Am I going to Hell for being a Father?

[900MHZ]

I think the real issue here is not the letter of the law but rather the spirit of the law. Ask yourself, what is a woman to do if her husband abandons her and she falls in love years later with another man. Should she truly live a live of celibacy because the man she married broke his vow before God and her?

Yeah, I thought it said in the Bible, the way I translated, it’s only your spouse CHEATS on you (Commits adultery) while you are married to each other, makes divorce an annulment grantable.

Something to the affect of “No man may divorce his wife, unless she commits adultery”

 

[Chefboy]

900 Mhz

Please dont be misguided by some of my ramblings. I have had alot of anger this week and have used this forum to vent that anger many times.

If you read the entire thread closely I think you will come to the “Truth” as I have now accepted.

Some good books to have in your personal library which have helped me a great deal are,

‘Catholic Questions, Wise Answers’ edited by Michael J Daley
‘Catechism of the Catholic Church’ Second Edition
‘The New American Bible’ Catholic Translation

I have been learning a great deal about The Catholic Church and her teachings with these books and the communications I have had with many individuals much more informed then I am on these topics. Good Reading

Tailwinds and Peace
ed

 

[johannahw]

Chefboy I empathize with your situation. I just wanted to let you know that my husband and I have been “married” living as brother and sister (no sex) for over 10 years now because of the validity of my previous marriages and it is a possibilty. Jim and I love one another just as much as we ever did. Sometimes it gets difficult but I need and gain strength from the Eucharist.
Blessings to you.
JOhannah

 

[LittleDeb]

I have been learning a great deal about The Catholic Church and her teachings with these books and the communications I have had with many individuals much more informed then I am on these topics. Good Reading

Tailwinds and Peace
ed

:dancing::extrahappy:

 

[thistle]

Cheese, you sound very close minded on this issue. Im extremely uncertain as to why you are so close minded and readily willing to submit yourself to the authority of the church without questioning the doctrine in order to have a full understanding of your own faith. For me that is like following blindly.

Mathew 16:19 and Luke 10:16 basically establishes the Catholic Church. If we take this literally for everything in life then how would you explain the Dark Ages of the Church? How would you explain the priests in our church who have failed in their ministries. It really makes you think doesn’t it?

I am glad to have found this forum. The validity of my marriage has always bothered me as I have known that the church does not recognize it. Like I said before, I had somewhat compartmentalized this in my mind in order to rear my children as Catholics and to participate in The Holy Eucharist. The Feast of Corpus Christi this past Sunday reminded me that the Church does not recognize the marriage and that I should not be receiving Holy Communion which is a means to Everlasting Life.

So I have to convince the Church to recognize my marriage. If you know of any doctrine that will help me do this then why dont you share it with me rather then condemn my marriage and berate me as a man dragging around my wife in “SIN”.

My wife and I are Catholic. We were both married before. Her former husband is dead which meant she was free to marry. When we got married I was not a Catholic and was divorced and at that time we never realised that a sexual relationship in that situation was a sin. After 10 years of marriage I became a Catholic. It was explained to us that without an annulment on my side the Church can NEVER recognise our marriage. For me to even be accepted into the Catholic Church my wife and I had to commit to have a non-sexual relationship until an annulment was granted. An annulment was not possible for me as I was deemed to be validly married before. We therefore had to make a choice between ourselves or God. We chose God and live a life of incontinence.
The bottom line is that if one or both parties in a marriage have been previously married and are not able to get an annulment then continued sexual relationships with each other is a grave sin and neither may receive Communion.
Nobody said following Christ would be easy but its certainly worth it.

 

[thistle]

My wife and I are Catholic. We were both married before. Her former husband is dead which meant she was free to marry. When we got married I was not a Catholic and was divorced and at that time we never realised that a sexual relationship in that situation was a sin. After 10 years of marriage I became a Catholic. It was explained to us that without an annulment on my side the Church can NEVER recognise our marriage. For me to even be accepted into the Catholic Church my wife and I had to commit to have a non-sexual relationship until an annulment was granted. An annulment was not possible for me as I was deemed to be validly married before. We therefore had to make a choice between ourselves or God. We chose God and live a life of incontinence.
The bottom line is that if one or both parties in a marriage have been previously married and are not able to get an annulment then continued sexual relationships with each other is a grave sin and neither may receive Communion.
Nobody said following Christ would be easy but its certainly worth it.

I mean we live a life of continence!!

 

[Hellisreal]

I mean we live a life of continence!!

How wonderful for you both.

I think however, that people l have met that claim its the best thing since sliced bread, happen to be the most bitter and unloving people I have ever met.

But I am so happy for you and your spouse. I guess it can be a reality. In some isolated cases.

 

[jmcrae]

I mean we live a life of continence!!

I was just about to say …

What a wonderful gift that you and your wife are giving to each other - the gift of full communion in Christ’s Church, which is so much better than any sex.