Another analogy - why premarital sex isn't 'safe enough'

[Flopfoot]

This is for discussions with people who don’t really care that condoms are morally wrong (maybe they’re not religious, or maybe they don’t agree with the Church). But we can still influence them to do the right thing (practicing chastity) for their own sake and for others.

Almost everyone will agree that using condoms won’t protect you 100% against diseases and pregnancy. But they say it makes it ‘safe enough’ - their analogy is that driving is not 100% safe either but we still do that.

However, there are 2 important differences.

1. When driving is done ‘properly’ there are no accidents. When sex is done ‘properly’ there are ‘accidents’ (ie, pregnancy is the main intended result of sex, at least the way it was designed. But the way that driving was designed, accidents are not the intended result).
2. While you are driving, you can take precautions at all times to avoid accidents. When having sex, you can only take a precaution at the very beginning, and you would have no idea if any diseases or sperm or whatever have ‘gotten through’ and even if you did know about it you would have no way to stop it. As compared to when driving, you can see when an accident has a potential to happen and you can then do whatever is necessary to stop it.

So a counter-analogy is to say that premarital sex is like driving with your eyes closed. The natural ending for this is an accident, and you are lucky if you don’t have an accident. And having premarital sex while using a condom is like making sure that the road you are driving on is straight, before you drive on it with your eyes closed. Sure you can take a precaution at the very beginning (choosing a straight road), but while driving with your eyes closed (or while having sex), there’s nothing you can do to prevent an accident because you can’t see it coming.

And if you do have an accident while driving on a straight road with your eyes closed then you only have yourself to blame. Don’t blame the road for not being as straight as you thought it was! The only safe thing to do is to never drive with your eyes closed.

So, what do you think of my analogy? Any critique?

 

[cheddarsox]

The arguement I used on myself, and what I tell my kids is this…Would you have wanted me and your father to have slept with a string of people? And you have been an “accident” conceived with some person I had no lifelong commitment to.

Is that what you want for your kids?

They always say no.

Sex always involves other people besides the couple. Families, potential kids, and society. It is not a completely private act which affects no one else. It is a life changing, world altering event.

cheddar

 

[BlestOne]

cheddarsox:

The arguement I used on myself, and what I tell my kids is this…Would you have wanted me and your father to have slept with a string of people? And you have been an “accident” conceived with some person I had no lifelong commitment to.

Is that what you want for your kids?

They always say no.

Sex always involves other people besides the couple. Families, potential kids, and society. It is not a completely private act which affects no one else. It is a life changing, world altering event.

cheddar

I like your answer Cheddar!!! I think more people should talk as plainly to their kids!