Am I obliged

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A while back I perused through a Catholic Singles website and saw a profile of a man that I thought was a great match. However using what I thought was common sense I used an email address and name that wasn’t mine (I didn’t hack into another person’s account I just used my middle and Confirmation name). I did this to “get to know the person and see if their were legit”. After a few conversations I realized that this person was for real and that how I was presenting myself wouldn’t work. So I had my fake id introduce me to that person. Now we are getting fairly serious and I haven’t told them what I did initially. Am I obligated?
 
I would think so. Seems like it would be complicated to have to keep straight different names and personality types. I hope the new version of you that he seems to like is the actual you.
 
If this does progress to a serious relationship he is going to find out what your middle and confirmation names are anyway…better be truthful right from the start. 🙂
 
I understand being skeptical… you really don’t know who’s on the other side of that computer screen…

But yes, after you’re comfortable with this person you are definitely obliged to share… after all, isn’t this what you were looking for in the first place? A true relationship?

Share your skepticism… there’s nothing wrong with that.
It’s an element of your personal character (skeptical of people online) that this person should eventually know about you anyway!

Good luck! 👍
 
I think it’s too funny. In your place, I think I would have done the same thing. If he has a sense of humor, he’ll laugh and understand. Tell him. If he get’s upset … he wasn’t right for you in the first place.
 
Well, if they are truly your middle and confirmation names, they really aren’t all that fake, are they?

(Unless there is something else I am missing here).
 
well, I think the problem here isn’t the name, it’s that you had the fake you “introduce” your real you to him, right? He may find it funny, but if you don’t tell, then you will not have peace and it will bug you - you will probably feel guilty. Tell him. I agree - if he doesnt’t want to persue the relationship, he wasn’t right for you. Good luck
 
Tell him that you used the name initially as a way to protect yourself from potential hurt and pain, but once you got to know him better used it to introduce the two of you. He’ll probably think you were very clever and correct to protect yourself that way given all the horror stories we hear about predators on the net.

Better it comes from you now before he knows you well enough to figure out that your middle and confirm names just happen to match the person who introduced you two - what are the odds?
 
I’m a guy, so I’m giving you my viewpoint.

I think you were smart to use your “fake” name to find out if he was serious and to protect yourself. You never know who you are talking to online.

I think you went wrong to introduce your real self from your fake self. I would take offense at that, and question your motives if I was the guy. What is done is done, and you should let him know now before more damage is done with him finding out on his own. Be prepared for him to be upset, but if he is the guy for you, he will get over it and understand what you were trying to do.

I wouldn’t have been offended, if you used the fake name, and then said now that I know you better, my real name is xxxx.
 
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