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How do you deal with anger towards God for lack of intervention or lack of help. When you are so frustrated as prayer after prayer after prayer NOTHING!!! I am tired of being in the desert. I am calling God on Mark 11;23 No matter how much faith i have or ask for I can’t move this mountain. How do you deal with it? I get so angry at my situation and the lack of help from God and I see other people that are athiests get everything. I just don’t get it. I am sure this has been asked many times… but this is getting past old, getting ancient. I need God now and I need a intervention as I am getting more and more frustrated.
 
I realized that it’s God’s will and thank Him for it because I am a sinner and deserve nothing from Him. I accept my tribulations as an opportunity to grow by offering up my suffering and persevering.
 
The mountain that must be moved, is the anger must be extracted from you. The more you react with anger when things don’t go right, the more you’re blocking God from being able to work anything in your own heart. And that’s where the true miracles are going to happen. Not in God lining up things to go perfectly like a stage show. However when you do get advanced spiritually, you may experience “meaningful coincidences” and then you will have a keen sense that God is on your side.

Seek first the things of the kingdom and everything else will be given to you as well.
 
How do you deal with anger towards God for lack of intervention or lack of help. When you are so frustrated as prayer after prayer after prayer NOTHING!!! I am tired of being in the desert. I am calling God on Mark 11;23 No matter how much faith i have or ask for I can’t move this mountain. How do you deal with it? I get so angry at my situation and the lack of help from God and I see other people that are athiests get everything. I just don’t get it. I am sure this has been asked many times… but this is getting past old, getting ancient. I need God now and I need a intervention as I am getting more and more frustrated.
I think many of us have felt this way at one time or another. I know I have. However, this is where trust in God comes in. When a person is not getting his prayers answered in the way that he/she wants, then anger, not trust seeps in. If you are going to let go and trust God, then you are going to have to accept that maybe his answer sometimes is no, or not just yet. You have to trust that if it is in His will to give you what you want or need and it is good for you, He will, but in His time not yours. He knows exactly what you need and want. If what you ask for is within His Will, you will received it in His time. When you do not receive what you want maybe you should reflect on trusting Him instead of being angry with him. He gives us what we need, not what we want.
 
I hope I can help you. I’ve been angry, too. In a nutshell, I have neither “enough” money nor “good” health, and my prayers for either or both have not been answered with a miracle. Sometimes I wonder if He really cares about me. (At which point, I go confess the sin of despair, and receive the Eucharist. And that makes me believe that He loves me!)

In a nutshell, what I have learned is:
  1. Those are selfish prayers. “God, give me what I want!!!” Selfishness is one of the things we are supposed to give up.
Not that it’s easy. We’re born selfish. As a humorist wrote somewhere, “Anyone who says ‘as easy as taking candy from a baby’ has never tried to take candy from a baby.”
  1. Jesus suffered on the Cross, carrying all of our sins individually, and suffering all of our pains. In other words, He knows exactly where I am aching this morning, and how it feels. But this gives me a kind of partnership with Jesus; knowing He knows my pains and problems, I can give them to Him. Because He suffered for the world, my pain, given to Him, can help save the world.
The way I currently think of it is that, on my more cheerful days, my pain is Jesus, carrying his Cross, telling me, “Come here, Ruthie, put your shoulder under here and let’s go!” And on my days of deep depression, He is saying, “Come here, Ruthie, and shelter in the shadow of My Cross.”
  1. The more often I go to Mass, the better I feel, at least spiritually.
I put these thoughts together from several things said by several different people. If there is wisdom here, it comes from them and from God, not from me.
 
I’m sorry for the difficulties you face. Please know I keep you in my prayers. :signofcross:
I realized that it’s God’s will and thank Him for it because I am a sinner and deserve nothing from Him. I accept my tribulations as an opportunity to grow by offering up my suffering and persevering.
In my opinion, this is the ideal approach. 👍

In reality, however, it can be difficult to do this on an ongoing basis. After years of suffering, I knew I needed help or I was going to fall into the pit. And that’s when the priest who would become my spiritual director suddenly appeared. He helped me to understand the Lord knows what we need, that He knows us better than we know ourselves. God responds to us in His time and manner, not in ours. Perhaps He has indeed answered you, but you just don’t realize it. That’s what happened to me.

