Anyone feel like they won't ever get married?

[zaramarie81]

hi!
i know this thread has been posted for like 7 months ago but i just signed up and i was asking our Lord to lead me to some posts i could connect with. well, yours definitely got my attention and i just had to connect. and reply at that.
i am just like the many who have posted about their worries and fears of being single and not finding the ‘one’ who has the same upbringing that i have with our Catholic faith. And even if i do meet someone, he would either be in a relationship already or someone who is just half-baked. It is rather hard to find one nowadays who could parallel your ideas and vision. But one thing is for sure, as one friend has told me, – Never give up your ideals! Don’t settle for anything less than what the One has intended for you. Sometimes, in our lack of patience, we tend to be blinded by what the world dictates. But if we realize that only in Him can we find the best and the fullness of what life can give, then, we only need to wait. For He brings with Him what our hearts truly desires.
And for those who have been blessed with the fruit of their patience, I honor you for not giving up your ideals. You serve as inspiration.
Praise be our God of Love!

It is hard to keep a clear head, sometimes, right? Here’s a thought/story that may be encouraging to all who are seeking good Catholics to marry. Your future spouse may not, in fact, have been raised Catholic like you were. But that’s okay… converts can be some of the most holy Catholics! My twin married a man who converted. While their backgrounds are different, it’s a joyful marriage, centered on the Catholic faith. A friend of mine, who married in her 30’s, pointed out to me once, “You know, you may very well be ready for marriage, but the other person God has in mind may not be. You never know what they’re journey might look like.” So yeah… you just never know… I also have two engaged friends who met in RCIA. They are the most devout couple! Their wedding is this December.

 

[chevalier]

Is this “pick on Garion” day?!?!

Thanks for the idea.

 

[ChadS]

I can completely sympathize with many of the people that have posted here. In fact I’m still in the same boat as many on this thread. I’m 34 and it seems that the right woman for me is still in hiding. Most of my friends are married with married friends so in many ways I seem left out in the cold in that front. My parish seems to be mostly made up of old people with nary a person in my age group out there.

However, I did learn a long time ago that God has different plans for each and everyone of us. So setting timetables for ourselves, such as wanting to be married at the same age our parents were, rarely if ever works out. I am confident I can find a good Catholic woman out there that’s made just for me.

ChadS

 

[agapewolf]

Hi Chad

Btw, I’m 34/f

:juggle: yoo hoo…over here…

 

[beckers]

Hi Chad

Btw, I’m 34/f

:juggle: yoo hoo…over here…

Dang she got in before I could introduce myself.

I feel like i am at a wedding and always the girl just out of the reach of the bouquet!

 

[CWBetts]

Well i’m single, almost 38, and am justabout convinced I’ll be a kifelong bachelor.

 

[justlookingny]

The holidays are coming :snowing:** Can you all please adopt me and help me get through the holiday season?** I can’t bear going through yet ANOTHER lonely, Thanksgiving, :christmastree1: Christmas, :winter: New Year(s) and Valentines Day…37 years of these…all I want is a hubby …is that too much to ask? :tissues:

 

[Belgarion]

The holidays are coming :snowing:** Can you all please adopt me and help me get through the holiday season?** I can’t bear going through yet ANOTHER lonely, Thanksgiving, :christmastree1: Christmas, :winter: New Year(s) and Valentines Day…37 years of these…all I want is a hubby …is that too much to ask? :tissues:

Aw…I’ll pray for you! I can hardly bear it at 19!

If only I was a little older…

 

[justlookingny]

• OK you were all just cordially invited to attend my pity party celebrated in my previous post!!! Yay that was fun! lol If you don’t mind, I’d like a do-over! LOL It would probably be best to pick myself up and dust myself off…huh?! OK…heres a new positive post for all those who are single, seeking loving spouses (especially through the holiday season)…*

Saint Teresa of Avila was on one of those old horse carriages once, on her way to do some needed work for the Lord and the church. She needed to get there on time, when all of a sudden one of the Wheels broke and all heck broke loose. I do not know if you have read Saint Teresa of Avila, but if you haven’t, she had quite the temper and sharp words. When she got off the carriage she looked up at the sky and said to the Lord…“If this is the way You treat Your friends, no wonder You have such few”
Right now many of us sound like Saint Teresa. (OH I KNOW I JUST DID!)

