Anyone else dealing with election fallout?

[AClaire11]

My half-brother’s wife, who I’ve always gotten along well with, has cut ties with me because I voted for a different candidate and commented that people on social media are being melodramatic. I’m shaking and in tears. I can’t believe this.

 

[Xantippe]

My half-brother’s wife, who I’ve always gotten along well with, has cut ties with me because I voted for a different candidate and commented that people on social media are being melodramatic. I’m shaking and in tears. I can’t believe this.

That’s so sad!

Feelings are running pretty high now. Give her a couple of weeks to cool off and then make a friendly overture around Thanksgiving. If she doesn’t respond favorably, it’s her move.

 

[1ke]

Nope.

If someone cut ties with me based on that, I would not shed tears over it. Such a person is either nutso or a drama momma.

I’m sorry this happened to you. Family stinks some times when they are unreasonable and downright silly.

 

[oldgraymare2]

Hi AClaire,

Ohh, I’m so very, very, sorry to hear this.

I hope that everything can be worked out, and that your relationship can get back on track again.

I will pray for you. Hang in there. :grouphug:

 

[brian_custer]

if you voted pro life; you did the right thing thing

don’t sweat other persons’ opinion

 

[tawny]

Obviously this person doesn’t believe in the basic right of you to have your own opinion. It’s for her to deal with, not you.

 

[Tim_D]

My half-brother’s wife, who I’ve always gotten along well with, has cut ties with me because I voted for a different candidate and commented that people on social media are being melodramatic. I’m shaking and in tears. I can’t believe this.

Is she in high school? I’d tell her to “grow up.”

 

[pianistclare]

This.

Don’t lose any sleep over it. You’re a beautiful person. Her loss.

 

[KS_Housewife]

My half-brother’s wife, who I’ve always gotten along well with, has cut ties with me because I voted for a different candidate and commented that people on social media are being melodramatic. I’m shaking and in tears. I can’t believe this.

Wow, that is too bad! How silly of her, and the ball is in her court to fix the relationship. I’ve had family who wanted to not vote for the candidate I favored and whether or not a third-party candidate vote is wasted, but no broken relationships in my family. A neighbor was rude to me about a candidate I favored, but she apologized.

 

[Mark121359]

As pianistclare rightly said, don’t lose any sleep over it. OTOH, there’s the N. Y. Times. Now there’s some people suffering from serious election fallout! Might be prudent for the NYPD to keep an eye on the Brooklyn Bridge…and maybe the Verrazano bridge as well!

Peace, Mark

 

[KS_Housewife]

My head is spinning with all of the over-the-top drama from those who were disappointed by the presidential election results. Riots and protests, with participants waving posters saying “the revolution begins.” Californians wanting to leave the union. An area campus organization hosting a “safe space to discuss the election result”. Declarations that the country has lurched to the right or left. Students walking out of school to protest the vote, with smiling approving adults looking on, crowing about student freedom of expression. Aside from some people in Texas threatening to secede, I don’t remember any of this after President Obama was elected either time. Good heavens, didn’t Mrs. Clinton tell everyone to pull together?

 

[brian_custer]

my parish priest said “vote pro life”

if you did that rest assured you did the right thing

i wouldn’t be worried about what flake in-laws think about it

 

[jaimeleglise]

I unfriended some relatives on Facebook not because they voted differently but because they insulted me and my candidate (Trump) and said things that are not true. It was not so much an act of anger but more an act of self protection. I don’t want to see the silly lies, false logic and insults they have to offer. It upsets me too much. I will be civil to them in real life. I mainly unfriended them because I don’t want to argue any longer with them.

As for the protests, I think that is very childish. I admire how both major candidates remained civil in their acceptance/concession speeches.

 

[SuperLuigi]

My half-brother’s wife, who I’ve always gotten along well with, has cut ties with me because I voted for a different candidate and commented that people on social media are being melodramatic. I’m shaking and in tears. I can’t believe this.

Sorry to hear this has shaken you up so much. :console:

To answer your question, yes, but I’ve been at this for a long time, and I just don’t care what other people think.

I will also point out if you are going to defend proper Catholic values, experiences like these happen.

 

[EasterJoy]

People are going a little bananas right now. You have to hope they’ll calm down a bit, but in the meantime, what can you do? Don’t talk politics with them, and other than that, there is nothing you can do.

It is a shock to be shunned by a family member, however, but particularly when you had no idea you were making a decision that could have that kind of fall-out. It might help you to have someone unrelated to your family relationships to “de-brief” with. It hurts, but you can learn to cope with it. Try to hang in there and learn to let go of things beyond your control.

 

[Giggly_Giraffe]

Here’s Why We Grieve Today
NOVEMBER 9, 2016 / JOHN PAVLOVITZ
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I don’t think you understand us right now.

I think you think this is about politics.

I think you believe this is all just sour grapes; the crocodile tears of the losing locker room with the scoreboard going against us at the buzzer.

I can only tell you that you’re wrong. This is not about losing an election. This isn’t about not winning a contest. This is about two very different ways of seeing the world.