Don’t get me wrong: I am still suffering. Whenever I begin to envy those who despite their rejection of God seem to have fantastic lives, I recall the words of the Blessed Virgin to St. Bernadette: “I do not promise you happiness in this world, but in the next.” The saint’s response to suffering was, “The more I am crucified, the more I rejoice.”

Note that not everyone will end up near the edge of the pit, and not everyone who does needs an SD to pull them away from that edge. I did, but that is me. YMMV. If nothing else has helped so far, however, it might be an avenue worth exploring.

God bless. :console:
 
Just latley everything I undertake is an uphill battle. I am tired and wore out and need rejuvination (sp?) I am in the desert and the suffering is too much. I need a break. Just today I am working on something. Every turn it is a fight. Wrong sized bolt or can’t find a tool that i just put down. Financial woes the mortgage company keeps calling ten times a day and then you go aol.com just as the phone finishes ringing and the message from Wells Fargo as I hear the message I see "youngest billionaire 30 years old here I am 42 and just want my darn house paid off. then to add insult to injury my Mother has breast cancer my 70 year old Father has to still work and he can’t even afford a pair of shoes!!!YES I AM GETTING TO THE END OF MY ROPE. I am home taking are of my Mother as naturally I am the only child. I have to take a leave of abscense from my pastoral assignment, Naturally I have formation issues after just 5 weeks there. Don’t matter that the parish likes me and wants me back… no it is I ate a hamburger too fast. I mean give me a break!!! I am fighting every step of the way and I feel God is the kid with the magnafying glass and I am the ant. I just need something good to happen and soon. as I am weary and wore out and don’t know how much more I can take to be honest. Then I find out Mom needs radiation in june for 35 days everyday, I have to be back by June 1st. I may just postpone the discernment when Mom is really over this. It is not too bad the cancer didn’t spread and it is breast cancer and so prognosis is very good but still!! That is just the beginning of it. I just want to have fun without fighting for it. Just for a couple of years. Please pray for me that something great happens to give me sustanance. (sp?)
 
to clear up one thing, The only joy I am having is taking my Mother to her treatments as it gives her the comfort she needs. That is the slilver lining. I am not complaining about my Mother’s treatments. I am complaining that she has it in the firstplace. but anyway just wore out.
 
How do you deal with anger towards God for lack of intervention or lack of help. When you are so frustrated as prayer after prayer after prayer NOTHING!!! I am tired of being in the desert. I am calling God on Mark 11;23 No matter how much faith i have or ask for I can’t move this mountain. How do you deal with it? I get so angry at my situation and the lack of help from God and I see other people that are athiests get everything. I just don’t get it. I am sure this has been asked many times… but this is getting past old, getting ancient. I need God now and I need a intervention as I am getting more and more frustrated.
Someone once said, “anger is the poison you drink to kill someone else”.

Kindness and understanding means peace. Peace in yourself and goodness to others which comes back to you.

Just a thought.
 
This prayer helps me.

Prayer by St. Bernadette in Times of Affliction

O my God, I beg You, by Your loneliness, not that You may spare me affliction, but that You may not abandon me in it. When I encounter affliction, teach me to see You in it as my sole Comforter. Let affliction strengthen my faith, fortify my hope, and purify my love. Grant me the grace to see Your Hand in my affliction, and to desire no other comforter but You. Amen.
 