The One that can see it all, can also prevent it all. Gods’ ways are out of our league to understand. Trust me, I’ve had my Teresa moments with Him. I understand you all, I always thought I would be one of those catholic women that would give birth to a future priest or nun for the church. I had dreams of having at least 3. I am now 37 and I still don’t even have one kid. And the husband is no where in site in order to have the family with!

Maybe we should all during the holiday season…Go to the Blessed Sacrament, take this time to do things for the Lord and read a couple of books like Saint Rita of Cascia (she was married with kids), The last Teresa of Calcuta book on her period of spiritual dryness. Prepare ourselves spiritually for that possible family He could give us. We would’t want to be unprepared for what He could be working hard preparing for us. Instead of wasting our time getting to the point of frustation, we need to start preparing ourselves for what could be coming, as an act of faith and trust towards our hard working Lord! We all (well, I can’t speak for ALL of us) need to start by getting rid of the old stuff in our closets…get rid of yesterday and make room for that new family you could be given. We need to get back on that Carraige and have FAITH…a little less sharp tongue!!! Because you know sometimes we ask for cherries and he may wind up giving us oranges, but they’re really good too!!!
My Christmas wish is that someday soon, each of us on this loooooooong list can all sing “Unanswered Prayers” by Garth Brooks…heck, maybe we can even record it and become rich and famous together! LOL

 

[Sierrah]

Sierrah Christmas List

Wanted
Nice Guy between 35-45. Must like the outdoors or an Active Schedule. Must want kids or be open to adoption. Must be willing to commit and not afraid of a church.

Will Settle for:
A date for New Years Eve. Never had one of those.

Most likely to get for Christmas …2 days of my families company eating…yes that’s the one thing we all agree on and like to do.

Date for New’s Eve…not looking to good right now. Oh well there’s always hope for next year. :extrahappy: :dancing:

 

[zaramarie81]

• OK you were all just cordially invited to attend my pity party celebrated in my previous post!!! Yay that was fun! lol If you don’t mind, I’d like a do-over! LOL It would probably be best to pick myself up and dust myself off…huh?! OK…heres a new positive post for all those who are single, seeking loving spouses (especially through the holiday season)…*

Saint Teresa of Avila was on one of those old horse carriages once, on her way to do some needed work for the Lord and the church. She needed to get there on time, when all of a sudden one of the Wheels broke and all heck broke loose. I do not know if you have read Saint Teresa of Avila, but if you haven’t, she had quite the temper and sharp words. When she got off the carriage she looked up at the sky and said to the Lord…“If this is the way You treat Your friends, no wonder You have such few”
Right now many of us sound like Saint Teresa. (OH I KNOW I JUST DID!)

The One that can see it all, can also prevent it all. Gods’ ways are out of our league to understand. Trust me, I’ve had my Teresa moments with Him. I understand you all, I always thought I would be one of those catholic women that would give birth to a future priest or nun for the church. I had dreams of having at least 3. I am now 37 and I still don’t even have one kid. And the husband is no where in site in order to have the family with!

Maybe we should all during the holiday season…Go to the Blessed Sacrament, take this time to do things for the Lord and read a couple of books like Saint Rita of Cascia (she was married with kids), The last Teresa of Calcuta book on her period of spiritual dryness. Prepare ourselves spiritually for that possible family He could give us. We would’t want to be unprepared for what He could be working hard preparing for us. Instead of wasting our time getting to the point of frustation, we need to start preparing ourselves for what could be coming, as an act of faith and trust towards our hard working Lord! We all (well, I can’t speak for ALL of us) need to start by getting rid of the old stuff in our closets…get rid of yesterday and make room for that new family you could be given. We need to get back on that Carraige and have FAITH…a little less sharp tongue!!! Because you know sometimes we ask for cherries and he may wind up giving us oranges, but they’re really good too!!!
My Christmas wish is that someday soon, each of us on this loooooooong list can all sing “Unanswered Prayers” by Garth Brooks…heck, maybe we can even record it and become rich and famous together! LOL

These are wise words. I’ll have to remember them this holiday season.

