Am I going to Hell?

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I was 16 years old when I committed my first major sin. I had participated in sexual acts with a married man. At the time I felt dirty and sick, and felt like I could not say no to him; I had babysitted for him and loved his children so much and I didn’t want to ruin any chance of not being able to see them. At the same time I liked the attention I was getting from him, just not the acts that he requested.I was very close with his family until he came home drunk one night and put his hand on my leg; I grimiced and his wife saw it. She slapped him across his face and ordered me to leave. She did apologize for his actions, but now she doesn’t want me around her or her family. I do not keep in contact with him now or his children. I had went to confession and prayed for God’s forgiveness. I had felt relieve after that but now 6 years later am still worried about going to hell for it. I wish it never happened and I worry that I won’t see my loved ones in Heaven. I would like someone to give me thier opinion and tell me if I will still beable to get into heaven. Every time I think about this situation it makes me sick and I cry about it still. Please help!

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jej7985
 
You’re not going to hell for that! First of all, you made a sincere confession and were absolved. Secondly, I’m not even sure the 3 criteria for mortal sin were met in this case: grave matter, full knowledge, and full consent of the will. You were 16, this was a grown man, your employer! You stated you felt you couldn’t say no! That brings the “consent of the will” into question, in which case it would have only been a veniel sin.

Honey, you were statutorily raped, and you’re obviously still hurting over it. Please consider getting some counselling. I’m so sorry this happened to you, you’ll be in my prayers.

In Christ,

Ellen
 
As often as you reflect on your sins, remember that God is infinitely merciful.
 
I was 16 years old when I committed my first major sin. I had participated in sexual acts with a married man. At the time I felt dirty and sick, and felt like I could not say no to him; I had babysitted for him and loved his children so much and I didn’t want to ruin any chance of not being able to see them. At the same time I liked the attention I was getting from him, just not the acts that he requested.I was very close with his family until he came home drunk one night and put his hand on my leg; I grimiced and his wife saw it. She slapped him across his face and ordered me to leave. She did apologize for his actions, but now she doesn’t want me around her or her family. I do not keep in contact with him now or his children. I had went to confession and prayed for God’s forgiveness. I had felt relieve after that but now 6 years later am still worried about going to hell for it. I wish it never happened and I worry that I won’t see my loved ones in Heaven. I would like someone to give me thier opinion and tell me if I will still beable to get into heaven. Every time I think about this situation it makes me sick and I cry about it still. Please help!

Sincerely,
jej7985
You are the victim here. He is a predator. You confessed something that’s probably not even considered a mortal sin given the circumstances.

I did some disgusting sexual things when I was sixteen that bothered me for years. Looking back, I realize that I didn’t have the maturity or judgement to make better decisions. There’s no way I would never even THINK of doing these things now.

Pray for his family and let it go. Be at peace sweety!
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I was 16 years old when I committed my first major sin. I had participated in sexual acts with a married man. At the time I felt dirty and sick, and felt like I could not say no to him; I had babysitted for him and loved his children so much and I didn’t want to ruin any chance of not being able to see them. At the same time I liked the attention I was getting from him, just not the acts that he requested.I was very close with his family until he came home drunk one night and put his hand on my leg; I grimiced and his wife saw it. She slapped him across his face and ordered me to leave. She did apologize for his actions, but now she doesn’t want me around her or her family. I do not keep in contact with him now or his children. I had went to confession and prayed for God’s forgiveness. I had felt relieve after that but now 6 years later am still worried about going to hell for it. I wish it never happened and I worry that I won’t see my loved ones in Heaven. I would like someone to give me thier opinion and tell me if I will still beable to get into heaven. Every time I think about this situation it makes me sick and I cry about it still. Please help!

Sincerely,
jej7985
We are not the One Who decides who goes to heaven and who goes elsewhere. That’s God’s job. You have been to confession and received God’s forgiveness. As Jesus said to the woman caught in adultery, “Go and sin no more.” Rest assured that God loves you, and what happened years ago will not keep you from heaven.

I don’t know about where you live, but in some parts what this man did to you is considered statutory rape. At the time it made you feel sick and dirty and you didn’t feel like you could say no. Six years later(and after confession) it still makes you feel sick and cry. It might be helpful to you to speak with a Catholic (or other Christian) counselor about it. Your appreciation of his attention does not excuse a married man from forcing his children’s baby-sitter to perform sex acts on him. Please seek good counseling to help you work through this and to help you move on in your life.
 
