Hi Scott,
I can appreciate that.
If you don’t agree with it, don’t even try. I am sure the Holy Spirit will lead you where you need to be, and at least I hope that you will find peace in your heart.
Some of the things I tell you are just my way of (hopefully) clearing up misconceptions.
You will notice that I have been going to Catholic sources as much as possible, and I even referred you to a list of eastern Catholic parishes, just for a look-see. Of course in an EC parish, you can feel perfectly comfortable as an Augustinian (many do), but you’ll have to put up with the icons.

Personally, I have never been a big iconodule, and normally pray without them. Many times I pray standing in front of a white wall, praying sometimes even without words … straight from the heart.
It’s ok - it’s a way.
But actually we have to understand the full concept. We are all icons of Christ - all of us. When the priest or deacon processes around the interior of the temple he censes the icons and us. The icons on display are representative of the saints whom we believe are really present with us in the one cosmic divine liturgy. They are really here with us, worshiping with us, joyfully praying with us. By censing the icons we are censing them - then the deacon turns around again and censes us again, and we bow and cross ourselves.
I agree that our divisions in America are troubling (I would call it disarray, not divisions, because we are all believing the same things and our real differences are minor. We know the ecclesiology is not canonical and that is what we are working on).
But we are in fact troubled by them, and we recognize the problem. We are trying to correct it, and we have been making great progress (in church time - very slow for us impatient types in real time

).
I have wonder about your statement of cohesion among RC, particularly after reading CAF for 6 years.

I won’t argue with you there. In north America the RC is more accessable.
In Russia and eastern Europe the OC is more accessable
In China both are mostly inaccessable.
You should be true to yourself first.
When I left the Catholic church I was already over 50 and discerning a call to the diaconate. Coming from a one-time traditionalist background I don’t believe in cafeteria Catholicism (or cafeteria anything) and I am not a relativist. But deep in my heart I came to know that I did not believe some of what the church was teaching. I tried to make myself believe it, for years. Ultimately I couldn’t confess it because I was not sorry that I didn’t believe it and I knew I wasn’t going to change my mind.
I knew I could never accept ordination in that state, and I stopped receiving communion, because I did not believe everything that the church was teaching. Receiving communion in that state of mind made me feel like a hypocrite.
I could not be Orthodox in my heart and mind and yet pretend to be in communion with Rome. So I left.
It was a very sad and wrenching decision, I hated it.
But now I worship with people and in a church that I can say deep in my heart I believe is true. I still miss my old parish and my old priest (whom I still consider a friend), the man who “turned the lights on” for me initially, but I only go back to say hello now and then, and I never present myself for communion.
There is more to church than incense.