Annulment

[Liberanosamalo]

A lot of times, when someone is guilty of child molestation, that is not the first time. If there is a pattern of this that anyone is willing to testify to from before your marriage, you have a really good case. It would center around psychological defect. His lack of a job or being able to be consistent about anything is part of a pattern. But one has to show that any pattern of anything (drinking, drug abuse, sexual deviancy, homosexual tendencies, spousal battery… ) all that preexisted the wedding. Because a decree of nullity says that the consent given at the wedding was a mere recital of words like a stage play and is no more valid than a "wedding’ on tv where everyone is in costume saying words, but it’s not real. Either the consent wasn’t free (shotgun wedding) or wasn’t complete and unreserved (person had mental reservations, like they figured they’d only stay married for a short time, or didn’t want kids, or didn’t intend to be faithful.)

Not intending to work to support a family isn’t cause for annulment, but if he was unfaithful to you or there were other issues during your engagement and the beginning of your marriage, that is very important to investigate.

Good luck.

 

[ashwg]

Hi

My 9 year marrige came to an end after my wife decided to persue sexual relations with another woman. We are now Divorced.

I’ve since met a Catholic girl for whom I have very strong feelings. I do feel that this relationship could lead to marriage.
We have already had a few discussions about the fact that I’m not Catholic. I am a confirmed Protestant.
I suppose I’m wanting to understand the The Catholic view on my divorce and how it would be seen Should my relationship lead to a proposal of marriage.
I’d also like to understand Annulment better and how it effects her and me.

If anyone could help me shed some light on this , I’d really appreciate it

Tnx

 

[Christy_Beth]

I am a convert with an annulled marriage. I didn’t start the process for the annullment until after I entered the church. That may be something that the tribunal will look at. And my ex showed, during the marriage, by his behavior, that he hadn’t taken the vows seriously. And I’m sure he replied to the tribunal when he got the stuff from them. And, I’m just as sure that he spilled his guts in all the “wrongs” I did. He was emotionally abusive not only during the marriage, but also afterwards as well. Why did I stay in contact with him? Because we had a child together and he had very liberal visitation rights. Otherwise I would have gotten as far away from him as possible.

 

[wanner47]

Anyone who is considering the annulment process should first and foremost talk to a priest. This forum is comprised of mostly laypeople and we can only give amateur opinions. Please, if you want to know if you should begin the annulment process, talk to a priest (or, if you know one, a canon lawyer).

 

[Seatuck]

Hi

My 9 year marrige came to an end after my wife decided to persue sexual relations with another woman. We are now Divorced.

I’ve since met a Catholic girl for whom I have very strong feelings. I do feel that this relationship could lead to marriage.
We have already had a few discussions about the fact that I’m not Catholic. I am a confirmed Protestant.
I suppose I’m wanting to understand the The Catholic view on my divorce and how it would be seen Should my relationship lead to a proposal of marriage.
I’d also like to understand Annulment better and how it effects her and me.

If anyone could help me shed some light on this , I’d really appreciate it

Tnx

The Catholic understands that Christ raised marriage up to be a Sacrament for the Baptized. We understand that he taught that it would be permanent as such. However there are occasions when after an investigation the church can see that there was something missing from a marriage that has ended in divorce and she can declare this . That is what people refer to as an annulment or a decree of nullity by the Marriage Tribunal (a type of court)

Its best to get started by talking to a priest and finding out what you will need to present your case. There are many variables.

You do not have to convert to the Catholic Church to participate in the process.