- It would have to be the pastor who makes the decision. It can never be the individual. This is contrary to the nature of commutative justice… Here is an extremely important and often overlooked point (not by Our Lord) which proves why it can’t be up to the judgment of an “interested party”:
THE OTHER PERSON IN THE UNION HAS RIGHTS TOO.
This is at least part of why Christ accuses those who want remarriage of being hard-hearted… Nowadays, the accusation goes the other way, doesn’t it. Except sometimes, the other person is left out to dry. This must be investigated by an objective party.
My approach is here to look at the simple situations, in which for example the other first marriage spouse either does not care or would arrive at the same internal forum conclusion.
Usually, if a law is hard to implement with simple cases, one has found convincing evidence one should just forget for the moment about complicated ones.
E.g. A and B marry for true; but nonetheless it comes to civil divorce and A tries annullment and deliberately lies to tribunal, which then declares marriage void although it was and is a true marriage; B knows this.
B considers to “marry” D; may B? After all the tribunal cleared the way, its just an obstacle in B’s “internal forum”. To avoid mistakes, B postpones “marrying” and carefully goes through with an “internal forum process” with a trained, knowledgeable and compasionate pastor; unfortunately the result does not change, B still knows that the tribunal decision was factually wrong; B’s pastor agrees that B should trust the result of B’s “internal forum process” and act according to it; just stepping out of the confessional trying to cope with having to tell D that there will be no marriage due to B having to act based on prior marriage being valid, D happens to be in the Church and offers B a lovely and hopeful smile (being aware that B had to sort something out via “internal forum process” prior marrying D and hoping its now resolved), but B’s smile freezes to absolute zero in realization that due to a very devious mind designing this scenario, A happens to be with C also in the Church but of course right before the process of “marrying” C starts, and for all of us to give advice to B how a good christian should act there time is now stopped in the moment of silence when everyone waits for the priest to start speaking.
Should B try to warn C that C is about to enter an adulterous marriage without knowing? Should B remain silent and then bear D’s absolute fury how it could be that A marries based on lying and B stays silent while the lie is suddenly very relevant when it comes to D’s plans for life? What is the poor priest to do, if B speaks up about the problem? How can this not end up in scandal when B follows pastor’s advice about acting according to the result of the “internal forum process” and speaks out and the priest is left with shocking congregation either with ignoring the “internal forum result” (which was allowed because its supposedly more reliable than tribunals) or with stopping a marriage right in public although it being “ok” according to all official Church laws?
Could make a nice drama script (of course for more dramatic effect, B meets D’s eyes just in the moment of silence when it is said “If anyone knows any reason why these two should not be wed, let him speak now, or forever hold his peace.”, since for dramatic effect we would skip that detail that this is not usually asked at catholic weddings)
And the options for difficult scenarios multiply the more “marriages” and marriages we add.
- It does not work even conceptually, as it contradicts the very idea of commutative justice… One may not be his own judge and jury.
It would at least require some special rules, if two spouses arrive at opposing conclusions about their marriage or “marriage”; but that is the problem, if one borders on considering “black-white-thinking” anathema, then one never considers such questions, because all footnotes and interviews in the world will not change that if one spouse considers a marriage valid while the other considers the same “marriage” invalid, then at least one of them is wrong; it is unavoidably a “black and white issue”.
And whoever is drafting the Holy Father’s documents these days (not just AL) is either a maniacal genius pushing just the right buttons or desperately needs to go back to school. I prefer to think it is the latter.
I suspect problems might be caused from being locked in a certain way of thinking, that as i said above nearly considers black and white thinking to be anathema. That is then neither deliberate nor a lack of knowledge, but a lack of ability for different perspectives.