Answer to Prayer?

[faithrose]

I am new here and hoping I am posting this question in the right spot.

God has blessed me with two beautiful daughters. I absolutely love being a mom. They are 14 months and 1 month. Since my daughter has been born I have wanted nothing more than to become a stay at home mom. I have been praying about this for the past 14 months and asking for help, guidance. I have prayed the rosary (did the novena as well). I still do not have resolution and wondering if I a missing the answer.

Wondering if God was communicating to me in the following dream. My daughter was born in April on a Thursday. On Friday after her birth I had a dream that my Grandpa (who died 8 years ago) came back to get my Grandma who was ill at the time. My Grandma then appeared to me and I told her about how I have been praying about being able to become a stay at home mom and she said she would talk to God for me. Then my cousin who was in the dream turned to me and said if you have not received the answer by now then God is telling you no. I got very upset with him for saying this. The following Monday my Grandma passed away. I felt it was her way of saying goodbye. I continue with my prayers about becoming a stay at home mom but then it dawned on me that maybe my cousin in the dream was telling me the answer to my prayer.

Anyone have any insight? Do I keep praying? Do you think I have received my answer?

I am so lost right now. I know this may seem non important with all going on in the world right now but it weighs heavy on my heart.

I appreciate taking the time to read this and any responses.

 

[St_Francis]

Why are you working?

 

[the_phoenix]

Praying for you from today’s Liturgy of the Hours, part of Psalm 85(86):

O Lord, teach me your paths,
and I will come to your truth.
Make my heart simple and guileless,
so that it honours your name.
I will proclaim you, Lord my God,
and give you praise with all my heart.
I will give glory to your name for ever,
for your great kindness is upon me.

 

[faithrose]

Thanks for the prayer!

I have to work for financial reasons. At the time I make more than my husband and to be able to pay all of our bills I need to work.

 

[randirhoades]

Ahh so that’s it, beloved friend. You have to work. Economically, we have to have two paychecks maybe three just to live. So sad that is. Have you thought of doing something that would bring you money to help out at your home? So you can stay with your daughters? How about ebay? Can you make jewelry? I’m just suggesting here. Plus, God doesn’t tell people our answers. Only He can give it to you.

I will pray for you to have comfort and peace of mind, sweetie. Sheila

(By Saint Francis Xavier Cabrini)

**FORTIFY me with the grace of Your Holy Spirit
and give Your peace to my soul
that I may be free from all needless anxiety,
solicitude and worry.
Help me to desire always
that which is pleasing and acceptable to You
so that Your will may be my will.
**

 

[St_Francis]

Thanks for the prayer!

I have to work for financial reasons. At the time I make more than my husband and to be able to pay all of our bills I need to work.

So you are longing to stay home but it is currently totally impractical? It seems that for you to stop working now would be a bad move then.

Not knowing the particulars of your situation, I can only say that it might be worthwhile seeing if your family could downsize in certain areas so that you cpuld get to a place where you could stop working, or maybe go to part-time.

There are ways to scale back expenses so that you wouldn’t have to work. It would take a plan and might take some time depending on what you are dealing with. But just the expenses of working can be high: commuting, child care, clothing suitable for you job, extra food costs…

If you are making payments on a car, you have to pay for comprehensive insurance, which can be expensive, but when you pay the car off, you only have to pay for liability. If you make only minimum payments on a credit card, you are only paying a miniscule amount of the principle, so you never can pay it off. If you are paying for a house and can refinance it, that can allow you to have smaller payments…

So it might be that with some good financial planning, you and your husband cpuld work things out so you could stay home, or go to part-time work. There’s a lot of information put there about how to do this; the library might be a place to start. OTOH, it might be that your family is already at the most frigal living and still needs two jobs.

I’ll pray for you all; it’s reallu tough.

St Francis aka Annie