Annulments/support group

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Deacon met me today and went over my Lack of Form paperwork and says it looks to be in order. Says he will turn it in to Tribunal on Monday and to not be surprised if he hears back by Friday!! šŸ˜ƒšŸ˜ƒ

I canā€™t wait to be freed from this and go on with my new understanding of marriage and sacraments. Convalidation time is near!!
 
Peebo said:
I can feel the pain many of you are going throughā€¦especially those who have converted/are converting from the Protestant faithā€¦my wife was Methodistā€¦a church going christian all her lifeā€¦took her children to Sunday school and church every Sundayā€¦her husband left her with nothingā€¦gave her divorce papers on their thirtieth wedding anniversary and walked out the door and moved in with his girlfriend heā€™d been seeing behind her backā€¦he refused any mediation counselingā€¦naturally she was totally devastatedā€¦we have been happily married now for going on fifteen yearsā€¦my first wife had passed away so I didnā€™t have to file for annulmentā€¦plus I am a Catholicā€¦she has been coming to mass with me for a number of years and has come to love the massā€¦she decided to become Catholic in 2014 and started RCIA plus began the annulment processā€¦it has been very painfulā€¦especially for a Protestant who grew up to believe in their marriage vows but also to believe that there are circumstances where marriages do fail and that God will show forgiveness to those who sincerely seek itā€¦and after she had found the truth and beauty in the Catholic faith it is then implied that now she is an adulterer and needs to seek an annulmentā€¦then she has to go through a long painful process of detailing her first marriage plus the stress of not knowing even if she will be granted the annulmentā€¦it has taken sixteen months and and a lot of heartache but finally her annulment was executed yesterdayā€¦she is just waiting for it to arrive in the mailā€¦she is looking forward to having our marriage convalidatedā€¦being confirmed and receiving the Holy Eucharist and becoming more involved in our parishā€¦I have never told her of this CAF website because of some of the posts I have read by Catholics who seem to delight in telling others of their adulterous relationshipsā€¦or that as a Catholic itā€™s all my fault and shouldnā€™t have married herā€¦she didnā€™t need to hear any of that as those types probably would have turned her away from the Catholic Churchā€¦as a Catholic I accept what the Catholic Church teaches on divorce and remarriageā€¦I donā€™t agree that those coming into the church from different denominations should have to go through the same process as Catholics because there is no annulment process in other denominationsā€¦marriage is taken just as seriously I believe in those denominations but they also believe that Gods mercy and forgiveness is enough for those who sincerely ask for itā€¦it certainly hasnā€™t been a spiritually rewarding experience for her although she did accept the churches positionā€¦I hope and pray for those of you who are still going through the process will soon be received into the churchā€¦God bless
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thank you Peebo this has been somewhat my story both DH I come from Protestant backgrounds I Lutheran, and He Baptist. His first wife left him after 19 years he did not want the divorce at all but after a few years single he met and married me(never married)
We have been interested in the RCC but he is feeling what your wife feels. We also have two beautiful boys and have been married 24 years. However I do respect and believe what the RCC teaches in this regard but I also think Pope Francis is onto something in that respect. A Catholic friend of ours has given us the # of a priest to contact.
We are still looking into it for now.
 
Peebo said:
Wellā€¦my wife got her annulment decree Wednesdayā€¦we saw one of our priests todayā€¦my wife will be confirmed next month and also we will have our marriage convalidated that same dayā€¦thanks be to Godā€¦I hope those of you who are still going through the annulment process will soon see your prayers answered ā€¦God Bless:)
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AWESOME!!! That is wonderful. Peebo. Blessings to you both.
 
AnchoredInHope said:
Praise be to God! What great news.

I am meeting the deacon tommorow to hand in my lack of form paperwork. Please pray that it is turned into Tribunal quickly and that I may be confirmed by Easter and plan a convalidation as well. ā¤ļø
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Praying hard for you, A. I. H. !!!
 
I apologize, in advance, for rambling but I had to share this.

My husband and I attended Mass for Lent this evening. Needless to say, I went but my heart just wasnā€™t in it. With the two years of RCIA, an ongoing Annulment, and constant obstacles to entering into Communion with the Church, I just had reached the end. I felt so lost today. When I kneeled, I asked God: ā€œWhat do you really want from me?ā€ ā€œWhy am I here?ā€ Why does this Church make it so hard for some one to fully come to you?"

Then the final song came. Everyone was leaving, but I opened the Breaking Bread book and turned to hymn #454. I really didnā€™t want to sing, but I did anyway. And as I sang, I started to cry. This was the chorus:

Chorus:
Do not be afraid, I am with you
I have called you each by name
Come and follow Me
I will bring you home
I love you and you are mine

Amazing. Simply amazing.
 
Convert1 said:
I apologize, in advance, for rambling but I had to share this.

My husband and I attended Mass for Lent this evening. Needless to say, I went but my heart just wasnā€™t in it. With the two years of RCIA, an ongoing Annulment, and constant obstacles to entering into Communion with the Church, I just had reached the end. I felt so lost today. When I kneeled, I asked God: ā€œWhat do you really want from me?ā€ ā€œWhy am I here?ā€ Why does this Church make it so hard for some one to fully come to you?"

