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HeWillProvide
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Do you want to remain single for the rest of your life? Why? Do you think your reasons are selfish?
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strngrnrth
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Is it selfish to eat? We would be dead without some selfishness. I prefer not to be married because marriage sounds like an intolerable way of life. I tried to get my head around the idea for a long time but I gave it up. I don’t want to live with a man and be his wife. I don’t see anything to like about it.
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forgiveall
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We eat to live, not live to eat. There is a difference. Without man there is no woman, with out women there is no man, and without God there is neither.
I once heard a Friar explain his life like this. It isn’t I who wants to be here, I would like to be somewhere else. But my peace is knowing that I’m supposed to be here because this is where God wants me.
I hope this helps
God bless everything you do in the name of Jesus.
Keep praying
I once heard a Friar explain his life like this. It isn’t I who wants to be here, I would like to be somewhere else. But my peace is knowing that I’m supposed to be here because this is where God wants me.
I hope this helps
God bless everything you do in the name of Jesus.
Keep praying
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ReginaCoeli
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I have no desire to ever marry. I want to dedicate my life to the Lord. If I am not called to be a religious, then I will probably live a life of lay service to the church. It has been my personal experience that I am able to live a holier, more Christ-centered life without any romantic relationships. Just my two cents. 
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cecilia97
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Amen! My marriage (since found invalid) became a stumbling block and even a sort of “idol” that I let get between me and God. I’m much happier and closer to God being single, for now. If I ever remarry, it will be because God smacks me over the head with it.I have no desire to ever marry. I want to dedicate my life to the Lord. If I am not called to be a religious, then I will probably live a life of lay service to the church. It has been my personal experience that I am able to live a holier, more Christ-centered life without any romantic relationships. Just my two cents.
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d_floyd77
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I would be much happier if I had the desire to NOT get married, I know that.
In my moments of pure peace I imagine myself single, devoted wholly to God. They don’t last long. Desires of the flesh return. Fear of being alone. An inate urge to father children and raise them.
I’m 31 and single and have no idea.
In my moments of pure peace I imagine myself single, devoted wholly to God. They don’t last long. Desires of the flesh return. Fear of being alone. An inate urge to father children and raise them.
I’m 31 and single and have no idea.
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BarbaraTherese
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I’m living in the single state and have done for well over 20 years now…in simple terms, I am called by God to the single state.
Blessings…Barb
Blessings…Barb
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HeWillProvide
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Just to clarify, I think marriage is great and do not want to put it down or be negative about it. Just wondering if and why others do not care to be married. Being single or married is great!
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CBS
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I guess it all depends on your personality. I’m not married because the idea of it just seems like more trouble than it’s worth. I also have NO interest in child raising whatsoever. I completely enjoy my solitude and I am comfortable with being alone.
I don’t think it’s selfish. Everyone lives and loves God in different ways.
Plus, it keeps other options open for me like the monastic life or seminary.
I don’t think it’s selfish. Everyone lives and loves God in different ways.
Plus, it keeps other options open for me like the monastic life or seminary.
I don’t want to get married for man reasons. Some selfish, some based on fears and others my personality type (Intuitive Logical Introvert)
I don’t want kids. Ever. I see the sacrifices people have to make in order to support them and I can’t see myself making those without resentment.
With our quick and easy, no reason divorce culture, I don’t want to put myself in a position to lose a house, car, retirement, alimony, etc to a woman who could divorce me for no reason at all.
The idea that we are supposed to make vows that dictate what we are supposed to do for the remainder of our lives without knowing what the future holds seems absurd to me. It obviously works for some people, a lot of people, but I just don’t want to put my life in another human’s hands.
Personally, I view the need for other people as a weakness. I am not a social person and want to be able to take care of myself and not have to depend on other people. At least, as little as possible. Personal experience has taught me that for the most part, people will just let you down.
