Of course not, and I saw that response coming. But don’t I count for something? If a scientist is about to claim that “all ladybugs turn blue if you feed them rice,” and suddenly he notices a few that stay red, shouldn’t that be investigated?
The fact of the matter is, most homosexuals are quiet about all of this. And furthermore, the vast (and I mean VAST) majority of homosexuals never say anything or reveal their inclinations to anyone. So there are probably plenty of people like me out there. How in the world are we supposed to draw any conclusions when we have such a significant number of homosexuals whom we don’t even know about?
Kaytu, I counselled hundreds of gays and lesbians when I was working for a gay and lesbian counselling service for people who were coming out. Very few of them had been abused as children or have experienced what these “pray away the gay” people claim during their childhood.
More recently as a family counsellor in a disadvantaged area, I come across many clients who have been sexually abused as children, who have never lived with their fathers, who had controlling mothers etc etc etc…and so far, they are all heterosexual.
These ex-gay groups need to come up with reasons why they think that homosexuality is not inborn because they believe it is a sin. They also need to convince their clients that if homosexuality is a developmental disorder then it can be changed.
I read a transcript of a session with a “reparative therapist” where a journalist pretended he wanted to change from gay to straight. I was horrified by the leading questions this “therapist” asked.
This is an example of the sort of thing I mean:
Therapist: “So most homosexuals have a distant relationship with their fathers. Tell be about your relationship with your father. It wasn’t close was it.”
Client- “No, I had a good relationship with my dad”
Therapist: “You mustn’t be able to remember then.”
Client: No I remember quite well
Therapist: Did you play sports with you father?
Client: No, not really.
Therapist: Oh so you didn’t have much in common.
Client: No…it’s because neither of us were all that interested in sports
Therpist: So you didn’t share any interests with him.
Client: Well yes, I did, We both had a strong interest in science. He was a scientist and would often take me with him to work to show me his experiments. We had some great talks.
Therapist: So your relationship was quite cold.
Client: What? What makes you say that.
Client: Well you said you just talked about science, That seems quite cold.
Client: No. I didn’t say that. We talked about lots of things.
Therapist: But he probably didn’t hug you very often did he.
Client: Well yes…he did. Dad was a big hugger.
Therapist: Hmmm…many homosexuals were sexually abused as children. Did your father ever touch you sexually?
Client: What???
This method of using leading questions to try to fit a client to a pet theory is completely unethical, harnful and frankly, disgusts me. This is NOT what counselling or therapy is about.