InSearchofGrace;7472764:
ted by TAU Wolf in #130).
Looking ahead (you’re probably a young man), it might help with your disappointment or frustration about your SSA, it you don’t make your sexuality the core with which you identify or on which you base the meaning of your life.
InSearch, you make an excellent point about homosexuals not making their sexuality the core of their existence. But I would also argue that heterosexuals are as (or even more) guilty of making a gay person’s sexuality his/her sole identification. Scandal magazines routinely have a “Who is Gay?” cover to tantalize customers in checkout lines. A TIME magazine theater reviewer recently stated that he felt that a gay man could not play a straight role because the actor wasn’t being “genuine” (although he did not express a similar reservation about a straight man playing a gay role). There is even speculation about the sexual preference of long-dead historical figures.
So maybe the “straight world’s” obsession with homosexuality is the real problem. We (in the universal sense) make all kinds of assumptions about the sex lives of our gay brothers and sisters (particularly that they are extremely promiscuous and out to convert straights to their “side”) without allowing for the possibility that they are trying to follow Scriptural teachings in their personal lives - by being celibate.
It cannot be easy to be gay, either socially or spiritually. We may never know what really causes an individual to be straight or gay. But we can continue to help each other on our individual spiritual quests, regardless of our personal sexual preference. As a new member, that is one of the things I really appreciate about this forum.
Welcome to CAF, Claudden.
Let me respond to your post.
The media is dominated by the Left. Time Magazine, for example, is a news magazine that is now criticized as a leftist propaganda rag. The same with the morning TV show, The View, to cite a program whereby its women hosts are regarded by some or many people as purveyors of what views on any and all subjects are correct. If members of society look to media as the source of authoritative analysis or values, there would be much imbalance and inaccuracy taken as “truth”, no?
You commented on the straight world’s obsession with homosexuality, bringing up “Who is Gay?” as featured in Time Magazine.
There is no easy analysis on which came first, homosexuals making their sexual identity stand out (those who are overt, anyway, in their action, manner and dressing) or heterosexuals picking on them. We hear about “gay panic defense” in court such as in the Matthew Shepard case.
You are right in saying that we should talk more about gays who are making efforts, who are living with a commitment to be celibate. You mentioned those trying to follow Scriptural teachings. But what about those who do not believe in Scripture, like those who have embraced atheism / agnosticism, or those coming from highly secularized families with no religion? In fact, there are quite a few agnostic / atheist homosexuals who are on CAF, looking for answers how to make sense of their SSA and be happy. It is difficult.
Two days ago, I watched on EWTN a feature on Father Harvey, founder of Courage, and the account of ten active homosexuals who joined Courage and spoke of their conversion. Nine homosexual males, and one female. All related their profound feeling of desolation and disconnectedness even as they as they gave in to their homosexual urges over long years with serial or various partners of the same sex. (This touched me as I thought about my gay brother’s life.) After joining Courage, the homosexuals on the program learned that chastity is a virtue (like honesty and courage) that applies to a person’s sexuality. It is not repression but moderation of the sexual appetite in accord with right reason. Some seek to rationalize their way around this but that is ultimately a denial of Christ’s teaching and that of His Church. As the Courage site
couragerc.net/chastity.html explains, the denial of a Scriptural teaching is far worse than a sexual sin committed out of weakness.
Catholic posters here have expressed that we should not be hung up whether homosexuals are born that way or not, as interesting and nagging a question it is, as proven by the quest for the “gay gene” for over 20 years. But one sees why homosexuals want to reach validation in science if a gay gene is indeed discovered because they would not be challenged anymore to change – it would be clear to society that they have no choice if being gay is inborn.
It would be hard for homosexuals now to argue that they are being discriminated at work or they are disadvantaged for their orientation in practical life without legal recourse. As a strong and vocal group, homosexuals seem able to fight their social struggles with success. Their spiritual struggle is something else, and it is faith, not science, IMO, which can help them overcome their disconnectedness to society. Faith is not to be disassociated from reason.
Blessings and peace to you.
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