Anti-catholic comments on Facebook

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If you love someone, you do not want to hurt them. If you love someone, you respect them.

Tell this person “every ugly thing you say about Christianity hurts me deeply”.

If they continue, they do not love you.

Would you continue if they posted disrespectful and ugly things about your children or your mother and refused to stop even though it hurt and offended you?
 
To the OP- what would your response be if they were making similar comments about your mother, father, or another beloved family member? In this case, they are making some pretty hateful comments about the Church that our Lord gave us, and that is something to stand up for. Let them know that you are offended, right there for everyone to see just like their offensive comments, and if they continue then shake the dust from your sandals as Jesus’ instructed us.

DGB
 
Edmund Burke said all that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing. Do not allow evil to triumph. Do not do sit by and do nothing.

I just went through a nasty week on FB about the Stop HHS Mandate and the Gay marriage law imposed on us here in the liberal state of WA. But I got someone to delete her outrageous nasty (meant to be funny) anti catholic post after discussing the issue. I never made personal comments, only facts, and her husband bashed me with such an uncharitable and nasty comment and I called him on it. It was after that that she took her post off.

The Stop HHS Mandate really got me in deep water with the same person and another person, who also happens to be married to a family member. I did the same thing and just kept posting the facts, in a charitable way. They eventually stopped the conversation.

It is very disturbing and sad that we have to limit conversations on FB. I did put them both on limited viewing to help keep myself from getting upset.

At Pinerest (which I love for collecting items for crafts and recipes. etc)., the same thing happened. But on that we can report in appropriate posts and the reason why. Don’t know if it helps, but when you have options, use them. But I am a fighter and when I get my dander up, look out.

I was taught how to engage in debates at our dinner table as a kid. I don’t think people know how to do that anymore, and just the fact, please.

Just my two cents.
 
To the OP- what would your response be if they were making similar comments about your mother, father, or another beloved family member? In this case, they are making some pretty hateful comments about the Church that our Lord gave us, and that is something to stand up for. Let them know that you are offended, right there for everyone to see just like their offensive comments, and if they continue then shake the dust from your sandals as Jesus’ instructed us.

DGB
 
While I believe there’s plenty of genuine anti-Catholic sentiment to go around, I think there’s also a lot of lukewarm Catholics out there who go along with and add to the sentiment just because they don’t want to go against the crowd. I have a friend who goes to Mass semi-regularly, sends his kids to CCD and acts sincere around others who are more openly faithful, but as soon as his friends and coworkers start up with the Catholic bashing, he’s righ there telling pedophile priest jokes, talking about how wrong the Church is, and generally trying to out-do the comments from his. The fact that he remembers just enough from his Catholic school days to make himself (to them) sound like he knows what he’s talking about makes it far worse than hearing from the completely ignorant anti-Catholics. It’s real easy to refute someone who claims the pope wears that big hat due to the arcane, cannibalistic ceremony that causes his horns to grow; it’s less easy to refute someone who’s arguing with a grain of truth and then getting similarly ignorant Catholics jumping in to defend him.
(((Shudder))) The worst kind. :sad_yes:

It breaks my heart to hear family members (who are Catholic) talk badly about the church. Pray, pray, and pray some more…:gopray:
 
If you love someone, you do not want to hurt them. If you love someone, you respect them.

Tell this person “every ugly thing you say about Christianity hurts me deeply”.

If they continue, they do not love you.

Would you continue if they posted disrespectful and ugly things about your children or your mother and refused to stop even though it hurt and offended you?
This.
 
(((Shudder))) The worst kind. :sad_yes:

It breaks my heart to hear family members (who are Catholic) talk badly about the church. Pray, pray, and pray some more…:gopray:
I’ve been including my fallen away family every night in our intentions before saying the Rosary.

An amusing side note, I have a cousin who “came out” on Facebook a couple weeks ago. His immediate family are all very vocal ultra-liberals, and about the worst in the bunch when it comes to their holier-than-though anti-Catholicism. He outed himself by making a couple conservative, pro-Church replies to another cousin’s status. When his own immediate family attacked him over this, he updated his status to basically reflect the same viewpoints he’d expressed to the other cousin. His parents and siblings then ganged up on him so viciously that he finally gave in and deleted all his “offensive” comments, plus most of those made by his family. However, he did leave a couple of the worst ones which, taken out of context since everything else had been deleted, left them in a very negative light.
 
