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This thread subject has come up several times and I am trying to grasp the reasons for it.
Why do “effeminate preists” turn people off? After reading posts on several threads, I am coming to two possible conclusions:
(1) It seems that effeminacy, to some who have posted, gives an inside view of what a man’s sexual preference is…that they might be gay. If that’s the turn off, quite frankly, I would have to say that problem is not with the priest. As they are called to a life of celibacy, why should it EVEN MATTER! Should one be looking at their priests as a possible score? For women, is the turn off that their fantacies will never become realities? Some women (and I think some men) have said that they find their priests sexy/hot and with that they had they met them before they became priests, blah blah blsh etc. C’mon. I mean, we all have wandering eyes but should we be assessing priests this way?. I think it gives some insight to how the quality of a priest is being judged. For men, are you really that insecure with your own sexuality that being around a man that might be gay (even though they are not to act on it and even may not be gay) bother you?
(2) So let’s say that a priest is effeminate in his actions. Why would you judge a priest on that? Why aren’t you looking at this person *as a priest *and assessing more valid traits like his dedication to the parish, his obedience to the pope, what he does for the church etc? It’s such a terrible reason to write someone off for, especially someone who is charged to help you with your spiritual well being, isn’t it?
Did Jesus, when he was picking the apostles, look to see if Peter had a lisp, or displayed so called effeminate actions? Probably not. I’m sure he picked these guys based on more meaningful charatcers. Should we not do the same?
The whole question of effeminacy being the reason for the decline in vocations and the dwindling numbers of men going to church is a pretty weak arguement. We need to stop judging a person so much on these irrelevant characteristics.
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Why do “effeminate preists” turn people off? After reading posts on several threads, I am coming to two possible conclusions:
(1) It seems that effeminacy, to some who have posted, gives an inside view of what a man’s sexual preference is…that they might be gay. If that’s the turn off, quite frankly, I would have to say that problem is not with the priest. As they are called to a life of celibacy, why should it EVEN MATTER! Should one be looking at their priests as a possible score? For women, is the turn off that their fantacies will never become realities? Some women (and I think some men) have said that they find their priests sexy/hot and with that they had they met them before they became priests, blah blah blsh etc. C’mon. I mean, we all have wandering eyes but should we be assessing priests this way?. I think it gives some insight to how the quality of a priest is being judged. For men, are you really that insecure with your own sexuality that being around a man that might be gay (even though they are not to act on it and even may not be gay) bother you?
(2) So let’s say that a priest is effeminate in his actions. Why would you judge a priest on that? Why aren’t you looking at this person *as a priest *and assessing more valid traits like his dedication to the parish, his obedience to the pope, what he does for the church etc? It’s such a terrible reason to write someone off for, especially someone who is charged to help you with your spiritual well being, isn’t it?
Did Jesus, when he was picking the apostles, look to see if Peter had a lisp, or displayed so called effeminate actions? Probably not. I’m sure he picked these guys based on more meaningful charatcers. Should we not do the same?
The whole question of effeminacy being the reason for the decline in vocations and the dwindling numbers of men going to church is a pretty weak arguement. We need to stop judging a person so much on these irrelevant characteristics.
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