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Hi,
As a middle age Catholic man who’s gone through all the pain and struggles of both BPD (borderline personality disorder) and NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) related sexual addiction since my late teenage years up until recently, I’ve got inspired to start a discussion on this serious mental health issue characteric of men who are seduced into:
a) the popular culture’s sphere of dating, or
b) the social subculture known as the pickup arts (PUA) or seduction arts community where I ended up and stayed there until I realized that it started taking its toll on both my mental health and my entire life.
On that note, I now wonder if there’re any Catholic men on these forums whose mental health also got affected by the aforementioned two types of personality disorders related to the issue of sexual addiction.
For those who’re not completely sure whether they’ve been suffering from either of these two mental disorders, next I’ll very briefly describe few most common symptoms of each one in relation to sexual addiction.
The male sexual addicts’ most common BPD symptom manifests itself through an out of control, self destructive, compulsive sexual behavior around meeting random women in the area of dating or the area of seduction. They initially engage in such anomalous behavior thanks to their fear of abandonment that often comes from unresolved conflicts from their past relationships with their parents or their peers where a parent or a peer emotionally neglected them or didn’t show enough caring love and understanding to them especially when facing stressful situations at an early age.
Either a parent or a peer hurt their self esteem so badly that while growing up they started massively losing self-belief and self-confidence all up to the point of losing track of who they really are and what their purpose on earth is. This is why the men who’re stuck in borderline personality disorder often go through sudden and dramatic shifts in their self-image, shifting goals, values and vocational aspirations.
As a result, they feel so abandoned, empty and emotionally unstable that their neurotic or anxiety-fuelled drive makes them desperately search for a quick fix just to fill up their emptiness and insecurity no matter what. This is how men who are obsessed with sex end up boldly and frantically approaching random women purely as their sexual objects in high-risk social situations.
The male sexual addicts’ most common NPD symptom manifests itself through an abnormal sense of entitlement and emotional unavailability when meeting women in the fields of dating and seduction. They also have a fear of abandonment but in the sense of fearing the loss of their narcissistic supply and their sense of entitlement.
In short, the narcissistic supply relates to the show-off things that a narcissist likes to use just to boost his ego and draw attention or admiration from others. These are things like money, compliments, a favourable critique, an appearance in the media or a sexual conquest. And, he shows them off with grandeur.
It’s important that you understand that he does it for the same reason of lacking a stable identity as in the BPD sufferers.
As for the narcissist’s sense of entitlement, he’s so abnormally convinced that he’s entitled to get whatever he sets his eyes on that you could easily get him into a sudden outburst of his narcissistic rage if you don’t let him have what he wants. This is primarily where his fear and anxiety usually come from.
So, in terms of the seduction game, this type of abnormal, over-the-top behavior goes hand in hand with the out-of-control, compulsive sexual behavior of the BPD male sufferers in the way that the NPD man might expose himself to even a greater risk and danger.
So, for example, his neurotic urge could take him as far as boldly approaching a random woman checking up shelves at a supermarket and going for any kind of sexual contact with her in a matter of seconds.
If you wonder how he could do the latter, the answer lies in his emotional unavailability that comes from his other fear - fear of intimacy or the engulfment fear. That’s basically the NPD sufferer’s worst enemy that keeps him well away from healthy relationships and pushes him into devastating and traumatic intervals of depression and loneliness.
So, this is it as far as my introduction to this thread goes.
Hopefully, there’ll be somebody who might relate to these mental health issues and be
happy to join in the discussion.
In advance thank you all.
Bruno
As a middle age Catholic man who’s gone through all the pain and struggles of both BPD (borderline personality disorder) and NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) related sexual addiction since my late teenage years up until recently, I’ve got inspired to start a discussion on this serious mental health issue characteric of men who are seduced into:
a) the popular culture’s sphere of dating, or
b) the social subculture known as the pickup arts (PUA) or seduction arts community where I ended up and stayed there until I realized that it started taking its toll on both my mental health and my entire life.
On that note, I now wonder if there’re any Catholic men on these forums whose mental health also got affected by the aforementioned two types of personality disorders related to the issue of sexual addiction.
For those who’re not completely sure whether they’ve been suffering from either of these two mental disorders, next I’ll very briefly describe few most common symptoms of each one in relation to sexual addiction.
The male sexual addicts’ most common BPD symptom manifests itself through an out of control, self destructive, compulsive sexual behavior around meeting random women in the area of dating or the area of seduction. They initially engage in such anomalous behavior thanks to their fear of abandonment that often comes from unresolved conflicts from their past relationships with their parents or their peers where a parent or a peer emotionally neglected them or didn’t show enough caring love and understanding to them especially when facing stressful situations at an early age.
Either a parent or a peer hurt their self esteem so badly that while growing up they started massively losing self-belief and self-confidence all up to the point of losing track of who they really are and what their purpose on earth is. This is why the men who’re stuck in borderline personality disorder often go through sudden and dramatic shifts in their self-image, shifting goals, values and vocational aspirations.
As a result, they feel so abandoned, empty and emotionally unstable that their neurotic or anxiety-fuelled drive makes them desperately search for a quick fix just to fill up their emptiness and insecurity no matter what. This is how men who are obsessed with sex end up boldly and frantically approaching random women purely as their sexual objects in high-risk social situations.
The male sexual addicts’ most common NPD symptom manifests itself through an abnormal sense of entitlement and emotional unavailability when meeting women in the fields of dating and seduction. They also have a fear of abandonment but in the sense of fearing the loss of their narcissistic supply and their sense of entitlement.
In short, the narcissistic supply relates to the show-off things that a narcissist likes to use just to boost his ego and draw attention or admiration from others. These are things like money, compliments, a favourable critique, an appearance in the media or a sexual conquest. And, he shows them off with grandeur.
It’s important that you understand that he does it for the same reason of lacking a stable identity as in the BPD sufferers.
As for the narcissist’s sense of entitlement, he’s so abnormally convinced that he’s entitled to get whatever he sets his eyes on that you could easily get him into a sudden outburst of his narcissistic rage if you don’t let him have what he wants. This is primarily where his fear and anxiety usually come from.
So, in terms of the seduction game, this type of abnormal, over-the-top behavior goes hand in hand with the out-of-control, compulsive sexual behavior of the BPD male sufferers in the way that the NPD man might expose himself to even a greater risk and danger.
So, for example, his neurotic urge could take him as far as boldly approaching a random woman checking up shelves at a supermarket and going for any kind of sexual contact with her in a matter of seconds.
If you wonder how he could do the latter, the answer lies in his emotional unavailability that comes from his other fear - fear of intimacy or the engulfment fear. That’s basically the NPD sufferer’s worst enemy that keeps him well away from healthy relationships and pushes him into devastating and traumatic intervals of depression and loneliness.
So, this is it as far as my introduction to this thread goes.
Hopefully, there’ll be somebody who might relate to these mental health issues and be
happy to join in the discussion.
In advance thank you all.
Bruno