Hillary supporters believe in a diverse America; one where religion or skin color or sexual orientation or place of birth aren’t liabilities or deficiencies or moral defects. Her campaign was one of inclusion and connection and interdependency. It was about building bridges and breaking ceilings. It was about going high.

Trump supporters believe in a very selective America; one that is largely white and straight and Christian, and the voting verified this. Donald Trump has never made any assertions otherwise. He ran a campaign of fear and exclusion and isolation—and that’s the vision of the world those who voted for him have endorsed.

They have aligned with the wall-builder and the professed p*ssy-grabber, and they have co-signed his body of work, regardless of the reasons they give for their vote:

Every horrible thing Donald Trump ever said about women or Muslims or people of color has now been validated.
Every profanity-laced press conference and every call to bully protestors and every ignorant diatribe has been endorsed.
Every piece of anti-LGBTQ legislation Mike Pence has championed has been signed-off on.

Half of our country has declared these things acceptable, noble, American.

This is the disconnect and the source of our grief today. It isn’t a political defeat that we’re lamenting, it’s a defeat for Humanity.

We’re not angry that our candidate lost. We’re angry because our candidate’s losing means this country will be less safe, less kind, and less available to a huge segment of its population, and that’s just the truth.

Those who have always felt vulnerable are now left more so. Those whose voices have been silenced will be further quieted. Those who always felt marginalized will be pushed further to the periphery. Those who feared they were seen as inferior now have confirmation in actual percentages.

Those things have essentially been campaign promises of Donald Trump, and so many of our fellow citizens have said this is what they want too.

This has never been about politics.
This is not about one candidate over the other.
It’s not about one’s ideas over another’s.
It is not blue vs. red.
It’s not her emails vs. his bad language.
It’s not her dishonesty vs. his indecency.

It’s about overt racism and hostility toward minorities.
It’s about religion being weaponized.
It’s about crassness and vulgarity and disregard for women.
It’s about a barricaded, militarized, bully nation.
It’s about an unapologetic, open-faced ugliness.

And it is not only that these things have been ratified by our nation that grieve us; all this hatred, fear, racism, bigotry, and intolerance—it’s knowing that these things have been amen-ed by our neighbors, our families, our friends, those we work with and worship alongside. That is the most horrific thing of all. We now know how close this is.

It feels like living in enemy territory being here now, and there’s no way around that. We wake up today in a home we no longer recognize. We are grieving the loss of a place we used to love but no longer do. This may be America today but it is not the America we believe in or recognize or want.

This is not about a difference of political opinion, as that’s far too small to mourn over. It’s about a fundamental difference in how we view the worth of all people—not just those who look or talk or think or vote the way we do.

Grief always laments what might have been, the future we were robbed of, the tomorrow that we won’t get to see, and that is what we walk through today. As a nation we had an opportunity to affirm the beauty of our diversity this day, to choose ideas over sound bytes, to let everyone know they had a place at the table, to be the beacon of goodness and decency we imagine that we are—and we said no.

The Scriptures say that weeping endures for a night but joy comes in the morning. We can’t see that dawn coming any time soon.

And this is why we grieve.:

I’m not a Hilary fan, but what this minister says rings so true in my heart. Anger, rejection are part of grief, & this is what is going through her heart probably.

 

[AClaire11]

Thank you for all the kind replies. Hopefully the rest of my friends and family will be more mature. It’s crazy how many people see a vote as a direct attack on them.

Is she in high school? I’d tell her to “grow up.”

In her 40s.

 

[Lea101]

weell, if it helps… she was probably in tears too. Whether her fear is for nothing, or that it is valid is another thing.

my point is that the elections are a stressful time for both sides. You have Trump and Clinton. It was an ugly race, ugly result no matter what. Take a deep breath, continue to love out loud and don’t talk about politics anytime soon!

 

[57classic]

And this is exactly how I and my family and most of my community, my state, my region of the nation have felt for the last 8 years.

 

[Giggly_Giraffe]

I’m also thinking, you believe that electing Trump will have a positive change to protect babies on the womb.. However, this was not Trumps main platform.

I believe it was our Bishopes rally that voting for Trump protects babies in the womb. It was our Bishopes who pushed this agenda and the Priests spread the word; the layfaithful did a wonderful job of keeping this rally strong. I may have remembered during the campaign Trump saying he didn’t think abortions were good, but he did like the other services PP did.
In many ways, us Christians were spreading a word that those outside our group did not hear.

I voted for a third party. If I heard from Trump use the same passion as he did to build a wall applied to protecting babies in the womb, I would have voted for him. The distinction is that it was the Bishops not the horse.

Now, if your SIL is outside the catholic circle … well, she was excluded. She does not see any hope in the elected vote. Rather, she will remember the exclusion the Trump campaign promoted. Sadly, us laity did not do a good job of including others in the Bishopes messageeither, there by creating a deeper rift and misunderstanding on what you believe.

I urge you to acknowledge the bad of Trump that you do not agree with as a starter conversation and then lead into the light we WANT Trump to do.