Wow, this is news to me, why didn’t anyone in RCIA tell me that?
Oh my! Its funny, the Priest didn’t say anything to me about it either when I explained my situation to him.
Don’t get discouraged because some here in CAF want to paint things in the harshest possible light for you.
You are not yet a member of the Church if I understand your posts.
There is a broad range of pastoral approaches to your situation. You are not yet under church law (you are under moral law of course). You probably didn’t know what you were getting into when you got married. What people have said is true to a point… but the harshest assessments of the situation would be reserved for a Catholic who knew better and got themselves into the situation anyway with full intent and knowledge. That doesn’t mean your situation doesn’t need remedy, it does mean a good pastor will approach it in a sensitive and constructive way. If someone here wants to point fingers and call people sinners, they would do well to take care of their own souls first. You are responsible to consult with your parish priest and follow his advice. Don’t let the picky hens here disrupt your desire to enter into communion with the Church.
Some will point out that some pastors are more liberal than others, and take issue with the decisions of some priests. If they would consult that code of canon law for more than talking issues to point fingers at others over, they would see that the individual has a duty to be respectful of their priests. If they have an issue with the actions and decisions of their priest, they can take it up with their bishop. If they have an issue with the decisions or spiritual directions of someone else’s priest… thats just too bad.
They can write a letter if they feel particularly outraged, which will go right into the circular file most likely.
They should not be burdening you with more than YOUR pastor has chosen to burden you with at this point in your own particular spiritual journey.
God bless you!
I’m praying all the marriage issues are resolved and you find your way home :
This forum sometimes lacks charity in their zeal.
Some of us have been frustrated with very lax pastors, as a result, sometimes they lash out any any seeming lapse. This ignores the reality that a pastor has the authority to seek pastoral solutions to the predicaments in which people find themselves.
MarysRoses