Just latley everything I undertake is an uphill battle. I am tired and wore out and need rejuvination (sp?) I am in the desert and the suffering is too much. I need a break. Just today I am working on something. Every turn it is a fight. Wrong sized bolt or can’t find a tool that i just put down. Financial woes the mortgage company keeps calling ten times a day and then you go aol.com just as the phone finishes ringing and the message from Wells Fargo as I hear the message I see "youngest billionaire 30 years old here I am 42 and just want my darn house paid off. then to add insult to injury my Mother has breast cancer my 70 year old Father has to still work and he can’t even afford a pair of shoes!!!YES I AM GETTING TO THE END OF MY ROPE. I am home taking are of my Mother as naturally I am the only child. I have to take a leave of abscense from my pastoral assignment, Naturally I have formation issues after just 5 weeks there. Don’t matter that the parish likes me and wants me back… no it is I ate a hamburger too fast. I mean give me a break!!! I am fighting every step of the way and I feel God is the kid with the magnafying glass and I am the ant. I just need something good to happen and soon. as I am weary and wore out and don’t know how much more I can take to be honest. Then I find out Mom needs radiation in june for 35 days everyday, I have to be back by June 1st. I may just postpone the discernment when Mom is really over this. It is not too bad the cancer didn’t spread and it is breast cancer and so prognosis is very good but still!! That is just the beginning of it. I just want to have fun without fighting for it. Just for a couple of years. Please pray for me that something great happens to give me sustanance. (sp?)
The most difficult battles are the ones we do not choose, and from which we cannot walk away. But it is from just such battles that we learn the measure of our courage, and the sincerity of our faith. All men may proclaim it, but what good is a faith that has never been tested. And it’s not about proving your faith to God, it’s about proving it to yourself. There is a strength that comes from persevering through that which seems unjust. It is more than a faith in God, it is a faith in one’s self, which no scripture can teach, and no sacrament can give. It is with just such a faith, that all things are possible. The true gifts of God are not riches and gold, they are compassion, and empathy, and humility, and understanding. These are things which cannot be given, they must be gained through the iniquities and injustice of life. We are better, because we have struggled. We are precious in His eyes, because we have overcome.

On that day, when you at last stand before Him, it is these days of which He will proclaim, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant”.
 
Remember, I deserve hell. And anything that occurs in this life is better than hell. St John Chrysostom said, “Glory be to God for all things.” Those were his final words before he died while being led into exile. 🙂
 
Prayer for all who carry their Cross

O my God, I thank you for this cross you have allowed me to carry. Please give me the strength and faith to persevere so that I may bring glory to your name while withstanding the burden of its weight. Thank you for offering me a share in your suffering. I know that you have always been, are now, and every will be, at my side every step of the way. Thank you also for every “Simon” that you have sent to help me bear this cross. I have prayed so often that this thorn in my flesh would be removed, but I trust that your grace is sufficient. Change my heart’s troubled cry of --“How long, O Lord”, into words of trust: “However long, O Lord”. May I seek only to do your will and to unite my sufferings with your passion. Help me to not get lost in my own self concerns, but may I find in these trials a way to greater virtue, a call to prayer and a path to trust in you alone. Permit me not to waste my pain, but to make of these struggles a sacrificial offering for others. Lord, when I am weary and I fall, exhausted under the weight of this cross, please give me the courage to press on as you did. Lord Jesus, I embrace with love my cross, as a share in your own. By your grace, may I carry it all the way to the vision of your glory. I abandon myself totally to your will. Christ Jesus, I trust in you. Amen
 
Just latley everything I undertake is an uphill battle. I am tired and wore out and need rejuvination (sp?) I am in the desert and the suffering is too much. I need a break. Just today I am working on something. Every turn it is a fight. Wrong sized bolt or can’t find a tool that i just put down. Financial woes the mortgage company keeps calling ten times a day and then you go aol.com just as the phone finishes ringing and the message from Wells Fargo as I hear the message I see "youngest billionaire 30 years old here I am 42 and just want my darn house paid off. then to add insult to injury my Mother has breast cancer my 70 year old Father has to still work and he can’t even afford a pair of shoes!!!YES I AM GETTING TO THE END OF MY ROPE. I am home taking are of my Mother as naturally I am the only child. I have to take a leave of abscense from my pastoral assignment, Naturally I have formation issues after just 5 weeks there. Don’t matter that the parish likes me and wants me back… no it is I ate a hamburger too fast. I mean give me a break!!! I am fighting every step of the way and I feel God is the kid with the magnafying glass and I am the ant. I just need something good to happen and soon. as I am weary and wore out and don’t know how much more I can take to be honest. Then I find out Mom needs radiation in june for 35 days everyday, I have to be back by June 1st. I may just postpone the discernment when Mom is really over this. It is not too bad the cancer didn’t spread and it is breast cancer and so prognosis is very good but still!! That is just the beginning of it. I just want to have fun without fighting for it. Just for a couple of years. Please pray for me that something great happens to give me sustanance. (sp?)
I’m hesitant to reply to this, but I feel compelled, so here goes:

