Apologizing to someone after Confession

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After I confess a sin such as fighting with a family member, am I required or encouraged to go back and make peace with that person by apologizing?

Or when it comes to things such as sexual activity outside of marriage, should I go back and express my sorrow to that person for the act we committed?

Or in the case of being a bad influence on someone, should I seek them out and say sorry for being a bad person that your probably looked up to?

even if all these things happened a long time ago, and I confessed them a long time ago.

 

[DebChris]

When we had the Sacrament of Reconciliation as part of religious education, this is exactly what I encouraged my students to do. It is not required. However, Jesus said that if you bring your gift to the altar and there remember that your brother has a grievance against you, go and be reconciled and then return to offer your gift.
This is part of the healing of personal relationships. If you hurt somebody, ask forgiveness from that person for hurting them. It is possible that they will refuse this forgiveness, and there is nothing you can do about that. Reconciliation begins when one person takes the first step.
Through the Sacrament of Reconciliation, your sin has already been forgiven.
You don’t need to tell the person you went to confession. It would probably be better if you didn’t. Keep it simple. “We had a big fight the other day and I said some terrible things. I’m sorry I hurt you.”
My husband and I actually had a makeup routine. It started while we were still dating. We would share a cup of Sassafras tea and talk. Later the Sassafras was replaced by Pepsi. You get the idea. Meet with your friend over a cup of tea or coffee.

 

[Timothy_Garber]

I would definitely encourage this. Even though it wouldn’t be required, think about it:

Wouldn’t you want to take that weight off your chest, as well as the other person’s, by making up to them?

It’s also a great way to show how Catholics are.