My introverted nature leads me to dislike social functions. There isn’t much that’s more boring than dating. It’d be hard to get married without dating. And because of my introverted nature, I doubt there’d be many women who wouldn’t get bored with me anyways.
At the risk of sounding like a Vulcan from Star Trek, I pretty much get by on logic and reason and leave emotion by the wayside. That makes it extremely, extremely difficult to have any kind of relationships with women when I can’t empathize with their more emotional (usually) personality.
I don’t want kids. Ever. I see the sacrifices people have to make in order to support them and I can’t see myself making those without resentment.
With our quick and easy, no reason divorce culture, I don’t want to put myself in a position to lose a house, car, retirement, alimony, etc to a woman who could divorce me for no reason at all.
The idea that we are supposed to make vows that dictate what we are supposed to do for the remainder of our lives without knowing what the future holds seems absurd to me. It obviously works for some people, a lot of people, but I just don’t want to put my life in another human’s hands.
Personally, I view the need for other people as a weakness. I am not a social person and want to be able to take care of myself and not have to depend on other people. At least, as little as possible. Personal experience has taught me that for the most part, people will just let you down.
My introverted nature leads me to dislike social functions. There isn’t much that’s more boring than dating. It’d be hard to get married without dating. And because of my introverted nature, I doubt there’d be many women who wouldn’t get bored with me anyways.
At the risk of sounding like a Vulcan from Star Trek, I pretty much get by on logic and reason and leave emotion by the wayside. That makes it extremely, extremely difficult to have any kind of relationships with women when I can’t empathize with their more emotional (usually) personality.
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LilyM
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How do you explain celibate clergy and religious then? If they’re called to a single state it surely follows that others, even without taking vows, are so called as well.
St Rose of Lima and St Catherine of Siena were both single lay women, not religious, and St Benedict Joseph Labre was a single lay man, also not a religious or priest.
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CarrieH
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BTDT, and never again. I’m kind of an introverted loner by nature anyway. I’d rather stay home with my cats, or go up to the church and visit the Blessed Sacrament or play the organ, than to go out on the town on a date. I don’t even like having houseguests for more than one or two nights, and a spouse stays a LOT longer than that! Now that I’m too old to have children, what would be the point? The men my age are mostly interested in dating women who under 45 anyway. I haven’t had my marriage annulled, partly because I like having that as an excuse for not being available for dating. I have given passing thought to becoming a hermit, but I have too many responsibilities in taking care of my elderly parents to pursue that at this point in my life.
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the_phoenix
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After a prayer experience before the Blessed Sacrament where I asked what I should do about my membership at a Catholic Singles Online forum, combined with circumstances immediately following, it seemed the answer to the prayer was quite immediate that I am not to be married, but instead to pray for married people and their families.
Since that time, I completely stopped looking to get married.
~~ the phoenix
Since that time, I completely stopped looking to get married.
~~ the phoenix
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davidcoit
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Let me add my two cents for the same reasons.I have no desire to ever marry. I want to dedicate my life to the Lord. If I am not called to be a religious, then I will probably live a life of lay service to the church. It has been my personal experience that I am able to live a holier, more Christ-centered life without any romantic relationships. Just my two cents.
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dove51
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I don’t think God made me for marriage. I think if He wanted me to get married, He would have planted different desires in me, a different personality. I feel called to something else.
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4loveofJesus
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May God’s peace, love and mercy be with you all!
After years of praying and discerning, I have come to know that God has called me to stay single for Him for the rest of my life. I have fully accepted & embraced that call and I am at peace and very contented with my life. By God’s grace, I have no desire at all to get married nor am I drawn to the religious vocation. I have such love and respect for the other vocations (religious and married) and recognize the beauty of each vocation but yet I would not want to trade my life with anybody else in the entire world because God has specially created each and every one of us and GOD HAS THE PERFECT PLAN for us. I know that any vocation whether single, married or religious will be difficult but I know that if we fully and with unlimited confidence trust in God’s infinite Goodness, Love and Mercy, everything will be alright.
