Anyone else want to take the "no insult" challenge?

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Recently, at work, I’ve experienced verbal abuse from two co-workers. 😦 Without elaborating, their insults have been deeply hurtful to me. It’s made me apprehensive and slightly depressed to go to work.
This trial has made me reevaluate the way I communicate with other people and I’ve decided to make some radical changes. Before, I’ve gossiped about celebrities and other co-workers I didn’t like or blamed for some fault. Now I’ve experienced first-hand the terrible effects that malicious gossip can cause in my own life. I would certainly not wish this type of psychological turmoil and the possible ill effects to reputation on others due to slander on my part. I consider gossip to be a great, great evil; one that has done great harm to me personally.
From this period onward, I’ve decided to challenge myself to engage in conversation that is “insult free” whether it be gossip concerning someone or outright insults of any kind. I will not even be an enabler or eager listener of someone else’s gossip. That is why I extend this challenge to all of you. Will you try for a month to avoid gossip of any kind? If only people understood how much pain they cause by being uncharitable with their words, they might also experience an epiphany or life changing event in terms of how they speak.
 
I’m sorry that you’ve had to endure this negative experience, but I think you have an excellent idea. We’ve had a lot of turmoil in our parish the last few years, and I used to talk about it with other parishioners. I didn’t think of it as gossiping so much as venting. When then the priest “vented” at me and let me tell you what a belittling experience that was. I decided that although I can’t others, I can change myself. Since that time, I have really tried to keep negative or rude comments to myself. Our situation at church hasn’t really improved, but I feel much better about myself and how I am dealing with it.
 
Mark:
Sorry you have to go through this pain. But like Roman 8:28 says
“We know that all things work for good for those who love God, who are called according to his purpose.” If it were not for this experience, you probably won’t have such a profound realization.

God does not like idle talk. Once we realize it, we can avoid the sin of gossip. I have long refrained myself from gossip. If someone gossips in front of me, I do not respond in any way so the person may stop. I am not trying in any way to show “holier than thou”, this is probably just part of my natural personality. I remember from my young age if one friend told me to keep some secret, I can always keep it to myself and myself alone. I can still remember some of the “secret”, those “not to tell anyone” things up till today. And those things have never been mentioned to a single soul.😉 And for things I heard but not told to keep secret, I won’t spread it if it is to do one’s reputation or privacy.
 
i’m in.

it ain’t gonna be easy. can i come back to this thread and confess and be forgiven?
 
Anyone struggling to keep their tongue under control should read James chapter 3.
 
This is good! Ok, I’m in, too. A month, with the hope of aquiring a new virtue for life.

I’ve got myself a little chatterbox of a mouth- I know I need to be the master of my tongue, and not the other way around.
 
well, that was fast. forgive me, catholic answers, for i have sinned.

of a television personality, my mom said: “he’s a moron!” i instantly replied: “he is a moron!”

d’oh!
 
Yep, I just decided yesterday morning that this resolution would be an excellent one for my melancholic personality. And, by evening I’d broken it a dozen times.

Try, try again.
 
Here, here!

It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it, as someone’s signature says.
 
this is already a really interesting experiment. i’ve gone two days now without actually insulting anyone, but when i checked my online news aggregator, the only headline i clicked on was:

screaming paris hilton dragged back to jail.

that definitely falls into the category of malicious gossip, which was the original purpose of the no insult challenge. plus it betrays a startling lack of curiosity about the world that i would skim past all the important stuff in order to revel in the woes of PARIS HILTON! gah!
 
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