God isn’t ‘doing’ any of this. God doesn’t hold your mortgage, didn’t give your mom cancer and isn’t keeping shoes away from your father. God isn’t hiding your tools or handing you a bolt that isn’t the right size.

Prayer is not going to fix any of these problems.
Prayer can bring you peace, calm your mind and help you let go of your anger.

God gave you life.
All the things that are driving you towards despair are consequences of life on this planet. You don’t have much control about what happens around you. The only things you can control are your own actions and your own attitudes. Thank God for this life. Thank God you have parents that loved and nurtured you as you grew up. Instead of banging your head against a brick wall, take a look at what other people have done in similar situations and see how their actions affected their situation. You are not alone. From the most wealthy king to the lowest pauper, we all struggle through life one way or another. Be thankful you have another day to do something different to change the direction of your life.

Peace and prosperity to you and your family.
 
God isn’t ‘doing’ any of this. God doesn’t hold your mortgage, didn’t give your mom cancer and isn’t keeping shoes away from your father. God isn’t hiding your tools or handing you a bolt that isn’t the right size. QOUTE

I agree with this statement and your post. I just feel that God allowed it to happen just as when a child is drowning in the raging river and the Father is watching. the kid jumped into the river despite the warnings from the parents. so the father goes “too bad you should have listened, now live with your decisions.” My free will is begging God to get involved.
 
My free will is begging God to get involved.
How do you know that God isn’t getting involved - you are here, looking for guidance. Mine might not be the answer you are looking for, but someone else might have it. I had a friend that played the lottery every week and decided that when she lost, it was a ‘sign from God’ that He didn’t care. God didn’t tell her to waste a dollar every week on powerball.
 
How do you know that God isn’t getting involved - you are here, looking for guidance. Mine might not be the answer you are looking for, but someone else might have it. I had a friend that played the lottery every week and decided that when she lost, it was a ‘sign from God’ that He didn’t care. God didn’t tell her to waste a dollar every week on powerball.
I understand what you are saying, I just don’t feel God is here. I have suffered as much as I humanly can and I don’t know what to do at this time. I hope God helps soon I mean soon. I am looking for all answers I am looking for God to come and help. I have gone as far as Ican go the ball is in God’s court.
 
Do not fret… or be envious of those (who succeed) who do wrong… [but] ‘Trust’ in the LORD, and ‘do good’… ‘Delight’ yourself ‘in the LORD’ and he will give you the desires of your heart. ‘Commit’ your way to the LORD… Psalms 37:1 - 5 [1]

This is what I go by that and Mark 11:23. We have no qualms beleiving leterally John 6 “The Bread of Life.” but when it comes to Mark 11:23 I hear all kinds of things like “well, Jesus wasn’t really, talking about a mountain, it is figurative” I beg to differ, Jesus himself started the passage with “Amen I say to you” I think that is indicative of a literal translation as John 6 “I am the Bread of Life.” I beleive that fervently. I used to beleive in Mark 11:23 fervently I keep trying to. My heart’s desire and my wishes are not immoral nor selfish I want my hearts desire part of it is being holy and being holy in living my hearts desire. I am not looking to build a gentlimen’s club or knock off abank or anythign that is not fitting to God’s will, My hearts desire is legal and fits moral and would be easily inaccordance (sp?) to his will. I really appreicate any answers I get and read them all and take them in. I like this forum as no one is answering to be sweet. I like the honesty I get here. and thanks so much and God bless please post your true thoughts as you all have.
 
