Anybody's Wife a Doctor?

[Mountains]

Is anybody married to a female doctor? How does this work out? Does it work to date in med school?

 

[RevDrNorth]

Is anybody married to a female doctor? How does this work out? Does it work to date in med school?

I am not nor do I play one on TV but I do know someone who is and has been for a while (grown children). As far as I know they have had a happy and Christ centered marriage. She is a high powered doctor and he is not. He is educated and intelligent but has done a variety of other things.

There is no reason it cannot work. If you will not be of the same social status then you both have to be comfortable with that. She may benefit from your added support of her career, etc. I have known personally of other situations where the wife had the high status and high paid job and the husband had a more mundane job. Again, the couple were both comfortable with it and the husband was self confident enough that he did not have his ego hurt and act out in passive aggressive ways.

God gifts people in different ways and that does not mean you cannot compliment each other. Be aware of the issues that will arise in your different vocations because of social issues (which are changing). There will probably be occasions where the two of you are introduced and a sexist assumption will kick in that you are the doctor or you will be at parties together and surrounded by men who are all doctors and you may feel somewhat left out (they initially assuming that you are a doctor as well). Again, if your egos are not bothered by such issues then it will work out.

I think of a slightly different situation recently where the first women General (4 star) was given her star. Her dutiful husband was by her side. He was a retired officer (possibly a LTC or COL?). General Casey (a man) joked about the soon to be 4 star’s husband helping to brighten up the spouses meeting at the annual 4 star conference (and I am sure he is the only man among the spouses). A situation where the wife has not just a high powered but as a 4 star a very high powered career.

With eyes wide open following the leading of God. These social issues are more often than not man made and do have real consequences. If God has meant for you to love and marry that person then as long as you look to Him in your marriage, these other things can be dealt with.

 

[Mountains]

I have no problem with social standing. I am working on a master’s. I have a good professional job with plenty of wow-factor in status.

Does anybody’s wife-doctor tease you about making more money? I make a lot, but she’ll be making more. Sometimes I think it doesn’t hurt, but she teases so much. I think as a man I need to be more of a leader.

How does having kids while a doctor work? Can you have kids while in residency? What about after that? How much time can you take off?

It seems to me that women doctors can’t really breastfeed. Breastfeeding is really important. It seems like God made things so women are supposed to stay with their babies and breastfeed them. But if he is also calling a married woman to be a doctor (or a doctor to be married), then how is this reconciled?

Who takes care of the kids after school, on breaks, or when school is cancelled or they have a holiday?