I think we are standing up for Christ when we counter back. As long as we keep it civil, factual and always say a prayer going in…🙂
 
Thanks for the feedback. I have talked to J (my sibling) on the phone about this twice and said how offensive it is to me. However, I chose not to respond to J’s friend’s priest joke. Maybe I am a coward,. But I just didn’t think I would change any minds, I don’t know the person, and by commenting on the joke, I would be bringing the joke higher up on everyone’s news feed, instead of letting it stay buried under newer posts and updates. (The joke occurred a couple days ago.)

I did decide to unfriend J. I never thought I’d have to unfriend a sibling, but Facebook J is so different than the kind, real-life J. I will even be seeing J this weekend. I’m just going to say, the real life you I know and love is such a disconnect with the person you portray on FB that I just want to know THIS in-person you, and not see the ugliness on FB that you and your friends post.

I was going to stick with just blocking J from my news feed, but I still got a notification of a status update from J. Plus, by having J on my friends lists, I felt like in a way I was condoning what J says. So I went ahead and defriended. J will know exactly why and I hope that makes some soft of statement. I do want to maintain the real-life relationship, because my sibling and I love each other. But I do not love the person J acts like on FB. It’s actually sickening that my sibling doesn’t realize that hateful religious jokes are not ok about any religion. I can’t have someone like that on my friends list anymore.

Thanks for the feedback that people gave. I’m going to try to take a break from thinking about this and pray for J. It is so sad that J spends so much time in a critical, negative frame of mind and doesn’t care who he offends. I have to detach from that side of J for my own peace of mind. And of course I will pray for J…and myself, that I can focus on the good sides and not the ugly ones.
 
Here’s a hug Claire :console:

It is sad that FB has so much power. I think it is a place where passive aggressive behaviour is very present. I sometimes feel that when people post links to certain stories/news/jokes, they are really dying to tell the world what they really think of the subject. When the subject is controversial the link covers the poster in a way.

Work on the relationship with your sibling in real life, that is what matters. If I paid any attention to stuff my brother posts on FB, I wouldn’t like him very much. But in real life he is actually a super nice guy.
 
I don’t really understand an adult sibling calling another adult sibling saying they don’t like what they post on their personal FB page. That is better handled in person. Hopefully they will hide you from the content so you don’t have to read it anymore. Perhaps you can hide them yourself if they are constantly posting offensive content. I have 4 family members who I have hid due to posting offensive content. Fb has the ability to cause some real problems. I had another close family member drop their account entirely as it was just too problematic. Real life is where it is at anyway! Real life and real relationships. Glad you are still getting together with your sibling this weekend.
 
Last year I went through facebook and cut my friends list down to 1/3 of what it was. I decided to keep people I actually wanted to be in touch with, so random people who I kind of knew in college didn’t make the cut. Some people I would have stayed in touch with I did unfriend because of the constant anti-Catholic (or just anti-morality) comments. A few people who I was very close to who made constant attacking comments did make the cut, but I blocked them, so I didn’t have to see them (they weren’t making anti-Catholic comments, but were making “all conservatives are racist and stupid” type comments). It has made facebook much less stressful.

One friend, who was one of my best buddies in college, made quite a few anti-Catholic comments on my page before deleting me, added me back a couple months ago. I cautiously accepted his friend request and was surprised when he began commenting and actually was respectful and seemed to be trying to understand why so many people are upset about the HHS mandate.
 
Update: J deleted the string of posts that contained the offensive priest joke! Thank God. They didn’t even know I unfriended them, they just took it down after thinking about it.

It turns out I will not be seeing J this weekend after all, because of an unrelated circumstance that cancelled the event. I thanked them for taking the posts down and said it meant more a lot to me.

I was still beating myself up this morning for not responding to the friend’s priest joke. At the time, I remember saying to myself, “That’s so crass I won’t even dignify it with a response,” but now I wish I’d said that I considered it a form of hate speech. However, that moment passed, and to post a note after the joke would have brought more eyes to it and pulled it up higher on everyone’s newsfeeds. Anyway, it’s gone now, thank God.
 
I’ve had difficulty with this lately as well. I usually ignore them. However, I’ve taken the opportunity to refute some of the rediculous claims and I had one aquaintance unfriend me.
 
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