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Hello all!
This is my first post and it’s going to be quite lengthy, but the matter at hand is quite confounding!
Where to start?
Ok, my husband and I are currently going through RCIA (we are getting with another RCIA group, as we recently had to move from a different state and stop RCIA right before Easter). Now, he was previously married before, to a woman, when both were unbaptized believers. He then divorced her, met me, we were married in a civil union, and then three years later became baptized in a community church. Shortly after we became interested in Catholicism and since 2013 have been actively seeking entering the church (it’s taken so long because we have had to move a LOT but are finally settled and bought a home). We have two children, a four year old and 8 month old.
So, right now my husband is getting his divorce decree copy and then will be meeting with a priest to discuss an annulment. We were going through the annulment process with someone before in the other state but that fell through because we had to move, etc. Yet, when we were going through that process, we were told that my husband has what is called a Pauline Privilege case.
Here is my main question… until the annulment is done, and the church says, ‘Yes. Your marriage was never valid’ to my husband, is it wise to live ‘as brother and sister’ (ie: no marriage act)? That being said, should we then wait until convalidation of our marriage (after this coming Easter) to be physical? Or am I overthinking things?
Thank you so much for your help!
TL;DR
My husband was previously married. At the time he was unbaptized and married an unbaptized woman, they were both atheists. Then he divorced her and married me. When my husband and I were both married we were unbaptized and nonbelievers. We then later became Christian and were baptized in a Protestant church. We then later decided through much research to become Catholic. Now we are getting situated with an RCIA group and my husband is working on an annulment. He has been told that he has what is called a ‘Pauline Privilege’ case. Is it wise for us to live ‘as brother and sister’ until his annulment is final? Beyond that, we are wanting to have a convalidation ceremony after we are entered in the church. Should we live as brother and sister before that as to be able to take Eucharist? Thank you.
I just want to do the right thing.
This is my first post and it’s going to be quite lengthy, but the matter at hand is quite confounding!
Where to start?
Ok, my husband and I are currently going through RCIA (we are getting with another RCIA group, as we recently had to move from a different state and stop RCIA right before Easter). Now, he was previously married before, to a woman, when both were unbaptized believers. He then divorced her, met me, we were married in a civil union, and then three years later became baptized in a community church. Shortly after we became interested in Catholicism and since 2013 have been actively seeking entering the church (it’s taken so long because we have had to move a LOT but are finally settled and bought a home). We have two children, a four year old and 8 month old.
So, right now my husband is getting his divorce decree copy and then will be meeting with a priest to discuss an annulment. We were going through the annulment process with someone before in the other state but that fell through because we had to move, etc. Yet, when we were going through that process, we were told that my husband has what is called a Pauline Privilege case.
Here is my main question… until the annulment is done, and the church says, ‘Yes. Your marriage was never valid’ to my husband, is it wise to live ‘as brother and sister’ (ie: no marriage act)? That being said, should we then wait until convalidation of our marriage (after this coming Easter) to be physical? Or am I overthinking things?
Thank you so much for your help!
TL;DR
My husband was previously married. At the time he was unbaptized and married an unbaptized woman, they were both atheists. Then he divorced her and married me. When my husband and I were both married we were unbaptized and nonbelievers. We then later became Christian and were baptized in a Protestant church. We then later decided through much research to become Catholic. Now we are getting situated with an RCIA group and my husband is working on an annulment. He has been told that he has what is called a ‘Pauline Privilege’ case. Is it wise for us to live ‘as brother and sister’ until his annulment is final? Beyond that, we are wanting to have a convalidation ceremony after we are entered in the church. Should we live as brother and sister before that as to be able to take Eucharist? Thank you.
I just want to do the right thing.