Anointing of the sick - Honorarium?

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This might be a ridiculous question, but here it goes!

I’ll be having the Anointing of the sick done tomorrow. Should I give an honorarium? I don’t want to embarrass myself or others by trying or not trying to give one.

God bless,
Nicole
 
I too would like to know this.

I gave an honorarium of $100 to the priest who did both the Anointing and my celebrated my Father’s funeral Mass. Was that enough for both of these?

(This priest also will not accept more than $5 for Mass intentions and he will always say a Mass for nothing for anyone who asks.)
 
I gave an honorarium for a funeral mass as well and often do mass intentions for daily mass. I just don’t know on this one. I know that priests aren’t supposed to take money for sacraments and all that, but we all know that they do get honorariums for weddings and funerals.

God bless,
Nicole
 
Priest’s are allowed to take money for saying Masses for someone’s intention.

Of course, it’s nothing like paying for the sacrament, but supporting our Priests with a donation is a great way of saying thanks.

JD
 
nicolep said:
This might be a ridiculous question, but here it goes!

I’ll be having the Anointing of the sick done tomorrow. Should I give an honorarium? I don’t want to embarrass myself or others by trying or not trying to give one.

God bless,
Nicole
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I used to take the pastor around to anoint the homebound three or four times a year; others do it now. Occasionally, but rarely, someone gave him money. I think he usually regarded it as a Sunday offering to the Church unless they specifically stated otherwise. I have been anointed at the Church several times; there seemed no expectation of an offering on those occasions.
 
**Should I give an honorarium? I don’t want to embarrass myself or others by trying or not trying to give one.
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The proper term is either “stole fee” or better, "stipend."
 
Joe_Kelley said:
I used to take the pastor around to anoint the homebound three or four times a year; others do it now. Occasionally, but rarely, someone gave him money. I think he usually regarded it as a Sunday offering to the Church unless they specifically stated otherwise. I have been anointed at the Church several times; there seemed no expectation of an offering on those occasions.
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Thanks for the info!

God bless,
Nicole
 
The proper term is either stipend or stole fee. We need to conscious and make every effort to use appropriate ecclesial terms in these forums and not be dismissive abuot them. Honorarium is for delivering a speech, not for administering the sacraments.

Now, as far as stpends or stole fees are concerned, the funeral home includes this in the cost of the funeral. When my mother died, my father was worried about the stipend until the funeral director told him that it was already included in the price.

As far as Annointing of the Sick is concerned, I have not heard of someone giving a priest a stipend. Now, there are some priests who work as hosptial chaplains, so, the hopsital pretty much takes care of this.
 
benedictgal said:
The proper term is either stipend or stole fee. We need to conscious and make every effort to use appropriate ecclesial terms in these forums and not be dismissive abuot them. Honorarium is for delivering a speech, not for administering the sacraments.

Now, as far as stpends or stole fees are concerned, the funeral home includes this in the cost of the funeral. When my mother died, my father was worried about the stipend until the funeral director told him that it was already included in the price.

As far as Annointing of the Sick is concerned, I have not heard of someone giving a priest a stipend. Now, there are some priests who work as hosptial chaplains, so, the hopsital pretty much takes care of this.
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Okay, here’s Websters definition of honorarium
a payment in recognition of acts or professional services for which custom or propriety forbids a price to be set
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Stipend is very well the term the Church uses, but for the love of goodness, you all knew what I meant.

At least you actually had some advise to go with the grammar correction. I do have an issue with someone posting to simply correct someone. My parents taught me it was rude to correct other people.
 
nicolep said:
Okay, here’s Websters definition of honorarium

Stipend is very well the term the Church uses, but for the love of goodness, you all knew what I meant.

At least you actually had some advise to go with the grammar correction. I do have an issue with someone posting to simply correct someone. My parents taught me it was rude to correct other people.
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But, when it comes to ecclesial terms, Webster’s dictionary doesn’t necessariy apply. Furthermore, correction is offered in a spirit of fraternal charity, something that St. Paul encourages in his epistles. The thing is that people read these forms, many for the sake of learning something new. It’s best to start out with the appropriate liturgical and sacramental terms.

The more we start using the appropriate terms, the better we will educate ourselves as to the correct wording.
 
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But, when it comes to ecclesial terms, Webster’s dictionary doesn’t necessariy apply. Furthermore, correction is offered in a spirit of fraternal charity, something that St. Paul encourages in his epistles. The thing is that people read these forms, many for the sake of learning something new. It’s best to start out with the appropriate liturgical and sacramental terms.

The more we start using the appropriate terms, the better we will educate ourselves as to the correct wording.
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I completely agree with you. As I mentioned, I appreciate that you at least offered some advice along with the correction. However, I’m not ever going to post just to correct someone’s grammar. If I didn’t understand what they meant, I would ask that they clarify. As far as everything being offered in charity, I really hope that’s the case and seems to be on your part.

God bless,
Nicole
 
nicolep said:
I completely agree with you. As I mentioned, I appreciate that you at least offered some advice along with the correction. However, I’m not ever going to post just to correct someone’s grammar. If I didn’t understand what they meant, I would ask that they clarify. As far as everything being offered in charity, I really hope that’s the case and seems to be on your part.

God bless,
Nicole
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Thanks! 😃

Something else that I forgot to mention is that there are also instances where the priest visits a nursing home to annoint the sick. My father is an EHMC to the infirmed and homebound and he has had occasion to accompany one of the priests. When the priest annoints the elderly, some will give him a stipend (although, in the case of one priest, when he saw the living conditions, he politely declined).
 
I think I’m going to offer. If it’s declined, at least I offered and I’ll have no issues over that.

I also want to apologize to you all. It’s definitely not right that I’m taking my bad mood out on others who are trying to help.

Thanks again

God bless,
Nicole
 
nicolep said:
I think I’m going to offer. If it’s declined, at least I offered and I’ll have no issues over that.

I also want to apologize to you all. It’s definitely not right that I’m taking my bad mood out on others who are trying to help.

Thanks again

God bless,
Nicole
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No problem. We all get that way. Feel free to fire away anymore questions. You’ll find that we’re a very helpful group.

God bless you and have a great day! Hey, we’re going to have a three-day weekend!!👍
 
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