I understand what you are saying, I just don’t feel God is here. I have suffered as much as I humanly can and I don’t know what to do at this time. I hope God helps soon I mean soon. I am looking for all answers I am looking for God to come and help. I have gone as far as Ican go the ball is in God’s court.
I promise you, if you have all of your limbs and are able to wiggle your toes, taste ice cream and be lucky enough to have secured a mortgage, you have not suffered as much as humanly possible. To say that ‘that the ball is in God’s court’ suggests that you are playing tennis - or maybe ping pong. You have ‘hit the ball’ to the best of your ability, and now it’s God’s turn to hit it back to you.

I tend to view things a little different: God is like an art teacher, the planet earth is his classroom and we are his students. He has given each of us a blank sheet of paper and says, ‘Here you go - see what you can do with this.’ The problem many of us face is that God’s classroom isn’t fair. Some people have access to every kind of paint, glitter, oils, pastels, chalk and the fanciest art tools ever thought of, while others only have access to a single box of Crayolas - just the basic 8 pack, and some of them are broken and there is no sharpener. Some kids in the class are really nice - they don’t have to, but they are willing to teach what they know. One corner is learning about origami, another is discussing color theory, another corner is going crazy with scissors and glue and putting all their paper together to form a 3D paper sculpture of St Peter’s Basilica.

There is also another thing about God’s classroom. Some kids just have more talent. How is that fair? How are we supposed to compete when Leonardo da Vinci is sitting all alone at his desk with a pencil in each hand and sketching out something we could only dream of after a 3 day vacation in New Orleans during Mardi Gras.

So you’re mad at God - he won’t help you, when it is quite obvious he is playing favorites. “How can I compete when I don’t have access to all the art supplies and the kids folding origami won’t let me join them?”

Who said this was a competition?
 
I promise you, if you have all of your limbs and are able to wiggle your toes, taste ice cream and be lucky enough to have secured a mortgage, you have not suffered as much as humanly possible. To say that ‘that the ball is in God’s court’ suggests that you are playing tennis - or maybe ping pong. You have ‘hit the ball’ to the best of your ability, and now it’s God’s turn to hit it back to you.

I tend to view things a little different: God is like an art teacher, the planet earth is his classroom and we are his students. He has given each of us a blank sheet of paper and says, ‘Here you go - see what you can do with this.’ The problem many of us face is that God’s classroom isn’t fair. Some people have access to every kind of paint, glitter, oils, pastels, chalk and the fanciest art tools ever thought of, while others only have access to a single box of Crayolas - just the basic 8 pack, and some of them are broken and there is no sharpener. Some kids in the class are really nice - they don’t have to, but they are willing to teach what they know. One corner is learning about origami, another is discussing color theory, another corner is going crazy with scissors and glue and putting all their paper together to form a 3D paper sculpture of St Peter’s Basilica.

There is also another thing about God’s classroom. Some kids just have more talent. How is that fair? How are we supposed to compete when Leonardo da Vinci is sitting all alone at his desk with a pencil in each hand and sketching out something we could only dream of after a 3 day vacation in New Orleans during Mardi Gras.

So you’re mad at God - he won’t help you, when it is quite obvious he is playing favorites. “How can I compete when I don’t have access to all the art supplies and the kids folding origami won’t let me join them?”

Who said this was a competition?
I don’t know. it is not that it’s a competition, rather calling God on his promise in Mark 11:23 and I am expecting him to honor his promise. I am not lukewarm with God I am very HOT or cold but never lukewam, and I expect my hearts desire as he promised in mark 11;23 We EXPECT the Eucharist is valid when we receive. We don’t say according to God’s will,no we expect that the bread and wine be confected into the body and blood of Christ according to John 6, well he starts out Mark 11:23 the same way.“Amen I say to you.” I will get my hearts desire and I will not take no for an answer NO!!! I am expecting it. just in the desert. Also promised in Psalms 37:1 - 5. I understand your sentiment and that is how most people are. I ask God to forgive me of my anger and my resentments,
 
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