Hmm -
In short, becoming a bigger person. This may sound like blasphemy, but it’s a bit like gaining levels in World of Warcraft.
I’m sure it’s mostly a matter of time, but until then… sigh. Thanks again.
Hi Morwenna…A small request:
If anyone knows how to format the above list into two columns (instead of a single long column) using the tools available on CAF, would you please let me know?
I tried setting it up in Excel, but the columnar formatting is lost when pasting into CAF. I’ve also tried fiddling with the indent feature, with no success either.
Any “hints” are much appreciated!
Please may I join the list too?
I could do what she has done: I am sure I would be very good at living in sin if that is what I wanted to do
- but while I still believe it is God’s will for me to help create a happy family unit, I do not believe the way to achieve that is through being untrue to myself to begin with.):clapping: Very well said, very well said indeed! I understand what you mean. My sister has had two husbands, has kived with two other men since then, the one she is living with now says they will get married, but there is a little case of the fact that his divorce from his second wife isn’t finalized. And they berate me for converting away from “real” Christianity to Catholicism! (Sorry I know its a little off topic). Her oldest daughter is 20 with 2 children (unmarried). So many people today see sex as “no big deal” (Thaks largely to contraception). Sex is viewed as a recreational activity with a child being seen as an unfortuate side effect, rather than as the desired end of sexual relations. Furthermore, finding someone in my own age bracket who is eligable to be married in the CHurch is next to impossible. I am in my late 30s, so those women close to my age who are “single” are actually divorced, so in the eyes of God, not truly single. I am starting to believe I may be called to the single life, which I do not look foreward to. But If such is the case, then any attempts at a marriage will end in disaster. But that does not cuase me to stop praying that God sends someone my way.
It is really easy to feel quite sad about it all if you see lots of people you know getting married with full Catholic Mass when you know full well that they have been living together / use contraception / have had several sexual partners before and you are alone because you have refused to compromise yourself or your beliefs.
Of course, the Christian thing to do is to rejoice that these people are making an effort to bring the Church into their lives and give them the benefit of the doubt about having been to confession and being resolved to start a new life together.
Somebody really upset me yesterday. She has been married before and after living with her partner, they married in a civil ceremony and now have a little boy. She was berating me for not understanding how difficult the role of motherhood is. I felt like saying ‘if only I had the chance!’
I am starting to get really down about it sometimes, because unless you are actually called to a single life (maybe even if you are?) the loneliness and feelings of rejection are always there. I do not think this feeling is making me a better person, or a nicer person. I try to make my life full and being realistic, I have probably the largest network of friends of anyone I know, but it isn’t quite the same, is it?
I feel I have lived by myself a long time. I have proved to myself and others that I can support myself and I can lead a full life. I enjoy the world and I marvel at the world - but I want to share my love with someone special who will help me become a better person too, by loving me in return. Now that I finally feel I have something to ‘bring’ to a relationship and I am not looking to fulfil a fantasy about a big fancy wedding, or to cut my utility bills(!) it seems I’ve missed out!
Another hurtful thing someone said to me is ‘you’ve got your own business and a nice house - you don’t actually need anyone, do you?’ Well, yes, I do! But to me, marrying for financial security is little better than prostitution
I can’t be the only one to feel like this, can I?!
I just misunderstood you…Just kidding…I understand and you are right.
That’s why people should meet face to face and talk like people. If they like code, they should learn C++.
yeah that true…That’s why people should meet face to face and talk like people. If they like code, they should learn C++.
And courage, Lenni, you will deal with it.
Rose, you are definitely not the only one feeling like this. I hate hearing things like, “you don’t need someone…you can take care of yourself!” or “you don’t need a guy”…