I am so sorry that this man took advantage of you. You need to know that no matter how you feel when you reflect on those events, God has forgiven you and washed away all sin! You need not worry about this affecting your entrance into the Kingdom of Heaven…
 
I can’t offer any advice, jej, but please know that my prayers are with you that you receive full peace :hug1:
 
I was 16 years old when I committed my first major sin. I had participated in sexual acts with a married man. At the time I felt dirty and sick, and felt like I could not say no to him; I had babysitted for him and loved his children so much and I didn’t want to ruin any chance of not being able to see them. At the same time I liked the attention I was getting from him, just not the acts that he requested.I was very close with his family until he came home drunk one night and put his hand on my leg; I grimiced and his wife saw it. She slapped him across his face and ordered me to leave. She did apologize for his actions, but now she doesn’t want me around her or her family. I do not keep in contact with him now or his children. I had went to confession and prayed for God’s forgiveness. I had felt relieve after that but now 6 years later am still worried about going to hell for it. I wish it never happened and I worry that I won’t see my loved ones in Heaven. I would like someone to give me thier opinion and tell me if I will still beable to get into heaven. Every time I think about this situation it makes me sick and I cry about it still. Please help!

Sincerely,
jej7985
jej:

Let me make sure I have this straight — This PREDATOR, used the facts (1) you were his employee; (2) you loved his children; and (3) you were young and naive to take advantage of you and abuse you as his toy. If anyone in this situation is guilty of serious mortal sin here, it’s the PREDATOR! :mad:

I’m just sorry you ran into this man. Here’s what you need to know according to the Scriptures…
Bless the LORD, O my soul,
and forget not all his benefits,
who forgives all your iniquity,
who heals all your diseases,
who redeems your life from the pit,
who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy,
who satisfies you with good
so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.

The LORD is merciful and gracious,
slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love.
He will not always chide,
nor will he keep his anger forever.
He does not deal with us according to our sins,
nor repay us according to our iniquities.
For as high as the heavens are above the earth,
so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him;
As far as the east is from the west,
so far does he remove our transgressions from us.
As a father shows compassion to his children,
so the LORD shows compassion to those who fear him.
Psalm 103:2-5, 8-12 ESV

“Come now, and let us reason together,”
Says the LORD,
“Though your sins are as scarlet,
They will be as white as snow;
Though they are red like crimson,
They will be like wool.”
Isaiah 1:18 NASB

But he was wounded for our transgressions;
he was crushed for our iniquities;
upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace,
and with his stripes we are healed.
All we like sheep have gone astray;
we have turned—every one—to his own way;
and the LORD has laid on him
the iniquity of us all.
Isaiah 53:5-6 ESV

My dear children, I am writing this to you so that you will not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate who pleads our case before the Father. He is Jesus Christ, the one who is truly righteous. He himself is the perfect sacrifice that atones for our sins—and not only our sins but the sins of all the world.
1 John 2:1-2 NLT
God has forgiven whatever sin you were responsible for in this situation,. He washed you clean in the Blood of the Lamb who was slain from before the Foundation of the world (Rev. 7:9-17 & Rev. 13:8), and He has removed your sin as far as East is from West, or one end of the universe is from the other end.

Please accept this and be at peace, and let the Devil, the Accuser of the Brethren have no more power over you.

Your Brother and Servant in Christ, Michael
 
There was a very saintly nun who Jesus appeared to several times yet no one believed her. One time her confessor openly told her he did not believe her and wanted proof. He told the nun that the next time Jesus appeared to her to ask what was the last mortal sin he confessed. When Jesus appeared to her again she asked and our Blessed Lord simply replied, “I don’t remember”. Our sins are truly forgiven and remembered no more once we confess them. God’s mercy is infinite. Our sins are like a drop in the ocean compared to His mercy. Swallowed up never to be found again. God Bless!
 
I have had these same feelings before- not the circumstances but the feelings. I am going to tell you exactly what my priest told me. Please pardon the wording because my priest is a wonderful man that is very blunt with me.

Father Jack told me, How prideful are you that you think YOUR sins are so great that even the magnificent power of God can not forgive and release them? The only sin that God can not forgive is the one we withhold from him.

If you have confessed with a truly repentant heart, you are forgiven. The guilt is your own. It is Satan’s tool to keep you from basking in the glow of God’s grace. These thoughts of hell and eternal damnation are not the promptings of the Holy Spirit but Satan’s way of pushing you away from what you KNOW is truth: God has forgiven you through the awesome sacrament of Reconciliation.

Also, as some have already said, counseling may be necessary in order to deal with actual event. My prayers are with you.
 
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