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I told a non-Christian friend that I was a Christian the other day. She had no issues with it. We told each other we would be respectful to each other. But then the next day I had a misunderstanding with someone else where I overreacted. And the non-Christian friend was sort of an intermediary in clearing up the misunderstanding. I hesitate to go into too many details because it’s a bit of complicated situation and I don’t want to get off point too much. And the situation itself IS resolved. This thread is more about my mindset before and after. To put it as simply as possible, I was led to believe that this other person was a certain person, but the misunderstanding led the person to think I was mistaken, even though I knew I wasn’t. So I jumped to the conclusion, based on other circumstances, that she was outright lying to me. And I texted my non-Christian friend (who’s a mutual friend of ours) and told her about the awkward conversation we had. She straightened it out and the other person realized I was right about her so she apologized and I said no problem, and said we’d talk soon. Water under the bridge.
However, my complaint to my friend about the conversation I had was very un-Christian-like in hindsight. Like I said I jumped to the conclusion that the person was lying. I told my friend I was “95% sure” of it, and I told my friend “be honest with me,” and “I just want the truth.” The friend was one of the people who led me to believe this person was who I thought it was, so I was kinda skeptical about her too. I never outright said I was accusing her (the friend) of lying too. I think she knew my vitriol was mainly directed at the other person, BUT the fact that I said “be honest with me” may have made her think I was accusing her. And even if she didn’t think anything of those words, it was still a very unpleasant text to send to a non-Christian the day after I told her I was a Christian and we’d agreed to respect each other.
I suffer from anxiety and OCD, so I’m really tempted to apologize to the friend, but I made a thread a while back about how I tend to over-apologize. And I feel like if I apologize to her, when she wasn’t who I was truly mad at, she may take that as a sign of low self-esteem and I’d further misrepresent Christ. I’d like to keep an apology simple and effective without making her think I’m shoving my Christianity in her face after I said I wouldn’t. Perhaps I’m overthinking this. Please help.
I told a non-Christian friend that I was a Christian the other day. She had no issues with it. We told each other we would be respectful to each other. But then the next day I had a misunderstanding with someone else where I overreacted. And the non-Christian friend was sort of an intermediary in clearing up the misunderstanding. I hesitate to go into too many details because it’s a bit of complicated situation and I don’t want to get off point too much. And the situation itself IS resolved. This thread is more about my mindset before and after. To put it as simply as possible, I was led to believe that this other person was a certain person, but the misunderstanding led the person to think I was mistaken, even though I knew I wasn’t. So I jumped to the conclusion, based on other circumstances, that she was outright lying to me. And I texted my non-Christian friend (who’s a mutual friend of ours) and told her about the awkward conversation we had. She straightened it out and the other person realized I was right about her so she apologized and I said no problem, and said we’d talk soon. Water under the bridge.
However, my complaint to my friend about the conversation I had was very un-Christian-like in hindsight. Like I said I jumped to the conclusion that the person was lying. I told my friend I was “95% sure” of it, and I told my friend “be honest with me,” and “I just want the truth.” The friend was one of the people who led me to believe this person was who I thought it was, so I was kinda skeptical about her too. I never outright said I was accusing her (the friend) of lying too. I think she knew my vitriol was mainly directed at the other person, BUT the fact that I said “be honest with me” may have made her think I was accusing her. And even if she didn’t think anything of those words, it was still a very unpleasant text to send to a non-Christian the day after I told her I was a Christian and we’d agreed to respect each other.
I suffer from anxiety and OCD, so I’m really tempted to apologize to the friend, but I made a thread a while back about how I tend to over-apologize. And I feel like if I apologize to her, when she wasn’t who I was truly mad at, she may take that as a sign of low self-esteem and I’d further misrepresent Christ. I’d like to keep an apology simple and effective without making her think I’m shoving my Christianity in her face after I said I wouldn’t. Perhaps I’m overthinking this. Please help.