Are you trying to convince us or yourself? Because oftentimes these types of statements are more to convince ourselves of something than someone else. All the best to you.
I know lots of bachelors and single maidens. Some just never get connnected, some have had family obligations which prevented them from marrying, some chose to devote themselves to various good works. But indeed, some are hermits by circumstances - finances usually cause this, if you don’t have much money " socializing " is pretty much out. So being alone and being poor is a little tough, but the Church and Christ make all bearable.
I think, in general, lots of people do need to hear it. Society does have a way of impressing upon people a necessity of having certain relationships that are not actually necessary. For example, some people date only because they feel pressured to do so (and are, or become, unhappy as a result). Thus, they would benefit from being aware of this message.Are you trying to convince us or yourself? Because oftentimes these types of statements are more to convince ourselves of something than someone else. All the best to you.
I disagree. I’ve lived alone for 7 years and have not been in a relationship for 10. I feel no need to tell people that I’m “okay” being alone. Someone that needs to reassure others, especially reassuring people on a forum who didn’t ask, is likely reassuring themselves. And in regards to your social pressure situation, someone dating due to social pressure is likely not going to stop just because someone they don’t know tells them they don’t have to do it anymore.
Well I just get tired of the zillion threads about people complaining about being alone, or who seemed terrified by the prospect then you have all the marriage problem threads and sex threads…lots of duplication.
Nope I’m resigned to living alone. Living with others can be difficult to say the least but as I’ve lived with lots of people and on my own I can truly say each has it’s pros and cons. I’m very social though and am always on the go. I don’t spend time sitting at home I get out and do things.Are you trying to convince us or yourself? Because oftentimes these types of statements are more to convince ourselves of something than someone else. All the best to you.
Each one is brought up by a specific individual who is suffering though. Why is it not fitting that there be duplication in the subject matter if it is truly a problem that comes up over and over again? And just so you know, throwing the phrase “alone is not a bad word” at them is not going to help change the way they fell about things. As was pointed out, lonelines is the problem, and it is a very real one which usually can’t just be shaken off with platitudes.
I’m not going to get into a debate with anyone. If my thread annoys someone they don’t have to read it. I was just suggesting that being alone it not necessarily the worst thing that can happen.
Yes and that is my whole point.
Thats fine, I am just giving you another perspective about the duplication of threads which seems to bother you.I’m not going to get into a debate with anyone. If my thread annoys someone they don’t have to read it. I was just suggesting that being alone it not necessarily the worst thing that can happen.
There are people who desire to assuage certain negative feelings of others in connection to solitude, not because they need to, but because they want to. If you can establish that someone needs to reassure others, then yes, perhaps they are reassuring themselves. I don’t think the assumption can be made until then.
Removal of social pressure usually results in the person persuing what they want rather than a dominant view in society. I agree that one person on one forum (which in no way constitutes a complete “social pressure”) is not likely to trigger widespread abandonment of (false) dating relationships, but it will certainly trigger thoughts in some people in terms of their motivations. I think that was the intent of the original post.
Amen! And you didn’t suggest that you were on a mission to save all the lonely people in the world either!I’m not going to get into a debate with anyone. If my thread annoys someone they don’t have to read it. I was just suggesting that being alone it not necessarily the worst thing that can happen.
Just a conversation that some will find interesting and some not- this is a discussion forum after all. I think it’s interesting (which is why I’ve taken the time to read it as opposed to the tens that I’ve skipped over) 