Then the final song came. Everyone was leaving, but I opened the Breaking Bread book and turned to hymn #454. I really didnā€™t want to sing, but I did anyway. And as I sang, I started to cry. This was the chorus:

Chorus:
Do not be afraid, I am with you
I have called you each by name
Come and follow Me
I will bring you home
I love you and you are mine

Amazing. Simply amazing.
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I LOVE that hymn!!
Im so glad that the Lord spoke to you tonight šŸ™‚
 
Convert1 said:
I apologize, in advance, for rambling but I had to share this.

My husband and I attended Mass for Lent this evening. Needless to say, I went but my heart just wasnā€™t in it. With the two years of RCIA, an ongoing Annulment, and constant obstacles to entering into Communion with the Church, I just had reached the end. I felt so lost today. When I kneeled, I asked God: ā€œWhat do you really want from me?ā€ ā€œWhy am I here?ā€ Why does this Church make it so hard for some one to fully come to you?"

Then the final song came. Everyone was leaving, but I opened the Breaking Bread book and turned to hymn #454. I really didnā€™t want to sing, but I did anyway. And as I sang, I started to cry. This was the chorus:

Chorus:
Do not be afraid, I am with you
I have called you each by name
Come and follow Me
I will bring you home
I love you and you are mine

Amazing. Simply amazing.
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Yes, amazing! Lead Me Lord always speaks to me.
 
Convert1 said:
I apologize, in advance, for rambling but I had to share this.

My husband and I attended Mass for Lent this evening. Needless to say, I went but my heart just wasnā€™t in it. With the two years of RCIA, an ongoing Annulment, and constant obstacles to entering into Communion with the Church, I just had reached the end. I felt so lost today. When I kneeled, I asked God: ā€œWhat do you really want from me?ā€ ā€œWhy am I here?ā€ Why does this Church make it so hard for some one to fully come to you?"

Then the final song came. Everyone was leaving, but I opened the Breaking Bread book and turned to hymn #454. I really didnā€™t want to sing, but I did anyway. And as I sang, I started to cry. This was the chorus:

Chorus:
Do not be afraid, I am with you
I have called you each by name
Come and follow Me
I will bring you home
I love you and you are mine

Amazing. Simply amazing.
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Big hug to you <3
 
Convert1 said:
Thanks, folks. I love this forum. It has kept me sane at times.

:love::love::love:
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Agreed. You all have been a lifeline! Itā€™s hard to explain to coworkers or people who donā€™t understand Catholicism why we are doing this and that makes it a really lonely experience that can be beyond frustrating and overwhelming. I pray for all of you after finding this forum!
 
Convert1 said:
I apologize, in advance, for rambling but I had to share this.

My husband and I attended Mass for Lent this evening. Needless to say, I went but my heart just wasnā€™t in it. With the two years of RCIA, an ongoing Annulment, and constant obstacles to entering into Communion with the Church, I just had reached the end. I felt so lost today. When I kneeled, I asked God: ā€œWhat do you really want from me?ā€ ā€œWhy am I here?ā€ Why does this Church make it so hard for some one to fully come to you?"

Then the final song came. Everyone was leaving, but I opened the Breaking Bread book and turned to hymn #454. I really didnā€™t want to sing, but I did anyway. And as I sang, I started to cry. This was the chorus:

Chorus:
Do not be afraid, I am with you
I have called you each by name
Come and follow Me
I will bring you home
I love you and you are mine

Amazing. Simply amazing.
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Even when we feel our prayers are unanswered God is always one step ahead of usā€¦yesā€¦he will bring you homeā€¦God Bless
 
I hope to not sound unhumble but I wanted to share that my lack of form came back and I was pronounced free to marry in the eyes of the Church!
 
AnchoredInHope said:
I hope to not sound unhumble but I wanted to share that my lack of form came back and I was pronounced free to marry in the eyes of the Church!
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Oh my goodness, you have no need to worry about being ā€œun-humbleā€. I would be yelling from the rooftops!!! GOOD FOR YOU !! THAT IS WONDERFUL! GOD BLESS YOU BOTH!

:extrahappy::extrahappy::extrahappy::extrahappy::extrahappy:
 
Peebo said:
Praise be to Godā€¦šŸ™‚
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Convert1 said:
Oh my goodness, you have no need to worry about being ā€œun-humbleā€. I would be yelling from the rooftops!!! GOOD FOR YOU !! THAT IS WONDERFUL! GOD BLESS YOU BOTH!

:extrahappy::extrahappy::extrahappy::extrahappy::extrahappy:
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Thank you both so much! The decree finally arrived in the mailā€“it feels real finally being in my hands. I am so very excited to know I can finish RCIA at Easter vigil. I participated this last weekend in the Call to Continuing Conversion with our Bishop and I thought my heart was going to burst!

Any updates with anyone else? Anything I pray for anyone for??
 
Just an updateā€¦today March 13 my wife was confirmed and received the Holy Eucharistā€¦right after mass our priest took us to the Adoration Chapel where in front of the Monstrance which holds our Blessed Savior we had our marriage convalidatedā€¦what a special blessingā€¦and what a special day all roundā€¦I hope and pray that all of you who are soon to have your annulment grantedā€¦who have just started the journey or who are to be confirmed this Easter find as much joy entering or coming back to the Catholic Churchā€¦God Bless
 
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