Am I Crazy?

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Hi,
a few months ago, I met a guy online. Its was through social media rather than a dating site. He liked me quite a bit. But, about two weeks after meeting him online, I got scared (of worst case scenarios I was inventing in my mind) and I sent him a message asking him not to contact me anymore. I haven’t heard from him since, nor has he tried to contact me.

You would think it would be that simple… I should just move on. But, I can’t. I keep feeling a nudge to contact him again and apologize (since I wasn’t the kindest in my message). When I met him, I also had this gut feeling that he was meant to be in my life. This is why I think I am going crazy. It has been several months with no contact but I can’t even begin to be interested in anyone else. I can’t move on. I feel like God might be trying to tell me something. I feel like I must be going crazy. How can someone care about someone so much that they have never even met?
I figure that you all may be able to be the voice of reason here. What do you think I should do? :confused:
 
Did you ever meet him in person? Especially in today’s society, more than ever, you should always be very cautious about meeting people online and then meeting them in real life. I would not have any regrets and resist the need to reestablish contact. It sounds like he has “moved on” and you should too, in my opinion. And this is from someone who has met many people online and then in real life.
 
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Hi,
a few months ago, I met a guy online. Its was through social media rather than a dating site. He liked me quite a bit. But, about two weeks after meeting him online, I got scared (of worst case scenarios I was inventing in my mind) and I sent him a message asking him not to contact me anymore. I haven’t heard from him since, nor has he tried to contact me.

You would think it would be that simple… I should just move on. But, I can’t. I keep feeling a nudge to contact him again and apologize (since I wasn’t the kindest in my message). When I met him, I also had this gut feeling that he was meant to be in my life. This is why I think I am going crazy. It has been several months with no contact but I can’t even begin to be interested in anyone else. I can’t move on. I feel like God might be trying to tell me something. I feel like I must be going crazy. How can someone care about someone so much that they have never even met?
I figure that you all may be able to be the voice of reason here. What do you think I should do? :confused:
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You are living a fantasy of “What if?” Move on, he probably has by now.
 
Yes, move on especially since he never responded after your messages. If he truly cared he would have contacted you and tried to clarify anything that he might have been confused about, perhaps converse on the phone. But he didn’t, not even a message, so tell yourself, you’re better off. I think we go through that in our minds where we ruminate and go back but really it’s not good.

And no I don’t think you’re crazy just confused. God bless, my prayers are with you.
 
I guess I owe you all a bit of thanks for helping me to realize that I should aim higher. Sorry for bothering you all. :blushing:
 
I would also consider, moving forward, why you became frightened. Do you think your fears were useful? What caused them? How likely are you to see them recur in future relationships, and what reaction to them do you think would be appropriate?
 
First, it sounds like you miss the ‘guy you created him to be’. You really don’t know what he is like

Second, even if you do contact him and he responds, he will never forget the email you sent him and his lack of trust will always be there to ruin things
 
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