All correct. Did I not say “It’s worded a bit uncharitably, but the gist of it is true.”?
You did, and I agree.
But charity is of supreme importance. The attitude the quote expresses is spiritually problematic and very harmful. I honestly don’t think that can be overstated.
Most Catholics, and humans in general, are living sinful lives. A majority of Catholics who engage in sexual intercourse (even inside valid marriages) use artificial birth control. A majority of Catholics don’t go to Confession.
See, I think this goes too far. Do we actually
know that? Do we have an academically responsible, thorough survey that shows us this? Unless a married couple I know gives me reason to believe they contracept, doesn’t charity demand that I not assume bad things about them for merely statistical reasons?
And like I said, people in the two dioceses I’ve lived in definitely
do go to Confession, many of them regularly. I fully acknowledge that this may not be the case elsewhere, and that it does not seem to be the case in certain parishes I’ve frequented as well. But in others I’ve belonged to, it
is true.
Thus I don’t think I personally have enough information to assume, “Most Catholics don’t go to confession.” I haven’t looked this up, and Catholics have contradictory experiences concerning the proportion of those who do and those who don’t.
I’m not comparing myself favorably to them at all. I’ve done those things and far worse. It doesn’t change the fact that sin is sin.
Good.
“Nurturing feelings of discouragement”…in as much charity as I can muster, let me say that’s pretty emblematic of our culture of easily hurt feelings. I’m less disturbed by the possibility of hurting a few feelings than by the thought of the majority of souls falling into Hell.
Oh, I think I was unclear and was thus misunderstood; please let me clarify.
I didn’t mean the OP’s quote would nurture feelings of discouragement in the “bad Catholics” it was addressing. I meant that the kind of person who would say, “Most Catholics suck!” is nurturing discouragement
in himself.
And he’s doing it by focusing his attention on how sinful those around him are. I am positive that that is a bad thing to do to oneself spiritually. There are so many things we could and should be focused on:
- the perfect goodness and love of God, including the earthly example given to us by our Lord
- the examples of the saints who are worthy of emulation
- our own sinfulness and unworthiness
- the suffering our Lord endured to save us
- and finally - if we’re given a concrete reason in a specific situation to do so - our obligation to fraternally correct the sinful actions and behaviors of our brothers and sisters in Christ
But even that last one is a far cry from focusing on generalities that both discourage us and may not even be true: “Grr… why do most of my fellow Catholics suck? Why do they think they can receive Communion all the time and never go to Confession, and contracept whenever they want!”
I mean, think about it:
are the people who regularly contracept and are okay with it going to say such a thing? Are the people who avoid Confession because they just don’t care going to say such a thing?
No, of course not.
Only two kinds of Catholics, then, could be the kind of people who would speak the words the OP quoted:
(1) One who does
not contracept or avoid Confession habitually. Such a person, if he speaks those words, is unquestionably being self-righteous: focusing on the sins of others as if he doesn’t have any, just because he doesn’t have those particular ones. This person
is the pharisee from the parable of the Pharisee and the Publican.
OR
(2) One who is trying his or her best to follow the Church’s teachings and go to Confession regularly, but often fails. This person isn’t being like the Pharisee, but
to speak the words the OP quoted is still really spiritually unhealthy for this kind of Catholic, because it can lead to despair: “I’m trying so hard, and I don’t know if I can ever get better, because all the Catholics I know do these bad things too!” Focusing on how -
supposedly - no one is escaping from the sins that trap
me, is a surefire way to discouragement and potentially even despair. A person in this situation should be focusing on our Lord and the saints, not on the bad examples that surround them and reinforce their sense of hopelessness.
I pray all the time that I won’t be one of them…because every day of my life I’m in danger of exactly that same fate.
And I think you are wise to do so; I know that I too am in such danger.
My point here is that thinking like the quote in the OP can do nothing but lead you to discouragement and despair. General contempt for others who supposedly have certain faults we assume them to have is a far cry from healthy fraternal correction of individual brothers or sisters in Christ whom we witness sinning.
Of course the quote was verbatim. I did not include the name of the poster, because it is irrelevant. And no, it was not an atheist who wrote it. It was die-hard conservative catholic.
Oh, I believe you. I do see this attitude sometimes, so I never thought you were lying or trolling.