anger management

[ChangingHeart]

What could you advise someone to do, if he is in his late 20s, and suffers from an anger problem that is being EXTREMELY aggravated by an unrewarding job that he hates, because it makes him feel helpless, is extremely stressful, and physically dangerous. (He has already suffered an injury at this job.) Yet, if he quits, he will also be angered by his lack of a job. He is a devout Catholic and wants to be obedient to God. In his area (an anonymous town in northern California) he is finding it nearly impossible to land a new job, despite having quite advanced college degrees. He is often very depressed(but NOT clincally depressed), his job is making his depression worse, but being unemployed would make him depressed, too. He is not married (Which may be an additional cause to his depression) and is not very thrilled at the idea of having kids(due to the cause of his job stress) but is willing to, in order to be compliant with the will of God. He is seeking to do the right thing, but doesn’t know what the best course of action to take in his life is. What should he do? (Please don’t answer by saying, “pray about it.”) Thank You

 

[Cristiano]

He should talk to a priest and ask the reference for a qualified psychotherapist/analysts. I do not think that beyond that this is the proper forum for more practical suggestions.

 

[ChangingHeart]

He should talk to a priest and ask the reference for a qualified psychotherapist/analysts. I do not think that beyond that this is the proper forum for more practical suggestions.

What if his insurance company will only pay for certain psychotherapists, and NONE of them are devout Catholics, and he doesn’t want non-Catholic advice?

 

[JoanOfArc]

Move! Living in California is enough to make anyone depressed!

Then line up counseling in the new place to learn healthier responses to life’s problems. That would be a good idea even if you didn’t move. :yup:

Using your hands to help someone else (Habitat for Humanity, for instance) could also help you to see how important you are to others.

 

[ChangingHeart]

Move! Living in California is enough to make anyone depressed!

Then line up counseling in the new place to learn healthier responses to life’s problems. That would be a good idea even if you didn’t move. :yup:

Using your hands to help someone else (Habitat for Humanity, for instance) could also help you to see how important you are to others.

He has considered moving, quite frequently, but where to has always been the problem. His family and most of his friends live relatively near to him. He doesn’t want to just up and make an uncalculated move to a random location.

 

[ribozyme]

Sounds like he is rather hopeless…

This situation seems conducive to alcohol and drug abuse to escape their miserable reality. Also, suicide seems rather possible.

I have no advice for this situation of despiration.

 

[Cristiano]

What if his insurance company will only pay for certain psychotherapists, and NONE of them are devout Catholics, and he doesn’t want non-Catholic advice?

I do not think that a devout catholic therapist is necessary. The therapist does not have to be a moral compass, he/she has only to know that the client is a devout catholic. A true professional will know how to help the person while respecting his religious belief.

 

[ChangingHeart]

Sounds like he is rather hopeless…

This situation seems conducive to alcohol and drug abuse to escape their miserable reality. Also, suicide seems rather possible.

I have no advice for this situation of despiration.

Can we please be serious, here.

 

[ChangingHeart]

Sounds like he is rather hopeless…

This situation seems conducive to alcohol and drug abuse to escape their miserable reality. Also, suicide seems rather possible.

I have no advice for this situation of despiration.

Can we please be serious, here.

 

[ChangingHeart]

I do not think that a devout catholic therapist is necessary. The therapist does not have to be a moral compass, he/she has only to know that the client is a devout catholic. A true professional will know how to help the person while respecting his religious belief.

I agree that some probably could, but advice is likely to be taken more seriously, if the person can back it up with Scripture or other Church documents.

 

[ribozyme]

Can we please be serious, here.

I am being serious, but it sounds like that situation would drive me into suicide, but I guess that is merely my own subjective perspective. I sincerely do not want to live a life where I have to spend about 1/4 of my own time working on a job that does not significantly contribute to society and only maximizes the profits of the company.

I too would wonder what our purpose in life is if I was in that quagmire, although I wouldn’t get angry. SSRIs do not help us answer that question in a satisfactory manner. Personally, I think our purpose in life is to reduce human suffering (and that of other animals).

 

[NewUlm1976_2000]

He should talk to a priest and ask the reference for a qualified psychotherapist/analysts. I do not think that beyond that this is the proper forum for more practical suggestions.

I would agree. Psychotherapists do not have to be Catholic in this case. Look for ones covered by his insurance, and keep the option open that he may need to shift therapists for one he can connect to which would provide the most help as it varies by people’s personality and interactions.

 

[homewardbound]

I would agree. Psychotherapists do not have to be Catholic in this case. Look for ones covered by his insurance, and keep the option open that he may need to shift therapists for one he can connect to which would provide the most help as it varies by people’s personality and interactions.

I would agree. I am in therapy and my therapist is respectful of my faith and gives good insight into that part of my life as well as others.

If you feel you need further spiritual guidance then definitely go to a priest as well. Nothing wrong with both at the same time.

Most areas have sliding fees and are willing to work with clients on payment and do not expect them to pay when they cannot afford it. Usually, if insurance doesn’t cover it they will base your fee on your income.

I will pray for you and may God guide and bless you through this hard time in your life.

 

[puzzleannie]

What could you advise someone to do, if he is in his late 20s, and suffers from an anger problem that is being EXTREMELY aggravated by an unrewarding job that he hates, because it makes him feel helpless, is extremely stressful, and physically dangerous. (He has already suffered an injury at this job.) Yet, if he quits, he will also be angered by his lack of a job. u

I would advise him to get professional help while he still has a job with insurance, and start looking for a better job, and taking necessary steps to qualify for a better job. The prayer part can be getting down on his knees and thanking God that he is able to work. Anger has a cause, and until this person discovers, and acknowledges–with professional or pastoral guidance if necessary–the root of his anger and deals with it, he will have problems with every job, and with every relationship.

 

[puzzleannie]

What if his insurance company will only pay for certain psychotherapists, and NONE of them are devout Catholics, and he doesn’t want non-Catholic advice?

he would be making excuses to avoid therapy, IMO. there is no reason a psychotherapist has to be Catholic, if he needs a Catholic viewpoint he can get that from his priest, but therapy can be done by any qualified professional.