Are Catholic women loyal?

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I know not everyone is the same but in general are Catholic women loyal? I’m very old now (25) and I think I need to settle down because the average Catholic gets married by 24 so I am running out of time. However I am worried about being cheated on or a woman saying she loves me when she actually doesn’t. I have not had a girlfriend because it is very scary. I have been very drawn to Catholic women because they would obviously share my values and I like the thought of only being with one spouse my entire life. However my friend said that all women will cheat and want divorce so I am scared that would happen. What has been your guy’s experience on this?
 
There are about 600 million catholic women in the world. It’s impossible to make a blanket statement about catholic women in general. It’s like asking “are Catholic women tall?” It’s just a flawed question.

Also, 25 is not “very old.” I got married at 29.
 
Are you even Catholic yourself? Serious Catholic women generally want serious Catholic men.
 
You are 25 and want to know if Catholic women are all loyal?
Can you logically work through the statement?
 
OP, I think you need a lot more life experience before you even think about marriage. Perhaps some counseling as well. I’m not saying that to be snarky, I sincerely mean it. There are a lot of questionable ideas in your post.
 
I would say they are wrong and misinformed. But I am not sure if it is normal for women to do that.
 
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I would they are wrong and misinformed. But I am not sure if it is normal for women to do that.
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I am a woman. It’s not. And that’s my response to you on women cheating: your friend’s opinion is wrong and misinformed.
 
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Oh thank you! The dating world is very scary and now this is one less thing to worry about.
 
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I know not everyone is the same
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And yet… you ask a question that encompasses almost a half a billion people from all culture and walks of life.

A question impossible to answer.
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I’m very old now (25)
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That’s kind of hilarious from my vantage point approaching 54.
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and I think I need to settle down because the average Catholic gets married by 24 so I am running out of time.
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We don’t marry because of what statistical averages say. We marry because we have a vocation and have found a partner in that vocation.
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However I am worried about being cheated on or a woman saying she loves me when she actually doesn’t.
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This is therapy territory. It’s not a rational fear.
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I have not had a girlfriend because it is very scary
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See above, irrational level of fear.
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I have been very drawn to Catholic women because they would obviously share my values and I like the thought of only being with one spouse my entire life.
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You get to know a woman, and through that process you discern whether marriage is the path for the two of you. You do that by dating. You aren’t going to get anywhere until you deal with the irrational fear that is hindering you from even taking a chance at meeting someone and getting to know them.
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However my friend said that all women will cheat and want divorce
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Well, I’ve known a fair number of men who were cheaters including two who cheated on me while we were dating seriously.

That didn’t stop me from dating in the future because I know that not ALL men are cheaters.

“ALL women are cheaters” is a ridiculous statement. If your friend had bad experiences, perhaps his woman-picker is broken and he’s making poor choices.
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so I am scared that would happen.
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Because one friend makes a ludicrous statement?

Go out in the world and get some experience with people. And some therapy if you are literally afraid to put yourself out there.
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What has been your guy’s experience on this?
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Men and women are all sinners. There are good ones, bad ones, and those in the middle.

Maintain high standards for your own behavior and expect it in your partner. I could tell day one my now-husband was a quality man who would never hurt me.
 
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Buddy, he’s not wrong. Some of the things you’ve said in this thread indicate that therapy might be in order. That’s not an attack or anything, but some of your fears and attitudes are not normal.
 
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Catholics who endeavor to follow the teachings of the Church and who love God and try to better a person everyday will almost always be a loyal bunch and will make good spouses and good parents and good friends.

There’s never going to be a way to 100% guarantee that two people in a marriage will be faithful and loving, but if something happens, trust in God and he will get you through it. Don’t be afraid. If you want to avoid any risk in life you can simply not love or put your trust in anybody, but that is a fate worse than death.

Also, your friends are not very wise and I believe they are partly responsible for planting these fears in you. Please consider the people in your life and whether or not they are a good influence.

Peace.
 
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I’m very old now (25) and I think I need to settle down because the average Catholic gets married by 24 so I am running out of time. However I am worried about being cheated on or a woman saying she loves me when she actually doesn’t. I have not had a girlfriend because it is very scary.
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I’d worry less about Catholic women being “loyal” and more about getting over some of these unusual attitudes you have, which are likely to turn off many women, Catholic or not.

Edited to add, I wrote this post before I saw that a couple people above me said something similar. Didn’t mean to pile on, but my first reaction to your first post, as a woman who in my younger days dated a good many men, was, “This guy’s lack of confidence/ trust and being in a rush to get married because he thinks 25 is ‘too late’ would have made me not want to date him.”
 
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What makes you think all women are the same?

If you can’t see women as individuals what makes you think you are ready for marriage?
 
The are you a cheater? You must be cheating. I know you cheated. Etc… Really drove me nuts when dating. Usually appears like an OCD where the person won’t let go of their imagination. My own issues don’t mesh well with that specific self esteem issue.
 
You talk about negativity yet you started this thread with the accusation that all women are cheaters?

Would you react positively to an opening post accusing all men as cheaters even if the post was in the form of a question?
 
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