As we respond to God’s call, He infuses us with the grace to be able to live that call. We have to truly open our hearts to Him, trust Him, stay close to Him through prayer, the Sacraments (Confession & Holy Communion) and living the Christian way of life: Loving God the way He needed to be loved and loving all humanity the way God loves us.
Somebody once said that the Most Perfect vocation is the one that we are called to. It is in living our vocation, in our daily ordinary lives, where we achieve the greatest sanctity.
I have found mine and daily I pray that in an instant may the whole humanity until the end of time know, respond and live most perfectly the vocation that God calls us and to follow and love Him most perfectly.
I may not have a child of my own but I feel that men & women with or without children can be Spiritual Mothers and Fathers by spiritually adopting souls that will exist until the end of time and offer prayers of adoration, praise, thanksgiving, petition and reparation to God.
It is only through God’s grace that we are able to live our vocation and for me to live a celibate single life with joy, peace and contentment.
Be not afraid to answer God’s call.
Let us all live our vocation with joy and love for the love of God!
May we ask the Holy Spirit to consume us, transform us with the most pure fire of God’s Divine Love and to give us the fruits and gifts of the Holy Spirit unceasingly.
God bless to all!
Blessed be Jesus and Mary!
After years of praying and discerning, I have come to know that God has called me to stay single for Him for the rest of my life. I have fully accepted & embraced that call and I am at peace and very contented with my life. By God’s grace, I have no desire at all to get married nor am I drawn to the religious vocation. I have such love and respect for the other vocations (religious and married) and recognize the beauty of each vocation but yet I would not want to trade my life with anybody else in the entire world because God has specially created each and every one of us and GOD HAS THE PERFECT PLAN for us. I know that any vocation whether single, married or religious will be difficult but I know that if we fully and with unlimited confidence trust in God’s infinite Goodness, Love and Mercy, everything will be alright.
As we respond to God’s call, He infuses us with the grace to be able to live that call. We have to truly open our hearts to Him, trust Him, stay close to Him through prayer, the Sacraments (Confession & Holy Communion) and living the Christian way of life: Loving God the way He needed to be loved and loving all humanity the way God loves us.
Somebody once said that the Most Perfect vocation is the one that we are called to. It is in living our vocation, in our daily ordinary lives, where we achieve the greatest sanctity.
I have found mine and daily I pray that in an instant may the whole humanity until the end of time know, respond and live most perfectly the vocation that God calls us and to follow and love Him most perfectly.
I may not have a child of my own but I feel that men & women with or without children can be Spiritual Mothers and Fathers by spiritually adopting souls that will exist until the end of time and offer prayers of adoration, praise, thanksgiving, petition and reparation to God.
It is only through God’s grace that we are able to live our vocation and for me to live a celibate single life with joy, peace and contentment.
Be not afraid to answer God’s call.
Let us all live our vocation with joy and love for the love of God!
May we ask the Holy Spirit to consume us, transform us with the most pure fire of God’s Divine Love and to give us the fruits and gifts of the Holy Spirit unceasingly.
God bless to all!
Blessed be Jesus and Mary!
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ElizabethPH
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I’m a widow so I imagine it really doesn’t count. I Married twice they both passed away. Maybe I’m not supposed to be married. I don’t think I’ll ever do it again. I have never been as close to God as I am now.
God Bless
God Bless
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cecilia97
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Very beautiful, 4loveofjesus!
I think single people have so much to offer while living out our vocations…despite sometimes feeling out of place in parishes that seem centered around families. Wanna see a happy volunteer coordinator, tell them you’re single and have time to help out!
I think single people have so much to offer while living out our vocations…despite sometimes feeling out of place in parishes that seem centered around families. Wanna see a happy volunteer coordinator, tell them you’re single and have time to help out!
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BarbaraTherese
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…LOL!..appreciated!Of course
(sorry, just thought I’d add a touch of humor here.)
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