Are Catholic women loyal?

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I don’t see woman as the same. I was just wondering generally if they are loyal because I have heard otherwise. I do think I am ready for marriage though if I find a nice woman.
 
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A man who worries all the time about his girlfriend “cheating” on him is also a red flag for a possible domestic abuse situation, emotionally if not physically, because often every time his girlfriend/ wife talks to another man, even if it’s totally platonic or just being neighborly, he will think she is contemplating cheating. Or actually having an affair if she seems happy to chat with her male office friend, etc.
 
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I have no interest in people just trying to put me down.
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No one is putting you down. They’re saying that some of your thoughts and attitudes are a bit off and you might benefit from talking to someone. It’s not an insult. There’s no shame in talking to a counselor.
 
I would exercise more discretion when choosing friends if I were you.

Especially friends who hate the gender with whom you are seeking marriage.
 
Hint: most Catholic people here are here to be closer to God and to understand Catholicism better. Most of us here wouldn’t be too experienced with this, unless they’re divorced men due to their wives, or children of parents that divorced due to this. Most of us here wouldn’t be gossiping with or about friends, so we wouldn’t know or have an idea of percentages, and if we were aware, we would not necessarily share to avoid gossip.

My guess, on the whole, chances of being cheated might be the same or maybe a little better Than national stats. But you have the opportunity to date someone, learn if they’re a likely good match for you, and go from there.

Humans don’t live in a vacuum of statistical chances, and any percent chance doesn’t mean you get to worry that you have a xx% chance of being cheated on, thus even playing games (Competitively) you can learn about a person’s personality. If they like to bribe in order to get things done faster, etc. You have to meet people, study personalities, and get to know when a person is more likely to be less trustworthy. Until then, it’s all statistics and fear.
 
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For example, I once knew someone that would cheat at card games. This person’s personality in the end, reflected that. I wish I had been advised prior to, that that’s a big red flag.

Watch how a person composes themselves around others, to waitstaff, how they tip, to the hosts in a restaurant, in any friendly competition where cheating is possible (even if easily caught). There’s opportunities out there to understand and be able to build trust with someone without needing to resort to statistics. Observe, observe, observe. Not one person, but many people. Then you will begin to see. Not to judge the people, but to be careful about who you choose to spend your life with.

Until then, therapy.
 
Well, maybe maybe not? There are people that feel this way out there.
 
Riman643 said:
I’m very old now (25)
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Let’s presume you find a woman who has never had an affair (which is a polite way to say, she is a virgin).

Do you think it might be possible that she, too, may be concerned over the same issue you are? And what kind of marriage are the two of you going to have if you both enter with a suspicious mind, wondering if the other party is going to commit adultery? Do you have any perception as to what suspicion does to a person and how they end up acting out that suspicion - questioning, checking up on, setting traps - and the list goes on.

If you have not had a girl friend because it is scary, you are not ready to marry.

And you do not have a friend; you have an acquaintance; and your acquaintance may be dealing with internal moral issues if they say that all women cheat. Much of what people say are statements which in part reflect what is internal.

If you are having major issues with trusting others, and your comment certainly seems to indicate that, I would suggest that you find a good counselor and spend some time with them. People - both men and women - pick up on cues from others, and women in general seem a bit better at it than men. Any woman you might start dating is likely to pick up cues from you that you don’t trust women, and a smart one will dump you - which of course you will take as proof that you can’t trust them.

Either you need to get off the wheel of doubt and start trusting people - women in particular - or you are going to be a self-proving prophet.
 
There’s a tremendous amount to unpack in your post.
You have a generalized mistrust of women, lack of experience dating women, and a “friend” giving you ideas.

Your first step needs to be making friends with some women. Not as dates, but as friends you can have fun with and companionship.
 
Amen. Amen. The best thing to ever happen to me is my best friend, who is a woman. I have changed so much for the better since then.
 
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I am not delusional and more emotionally mature than you. You seem to take pleasure in just bullying people you don’t know.
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He’s not bullying you. Suspicion of such a massive group of people based on only what you’ve been told is not normal.
 
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I know not everyone is the same but in general are Catholic women loyal? I’m very old now (25) and I think I need to settle down because the average Catholic gets married by 24 so I am running out of time. However I am worried about being cheated on or a woman saying she loves me when she actually doesn’t. I have not had a girlfriend because it is very scary. I have been very drawn to Catholic women because they would obviously share my values and I like the thought of only being with one spouse my entire life. However my friend said that all women will cheat and want divorce so I am scared that would happen. What has been your guy’s experience on this?
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I am a very old Catholic woman, way over 25. 25 is really just a baby. There is no average age the average Catholic marries at. There is no such thing as running out of time.
Dont rush this. Start dating and wait till the right one comes along. You need experience dating and socializing with people.

Why not just settle down and enter into RCIA and find out about the faith and become a good an holy practicing Catholic man. Women want certain things in a man too. If she is a practicing Catholic, she will want the same from her husband.
Your friend sounds like he has been burned and is harbouring issues that are holding him back from forgiving and moving forward in his life

Dont be like your friend.
Your friend might need counselling to get over the hurts and disappointments he has had in his life.
Again, dont be like your friend. You can show him that he is wrong.
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I am not delusional and more emotionally mature than you. You seem to take pleasure in just bullying people you don’t know.
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Stop arguing on the internet, it is a quality women do not want in a man. Being a woman, I can freely say this.

Also again, did I mention dont listen to your friend. Tell him that he has to get over his pain and hurt and issues and not to project them onto you.
 
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