Apology for Uncharitable Behavior

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So I took a break from CAF for a while due to some events in my personal life. Including the sudden death of a person who I’d posted about here before, asking advice for issues I had with him.

Of course I feel very guilty about my uncharitable thoughts about him and even wishing something would happen so I wouldn’t have to deal with him - of course, I did not actually wish something BAD would happen, it was more like “maybe he’ll decide to get a new job far away from here, and move”. But I feel horrible anyway. 😦

I also feel very guilty about my behavior on the “When is the best age for a child to know about LGBT issues” topic. I realize I was being very uncharitable and I apologize to everyone on that topic. 😦

ETA: Edited to remove some specific information due to paranoia about RL people recognizing me here.
 
It’s the Internet. Don’t heap coals on yourself, you are fine.
 
Forgive yourself and all is well!~

Many topics can inspire strong reactions from us and you are not the first or last.

Take Care,

Mary.
 
This was an honorable thing to post, Toe (if I can call you that). As the others said, forgive yourself and remember that God loves you.
 
I’ve had plenty of people in my life that I just love and admire. And unfortunately more than a few who somehow ‘get my goat’.

Of those that I feel uncharitable, I pray for them. Sometimes a decade of the rosary. If they’re real stinkers, I have a mass said for them. I don’t discriminate. I’ll have one said for a Protestant, non-believer, or heavens above, a Catholic who attends daily mass.

What I suggest for you, and this person you had such animosity for, is request a mass from the Seraphic Mass Association, or some other religious order that offers that. You don’t have to be catholic to request a mass. Blessed Fr. Solanus Casey would suggest supporting the missions this way when people brought their burdens to him. You can read about him here: solanuscasey.org/who-is-father-solanus/missions

You can also request a mass for this man at a local parish. Visit the parish office and they’ll even give you a card you can send to this person’s family, if that is prudent. Otherwise use the card as a reminder to pray for this man and his family.

You know what? You will be better for it.

Tonight may God bless you and give you His Peace. You’ll be in my prayers!- 🙂
 
Thank you everyone for the replies! This whole event has really made me look at myself and realize that I am certainly guilty of the sin of pride and having an exaggerated sense of my own self-righteousness, both in my personal life and on CAF.
egretps said:
What I suggest for you, and this person you had such animosity for, is request a mass from the Seraphic Mass Association, or some other religious order that offers that. You don’t have to be catholic to request a mass.
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I will consider that, though I don’t think it’s quite prudent to send a Mass card as he was not Catholic. I did check out the Seraphic Mass Association website and it seems that while I need to name the person I am requesting the Mass for, the intention remains confidential unless I indicate otherwise.
 
Praying for you to forgive yourself. Keep this person in your prayers. Say a Rosary for the repose of his soul. You can send an enrollment of Masses or Novena with a donation online and only use his initials. Some workshops suggested that you write the deceased a letter and tell him what you would want to say to him, then destroy the letter. Go to confession. I am praying for you not to hold on to guilt for too long. God bless you.
 
Thank you.

I will pray for this person’s eternal rest and for your ease of mind. Please be at peace.
 
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