Any Advice? (Forgiveness Issues)

[chadwilliams]

My mother refuses to forgive her mother for something that happened when my mom was 5 years old.

We’ve tried to talk to her from the standpoint of our Faith, but she does not listen.

How do you talk to someone who acknowledges that they are not doing what God wants them to do, and stubbornly refuse to change?

We are at our wits end.

Please pray for my mother and family.

Thanks,
chad

 

[RWMorris]

Praying here…

 

[Joe_Kelley]

I think it was St Ambrose who advised St Monica: talk to God more about your son and to your son less about God.

 

[kevinsgirl]

Just pray…

As her child, it is not your responsibility.

Don’t let her choices affect you. Learn from them and move on.

She sounds a lot like my mother and the advice I received was to focus on my marriage and not let her bad example affect me. I pray for her, but I have learned to not let it affect me daily. The result? My mother has not changed, but I have become less emotionally involved in something I had no control over in the first place. You can look up the thread I started on my mom…the advice I received really helped my situation.

Prayers,

kevingirl

 

[KCT]

In general, I think healing comes when there has been acknowledgement of wrong doing and an apology.

Sadly, many people will never get that and will have to forgive simply through the grace of God.

I’m sorry your mom can’t do that. Pray and sacrifice. —KCT

 

[catholic79]

Try and help your mom understand that forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, or accepting it as okay, or allowing it to happen again. It’s hard to see your mom hurt by her mom, I’ll be praying for you both.