Annulment possible?

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Hello, i have a question from a dear friend of mine. She is a christian. Well she is dating a catholic man who has seperated from his wife for over a year now. In the beginning of the dating, she got pregnant and now they have a child. She tells me that she loves the man but he doesnt know if its possible for him to divorce his wife who he seperated a year ago. From what she told me, he has 2 children with his wife whl he seperated and now has a child with my friend.
 
It is not possible for anyone to say without much more information. Your friends need to speak to a priest about Christian marriage and the annulment process. It sounds like a very unfortunate situation for all of the children and adults involved. Pray for all of these people.
 
Since he has not even gotten a divorce, under USA rules, the Church cannot address the question of an annulment.
 
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Your friend has a bigger issue. She’s with a married man who is so “Catholic” he says he can’t divorce his wife, but he has no problem committing adultery and getting her pregnant?

Honey, he is using his Catholicism to put her off. A practicing, faithful Catholic wouldn’t be having sex with your friend at all, let alone seeing her while still married to someone else.

Seems like now that he’s made a mess he is trying to hide behind “I’m Catholic”. What a louse!

Something smells bad here. Your friend and her baby-daddy should speak to a priest together about their situation.
 
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Yeah. Your friend needs to get away from this guy. Yes, she has a child with him but as far as husbands and fathers go, he is not trustworthy. Can she raise the child by herself? Has she considered adoption for the child?
 
No she is against adoption and she loves her baby. She also has 3 other children from her previous marriage. She wants to seek help from her church as she is entirely confused with the situation. She told me that the guy wants to be with her as he has been seperate for a year but is afraid that the catholic church wont let him.
 
Please forgive me, but I do not understand what she is confused about. He is separated - not divorced. He should not be having a relationship, especially a sexual relationship, with another woman while he is still married to someone else. Both he and your friend have committed the grave sin of adultery.

It’s not that the Church won’t “let” him be with your friend. He has the free will to do what he wants. The Church says it would be sinful for him to divorce his wife and marry your friend without an annulment, but no one in the Church can stop him from doing so. What is confusing is that this fellow has violated his wedding vows and already committed the sin of adultery but is worried that the Church won’t “let” him divorce his wife and marry the woman he got pregnant while still being married to his wife.
 
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If he is still legally married to her then it wont be possible to talk about an annulment until the civil divorce is final.
 
Hello Yuki26,

I am sorry for your friend, but I don´t think an annulment would be the solution, even if it was legal. I think of the wife of this man - if your friend would be on her position, would it be fair to divorce her? Will your friend really marry a man who is that unfair and harmful against his duties for his family? Should she tell her child one day “your daddy committed adultery and left his family”?
I think there ist a mother and her children, and they should be sane and strong as a little family. I hope God will bless them on day with a man who take them all in love as his own family, there are such wonderful examples! God bless you!
 
He is “afraid that the Catholic Church won’t let him”? Right. Anyway…she should be confused. It’s a mess. The best course of action would be to remove herself from an intimate relationship with the man. Maybe they don’t say this anymore but he looks like “a player”, plain and simple. In that respect, it is not really confusing.

Dan
 
Hi, This is my first post.

This is an awful situation, and there is no easy way out. This man has put himself in a bad situation as well. He needs to file for immediate divorce as anullment is not an option. Clearly they were married for awhile and consummated the marriage.

As for the female in the situation, it may be time to require an ultimatum. Divorce or sign over all parental rights as this man will not be around for the long term.

Good luck!
 
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