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I need help with anger! Are there any good Catholic readings on how to better manage ones anger? I am so mad at myself right now I just got so angry at the grocery store, totally out of the blue because the bagger asked me to come to a line that was going to open. I left my line put all my groceries on the belt so I lost my place in line and then was told “sorry I don’t know where the checker is”. So I got totally ticked off, threw all my groceries in the cart and just left the store 😦 Not until I was out the door to I think about how irrational that was 😦 I feel so bad for the checker. I have no idea where this anger comes from it pops up out of the blue… I know it is sinful and I need Gods wisdom and guidance.
I have just come back to the church recently and have made amazing changes in working on different sinful behavior… I know it is because of prayers and asking for Gods help.

Anyway this is sort of a question post of “what literature might be out there”, suggestions for how to approach this sin and unfortunately a bit of spilling my guts b/c I feel so bad at the moment for how I reacted to the bagger.
 
Pray the Rosary & meditate on the Life of Jesus Christ especially His Passion, Crucification, Death & Resurrection to seek understanding of what Christ accomplished for us.
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   We all have bad days; so forgive yourself after you ask Christ to forgive you.

  Though there may be instances that warrant just anger,  we have to learn to forgive so that we may be forgiven.   We have to root out unjust anger responses because they just intensify  stress in our lives.

    Can you imagine the Peace of  Heaven and Christ is present caring for you along with all of Heaven?  Don't try to visualize images.  Focus on Christ and that He will provide.

   St. John writes of  being in the Kingdom & Patience of Jesus Christ in the first few paragraphs of the Book of Revelation.   What an incredible place to be!

   This is the place we must strive to enter always.  But the world with it's worries along with our panicked miss doings tugs us away from the Kingdom & Patience of Christ by the way of sin. 

   This helps me because I have a problem with anger.
The Peace of Jesus Christ Be with You & All of Us too!,
BP
 
Thank you BP,

I will say the rosary!! I feel so bad but my problem has never been failing to see my wrongs … I dwell too much on my failings… Your advice is good … I need to do something ie say the rosary, before being able to forgive myself. I not only asked to be forgiven but for help in not letting me act in anger again. I think it will not be an easy sin for me to let go off. If I succeed it will definitely be Gods doing!! Please pray for me
 
Just ask God to take away your angry and replace it with his peace.
 
Anger is a “feeling” that we can control up to a point. Anger is also a sin, but that is not that easy at all.

You see, many times God was angry, for good reasons, in fact, most of The O.T deals more or less with Gods anger. So anger is not always a sin. The Church made anger to a [mortal] sin for good reasons, namely to prevent people for harm each other. We should always do what we can to not get angry, of course, we don’t want to sin, but there is another aspect to it. What do we get angry at? The person who do something we don’t like, or say, or at the “deed” of anger. I give you a example: your kid throw a stone and brake a window (I have done that.) **What make you angry? **What did happen or who made it happen? I would say that 99 % will answer “what did happen”. And is that anger a sin? Sort of, but not all the way. However, avoid anger, anger tear down what love build, and since God is love, anger become a sin, in a way we don’t always understand.
 
I have recently discovered a Novena to Our Lady Untier of Knots. Look it up. We ask for her help with the untying of the knots that are our sins.

I have the same problem as you. It is truly awful. Keep up the good fight 👍
 
Will pray for you. When we react, instead of act, we do what we wish we would not. Become closer to the suffering Jesus and we can accept much and become thankful when we feel we have been wronged. Everyone makes mistakes as did the person who misdirected you, not an intentional act aimed at you.
 
Anger, as well as other anxiety emotions, come from an inordinate attachment to one of three processes, or “energy centers” as Thomas Keating calls them, that fuel our ego which is essentially our “false self.”

1.) power/control
2.) affection/esteem
3.) security/comfort.

My guess is that #3 was not really coming into play. Your security was not threatened.

But your dignity (perverted into esteem) was challenged, because you were shown to be right in the first place. You followed instructions against your own wishes and got burned. So now you’re the one who looks stupid, and anybody can see, “hey check out that guy he put his groceries where there was no cashier – bwahahaha!” Now they may not be thinking that, but I might possibly be thinking that they would be thinking that. I know I would be thinking that if I were they. :rolleyes:

That also challenged your power and control. You submitted to their authority and they were wrong. You should have “stuck your ground,” but instead you lost control and look who got burned. You.

One way to do it is to consider replacing rage with amusement. Look at yourself with items on a non-working belt as if it were a joke scene in a comedy movie.

Also have you ever seen the movie Anger Management with Adam Sandler and Jack Nicholson? If you like comedy, I recommend it. Start looking at things of anger as things of amusement, or at least peculiarities of how we all behave as interesting. What if you had seen an ant build a big tower of something only to have it kicked over? And then the ant dutifully started to rebuild?

Alan
 
Pray often for meekness. And whenever you begin to feel angry at someone immediately begin to pray for the person who is upsetting you … or offer up your painful suffering for the conversion of souls.
 
When a dog is running after someone, one of the ways to stop the dog is to clap and shout so that his attention is broken. When he stops and looks at the noise, he forgets what it was doing.

You might try this same trick on yourself, by simply using your imagination and seeing a big streak of red or yellow and then looking at the color. When done, your anger will be quieted.
It breaks your attention.

One more thing is to say the prayer to Jesus, “Jesus meek and humble of heart make my heart like unto thine”, while looking into the face of Jesus using your imagination.

Just some hints.​

“If God is on our side, what can we be denied?” (hymn)
 
I can understand that one silly thing can make you jump off your trolly…
similar thing happened to myself months ago…
4 checkouts in the under 12 item area… one checkout operating on the left side…
the line of people standing front of the unoccupied checkout on the right hand side…
so I just stood in front of the checkout on the left and this lady became cranky because I didn’t get in line… I said, Well why you standing way over there when the checkout is way over here… we had words… and thought you dumb blaa blaa blaa… so I walked off…
well… later you think about how dumb the whole situation was…
no clear winner, no clear loser … just stupid humanity… no wonder we are always at war !
just talk to God about the silly situation and ask him to show you a better way…
he suggested I have a Coffee… Thank you jesus for showing me the way.
the coffee way ! lol
 
Perhaps it was the last bit of frustration that broke the camel’s back. I’ve found that my anger manifests the most when I’ve been remiss in my time with God and prayer. I had a freakout in a grocery store once. It’s not fun. I would handle the situation completely differently now, however. All you can do is try to recognize what made you so angry/frustrated and try to avoid feeling those feelings while standing in line at the grocery store. 🙂
 
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