Am i going to hell for impurity?

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Hi! I’m 15 and will be starting RCIA after Easter and I quite often struggle with impurity and am not allowed to go to confession. What should i do about this I know obviously acts of contrition i’m just afraid its starting to get worse and don’t know what to do should i give up my phone for lent or something? If I die before confession will I go to hell?!?
 
Agreed. Do what the Church prescribes, but do not lose hope for the mercy of God…see the 4th beatitude:

Matthew 5:6 -

“Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied."

Through his promise, and through the theological virtue of Hope, and through your own diligence to follow the truth, you may be closer to salvation than you think!

Rejoice in the Lord Always!
 
Startingcatholic said:
Hi! I’m 15 and will be starting RCIA after Easter and I quite often struggle with impurity and am not allowed to go to confession. What should i do about this I know obviously acts of contrition i’m just afraid its starting to get worse and don’t know what to do should i give up my phone for lent or something? If I die before confession will I go to hell?!?
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Catechism of the Catholic Church
1259 For catechumens who die before their Baptism, their explicit desire to receive it, together with repentance for their sins, and charity, assures them the salvation that they were not able to receive through the sacrament.
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I’m actually a candidate I was baptized in a non denominational church.
 
I think that you should talk to your priest. If he says that you cannot receive the sacrament of Confession yet, then it’s not your fault that you are unable to confess it formally–I wouldn’t stress about that. Perhaps he’ll say you can receive that sacrament earlier than you would have otherwise…I’m not sure how that works. Even if you are unable to receive the sacrament now, he may be able to offer you good advice.

In the meantime, whether you are able to receive the sacrament or not, I think it’s a good idea to start working on combating the impurity in the ways you can. God doesn’t want you to be enslaved by sin; He wants you to be free, so that you can readily choose what is right. Given that you’re talking about giving up your phone for Lent, I’m going to speculate that this may have something to do with pornography. If so, there are some resources online from an Australian Catholic named Matt Fradd - http://theporneffect.com/. I would also imagine that there are filters you can put on your phone so that you can’t see certain things–have a friend set the password for you so that you can’t override it.
 
If you are sorry for your sins and make the acts of contrition and really do your best to avoid the occasions of sin then you chances of going to Hell are less than someone who does non of these things.
I recommend that you study the sayings of the Fathers of the Desert.
 
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I’m actually a candidate I was baptized in a non denominational church.
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A way:

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1459 When it arises from a love by which God is loved above all else, contrition is called “perfect” (contrition of charity). Such contrition remits venial sins; it also obtains forgiveness of mortal sins if it includes the firm resolution to have recourse to sacramental confession as soon as possible
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Know that you are not alone in your struggles! I myself am 20YO and I have struggled with masturbation and pornography since I was 12YO. I highly recommend watching YouTube videos of Matt Fradd as well as Jason Evert. Also check out Matt Fradd’s podcast Love People Use Things and if you are female check out his wife’s podcast Among The Lillies



God knows that you are trying and that is what matters. Put filters on your phone, disable incognito, and if you know what sites you access the material with, specifically block those sites. If you want to give up your phone then it sounds like you are open to these measures of filtering and blocking. It takes work but it’s worth it.

Also, I suggest you read the Gospel of Mark cover to cover (shortest Gospel, only like 20 pages) because you will see a merciful and loving Jesus who can heal anyone of anything. Know that Jesus can heal you as well 🙂

God Bless you on your journey, and never be afraid to ask questions about your struggles, you are not alone!
 
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I’m actually a candidate I was baptized in a non denominational church.
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Even more reason to talk to your priest. In some cases Candidates can receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation.

Be at peace, above all God is merciful. As others have said, as long as you desire the sacraments, feeling contrition, and do your best to turn from sin, you have every reason to hope for salvation.
 
Please talk with your priest about an urgent need for the sacrament of confession.

Placing you in the enclosed garden of the most sacred heart of the blessed Virgin Mary.
 
Why would God lead you this far, but condemn you before you reach the very thing He is leading you to?

You obviously are contrite and want to go to confession. Pray to God that He give you the opportunity and grace to make a good confession and He will certainly make it so. As Jesus promises:
Matt. 7:[7] Ask, and it shall be given you: seek, and you shall find: knock, and it shall be opened to you.
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He elaborates on this elsewhere:
John 16:[24]…Ask, and you shall receive; that your joy may be full.
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The condition on His promise to give what we seek is that it make our joy full, that is, it is good for our salvation (that’s what full joy is). Clearly making a good confession is good for our salvation!

Furthermore, He also desires all to be saved (see also 1: Tim 2:4):
Matt. 18:[11] For the Son of man is come to save that which was lost. [12] What think you? If a man have an hundred sheep, and one of them should go astray: doth he not leave the ninety-nine in the mountains, and go to seek that which is gone astray? [13] And if it so be that he find it: Amen I say to you, he rejoiceth more for that, than for the ninety-nine that went not astray. [14] Even so it is not the will of your Father, who is in heaven, that one of these little ones should perish.
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That’s why God grants us anything we seek if it is conducive to our salvation. In fact, if He denies what we seek it means not getting it is even better for our salvation! The old Roman Catechism sums this up when discussing this principle of prayer:
For God will either grant what is asked, and thus they will obtain their wishes; or He will not grant it, and that will be a most certain proof that what is denied the good by Him is not conducive either to their interest or their salvation, since He is more desirous of their eternal welfare than they themselves.
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