and heirlooms and I pointed that out. 2 hours later he was calling me with my things. My friend had to literally take them from him. He was clinching onto them.
I know his mannerisms and what they mean. When he’s uncomfortable and wants my help he gives me this little half smile.
Well the last image I have of him is giving me that look with pain in his eyes. Seeing him was liberating for me and extremely painful for him.
 
KendraDZ1902 said:
It went OK. He showed up with his mom and step dad:rolleyes:

I got everything except my granddaddy’s iron skillet, my senior year softball blanket, and my confirmation certificate. When we got back to our cars he asked for the rings and I told him that I’m not giving them to him until I get back what is mine and that I would be here until Monday. He was furious, but his mother actually understood where I was coming from. I also didn’t take everything that I could have, just my belongings and heirlooms and I pointed that out. 2 hours later he was calling me with my things. My friend had to literally take them from him. He was clinching onto them.
I know his mannerisms and what they mean. When he’s uncomfortable and wants my help he gives me this little half smile.
Well the last image I have of him is giving me that look with pain in his eyes. Seeing him was liberating for me and extremely painful for him.
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I’m glad you got your stuff back successfully and it’s all over!

Everybody is pulling for you, Kendra.
 
Once again Kendra, you are the strong, logical, and mature one in the situations you describe. I know that in your pain it is hard to find the good. But you have to be incredibly proud of how you are dealing with this. Especially in light of your past. It HAS to be your faith, your Catholicism, that is helping you through this!
 
Irishmom2 said:
Oh, I would give them back and be done with him. I wouldn’t even want to keep them! You are right, bad history in those rings.

Kendra, be the strong woman you are, and get your things out of there and your life will be moving in the right direction. Glad to hear that you will have a friend with you for support.

Prayers offered for a safe trip, no confrontation, and peace.
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Same here.

May God’s goodness overcome all the negative events you are currently undergoing.
 
Hoosier_Daddy said:
You are a better person that I am. I would have pawned those rings and told him I threw them in the volcano and Mordor…

But I will be praying for you.
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Considering the evidence that those pretty things may be "Mordor"s rings, the volcano might be the best end for them, but maybe the third time will be different. One can hope. I am sure Kendra would not wish what she has been through on an enemy.
KendraDZ1902 said:
It went OK. He showed up with his mom and step dad:rolleyes:

I got everything except my granddaddy’s iron skillet, my senior year softball blanket, and my confirmation certificate. When we got back to our cars he asked for the rings and I told him that I’m not giving them to him until I get back what is mine and that I would be here until Monday. He was furious, but his mother actually understood where I was coming from. I also didn’t take everything that I could have, just my belongings and heirlooms and I pointed that out. 2 hours later he was calling me with my things. My friend had to literally take them from him. He was clinching onto them.
I know his mannerisms and what they mean. When he’s uncomfortable and wants my help he gives me this little half smile.
Well the last image I have of him is giving me that look with pain in his eyes. Seeing him was liberating for me and extremely painful for him.
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Trading the rings that symbolize two failed marriages for a pan that can be used to make skillet cornbread sounds like a good swap to me! 👍

Maybe after Purgatory you can have the kind of meeting you deserve from him in Heaven. Until then, better that someone who would take advantage for himself at the expense of your harm is not in a position of trust any more.
 
EasterJoy said:
Considering the evidence that those pretty things may be "Mordor"s rings, the volcano might be the best end for them, but maybe the third time will be different. One can hope. I am sure Kendra would not wish what she has been through on an enemy.

Trading the rings that symbolize two failed marriages for a pan that can be used to make skillet cornbread sounds like a good swap to me! 👍

Maybe after Purgatory you can have the kind of meeting you deserve from him in Heaven. Until then, better that someone who would take advantage for himself at the expense of your harm is not in a position of trust any more.
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Not only skillet cornbread but a good pineapple upside down cake.👍
 
KendraDZ1902 said:
It went OK. He showed up with his mom and step dad:rolleyes:

I got everything except my granddaddy’s iron skillet, my senior year softball blanket, and my confirmation certificate. When we got back to our cars he asked for the rings and I told him that I’m not giving them to him until I get back what is mine and that I would be here until Monday. He was furious, but his mother actually understood where I was coming from. I also didn’t take everything that I could have, just my belongings and heirlooms and I pointed that out. 2 hours later he was calling me with my things. My friend had to literally take them from him. He was clinching onto them.
I know his mannerisms and what they mean. When he’s uncomfortable and wants my help he gives me this little half smile.
Well the last image I have of him is giving me that look with pain in his eyes. Seeing him was liberating for me and extremely painful for him.
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I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. However, it sounds similar to a situation a friend of mine went through, complete with mommy & daddy tagging along. In her case, he found out the grass isn’t always greener before the final exchange of belongings. I think he held onto the last of her things for two years before she finally gave up and sold the rings and whatever else she had left.
 
Just curious, Kendra. How old is your ex? He seems to act like a teenager.
 
on_the_hill said:
Just curious, Kendra. How old is your ex? He seems to act like a teenager.
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He is 30 years old. Yep, a 30 year old, who has been on 3 deployments, 2 to the middle east, had to have mommy with him (lawyer was in her town, I’m sure she did most of the work with that) and pitched a fit when I put my foot down.

Heck yeah I needed that skillet back, it’s been seasoned over 50 years!
 
Sorry for what you have been going through. Don’t let this horrible time sour you on men, or life in general. You’ll come through this! :yup:
 
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