Am i a horrible person

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Im 14 i have lied to my parent done unspeakable thing in omegle i have a porn additcion i cant quit masturbating i have said horrible things about my friends behind there back , i have wished horrible things on people , am i damned to hell is there a chance for me ,i know its not a excuse but after my parents divorce i changed a lot for the worse . It may not sound bad but i feel horrible , also im not catholic yet since my parent dosnt like them so confession is out of the question
 
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It sounds to me like you’re the typical for a 14 year old currently; however, God calls us to be better. Go to confession, stay off the inappropriate sites, pray the rosary.

You are not a horrible person. Take a step back and look at yourself. Is this who you want to be? You’ve made a good first step by looking for help, but talking to your priest would be much better.

Edited because a slang term for masturbation was somehow offensive.
 
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Im not catholic yet since my parent isnt fond of them so confession is out of the question
 
Is it possible to obtain forgiveness of mortal sins outside of confession ?
 
How did you learn about mortal sins and confession? How do you know which of your sins are mortal sins? Did someone instruct you or did you read about it? The only Christians who classify sins as mortal or venial are Catholics. Are you Catholic?

Regardless, if you’re not Catholic, you can’t go to confession. You can confess your sins directly to God, ask His forgiveness and stop sinning. Focus less on yourself and focus more on others and helping them.

God Bless!
 
I have been reading about the catholic faith for a while now , but my parent is not fond of catholics so i plan on joining catholic church once im a adult ,
 
Well, Trap, you’re NOT a horrible person! Not at all! Please know that God loves you and wants the best for you.

You’re a minor and must honor your parent’s wishes for now. Keep reading about the Faith, keep praying to God, don’t give up and one day when you’re older you can enter fully into the Church.

Praying for you!
 
You are far from horrible. God loves you very much!! You are special lo him.
 
You’ll fit right in with the rest of us sinners. Some things people do are horrible, but almost all sins can be repented of. Even the lowest, meanest people can gain forgiveness and strive to do better. Today is a new day. Resolve to do better each day.

The one sin that God doesn’t forgive now or ever is the sin of calling evil good, or good evil. ie. blaspheming against the Holy Spirit. See Mark 3:28-30, Matthew 12:31-32, and Luke 12:10. Basically it’s if you attribute miracles of God to the Devil, or relate evil things to God.

On Wikipedia, I found this: In Roman Catholic teaching there are six sins that blaspheme against the Holy Spirit. They are: 1. Despair (believing that one’s evil is beyond God’s forgiveness); 2. Presumption (glory without merit, that is, hope of salvation without keeping the Commandments, or expectation of pardon for sin without repentance); 3. Envying the goodness of another (sadness or repining at another’s growth in virtue and perfection); 4. Obstinacy in sin (willful persisting in wickedness, and running on from sin to sin, after sufficient instructions and admonition); 5. Final impenitence (to die without either confession or contrition for our sins), and 6. Impugning the known truth (to argue against known points of faith, and this includes misrepresenting parts or all of the Christian faith to make it seem undesirable). [1] [2] [3]
 
Well taking off inappropriate sites is the easiest step. Then comes your behaviour, your thoughts, everything you were doing in the past. Lets be real: you cant get healed by miracle in one day. Of course I know that God can do it anytime to anybody. But it is more about realising your problems and taking effort. Gods wants you to love him more by slowly making progress in overcoming your addiction.
Next real thing: you wont get these fladbacks from past out of your head at once. They have a deep impact on your mind so be prepared that some of them may even harass you. But remember, this is the past but you are living now.
Next thing: wouldnt be the best thing to simply delete your sexuality? Thats how many addicted think on their start. Dont let scrupulities and fear take control over your mind. Then you may fall easily. You dont have control on everything what you see. But you can control not to do it again. Have you accidentaly seen atractive woman in school or on the street? Dont even think about it. Think of her like of God’s child if those thoughts start to attack. He loves her as much as you, would you hurt her in your thoughts?
 
You really need to stay out of omegle and similar “chat with strangers” websites. It seems like the vast majority of people in omegle are looking for random sex chat (I’ve been in it; I didn’t stay long). In addition to that stuff being immoral, you are way underage and there are all kinds of predators in those sites who could really harm you. Just my 2 cents.
 
I recommend that you swap mastaurbation and porn for memes. Whenever I feel tempted I just go on Reddit and look at r/memeeconomy.
 
I mean, pretty sure we are all horrible people. Or at least were.
But. the Church is a hospital for sinners, so everything is fine! Just look into stopping doing what’s wrong and stay off those websites, praying more, and using your energy for productive things. God bless
 
We’d be horrible people if we said “Yes”.
Your sins don’t shock me. You sound pretty normal for a human being. Sinning is second nature to most of us. But most of us adult Catholics have discovered the value of repentance. I cant stress that word enough. Its like a magic word. I will say it again. Repentance.
If we become sincerely sorry for our sins, we start to feel God’s amazing love and forgiveness. And hopefully we start to sin less. We never reach perfection but our attitude is more important than the list of nasty offences. Try to have a “good” attitude. Patient with others and self.
 
You’re not a horrible person. If those are the worst things you’ve done in your life, then you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself. Keep praying, tell God you’re sorry, and see if your parents will at least let you talk to a priest.

I strongly advise that you quit Omegle, and be wary of where and what you post in general. Looking back, very few people are ever proud of what they put on the Internet at 14.
 
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We are all works in progress. Take small steps in changing your life. You may fall a number of times, but at some point, slowly, you and others will see a change in you. You will rightly feel proud. Just never give up. I’ve been down the road you are on. Many of us have. I hope you don’t mind, I’ve sent you a link to a sermon recorded during Mass. “How to make a perfect contrition”.
 
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