Always on my mind

[4eva_catholic]

Hello everyone & forgive me of I’m using the wrong forum to ask but this is the only one that sseemed appropriate.I need help in that I don’t know what to make of it or think.I had been going out with this guy for 2years (from 2009) before breaking up with me & its been a struggle to move on though I’m learning to & since he’s also catholic & was attending the same priest before moving to another town,he normally comes once in a while visiting his family & friends but what bothering me is he’ll cross my mind & I suddenly will start thinking of him & no matter how hard I try_i can’t shake it off.I will go on for days or a week or so then as if that’s not enough-he’ll show up.I have noticed that It always happens before he showing up & don’t know why cause he’s moved on & why do I out of the blues think of him,why does he suddenly cross my mind prior to his showing up without he or anyone telling me of his coming?what could this mean?PLEASE HELP coz I’m going insane!

 

[EasterJoy]

a) You are trying too hard.
b) You are trying to “not do” something. You can’t “not do” things. You can only do things. The most common demonstration is to be challenged to not think of an elephant. It is impossible, unless you give yourself something to do that is incompatible, such as think of a predator or to think of a planet, etc.

When you think of him, do not freak out. Do not try to turn your mind in a violent 180 degree turn. Think, “Yes, those were good times. They are over, but oh well, it is better to have loved and lost. I hope he finds the right person or the right life for him. I’ll find someone else or do something else. I have God, so I have nothing to worry about.” Then think of whatever pleasant thought or positive thought you have decided to think about in your future instead of dwelling on your past.

 

[4eva_catholic]

Thank you EasterJoy but what I’m trying to figure out is why I think of him prior to him showing up without me knowing_i have accepted it & wish he well but me thinking of him prior to he showing up which has been happening for some time is what I’m trying to understand.

 

[underacloud]

EasterJoy may be right…or maybe not…I just want to offer another possible perspective.

Perhaps you are allowing these thoughts, and indulging them. Perhaps you never really got over him and you are allowing yourself to dwell on these thoughts of him. Rather than trying too hard, you’re trying too little to let go.

You think of him. He turns up. So what!?! He comes back periodically to visit family and friends. You’re looking for some sort of meaning when there is none.

I don’t intend to sound harsh. But this is the impression I get from your post.

 

[Auntie_A]

I know what you’re talking about. I have had that throughout my life with several people I love, not to mention family. At times I know who is on the phone by the sound of the ring, although people assure me that the phone rings the same for everyone.

Some call it psychic or sensitive; I call it the Holy Spirit. Maybe seeing or thinking about that person is the Holy Spirit preparing you or cushioning you for the shock of running into him.

Truth is, he will always be somewhere in your heart or mind, unless you are cold and calloused. Be calm and remember to pray for him