 

[celticcrusader]

Sierrah Christmas List

Wanted
Nice Guy between 35-45. Must like the outdoors or an Active Schedule. Must want kids or be open to adoption. Must be willing to commit and not afraid of a church.

Will Settle for:
A date for New Years Eve. Never had one of those.

Most likely to get for Christmas …2 days of my families company eating…yes that’s the one thing we all agree on and like to do.

Date for New’s Eve…not looking to good right now. Oh well there’s always hope for next year. :extrahappy: :dancing:

I will tell you from my experience new years with out a date is ok I just celebrated New Year with my AOH Brothers and we had a good time!

 

[Cliff_Jumper]

I feel that way too. Although first I need to get a girlfriend which hasn’t happened as of yet.

 

[Sierrah]

I feel that way too. Although first I need to get a girlfriend which hasn’t happened as of yet.

Oh a BF would be nice but I’d just settle for the date.

 

[Cliff_Jumper]

a date would be nice too. I haven’t had one of those either.

 

[zaramarie81]

a date would be nice too. I haven’t had one of those either.

Hmmm… I am wondering. For those of you who would like dates… are there any eligible people around to ask? Anyone you’re interested in getting to know? Just pondering… there is still time before New Year’s after all. And in regards to gender, well, I have to confess, I asked my boyfriend out before he asked me. Not sure if our relationship will lead to marriage (sigh), but it sure got the ball rolling in the right direction! Which brings up another topic… should guys always do the asking?

 

[Cliff_Jumper]

for me the the only eligible people are generally, older about 10 years older. For some reason I always get along better with older women. Girls my age don’t quite like me.

 

[zaramarie81]

for me the the only eligible people are generally, older about 10 years older. For some reason I always get along better with older women. Girls my age don’t quite like me.

Interesting. I am actually 2 years older than my boyfriend (not the same as 10, I know). That brings up yet another question… what is generally seen as a good age difference among singles today? Where do people tend to draw the line?

I have noticed men much older than me tend to show interest, which yeah is more traditional but still, 10 - 12 years is a notable gap, no matter the gender. I’ve yet to date anyone that much older mostly because the difference in life experiences concerns me, but I’ve known of many happy, Christian couples who have up to 15 years differences (once again, usually the man being older).

Anyway, sorry to ramble… just thinking out loud. I’ve been pondering alot lately, lol.

 

[Sierrah]

Interesting. I am actually 2 years older than my boyfriend (not the same as 10, I know). That brings up yet another question… what is generally seen as a good age difference among singles today? Where do people tend to draw the line?

I have noticed men much older than me tend to show interest, which yeah is more traditional but still, 10 - 12 years is a notable gap, no matter the gender. I’ve yet to date anyone that much older mostly because the difference in life experiences concerns me, but I’ve known of many happy, Christian couples who have up to 15 years differences (once again, usually the man being older).

Anyway, sorry to ramble… just thinking out loud. I’ve been pondering alot lately, lol.

Most of the guys that do show interest in me are either 10 plus years older or 8 years younger. Granted most people say I look younger (maybe 5 years) so maybe that explains the younger ones but what does that say about the older ones. I’m always open about my age…don’t care except that I would like to find someone before I expire… Age really isn’t so much the issue as compatibility of morals, faith and communication…note that doesn’t mean I’m looking for a dad or grandpa either.

 

[Belgarion]

I’m mostly attracted to older women

Though usually they are but months older than I

Or rather 1 month and 16 days