Are people getting more sensitive these days?

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I hope I do not seem rude saying this at all.

I see many people getting upset over the smallest things these days. To me back in the late 90’s (When I was young and can still remember back to) it seemed like people would shrug things off more often or perhaps I was just seeing things differently and they did get upset.

I am rather laid back and try to not let stuff get to me. How others live, what they say and so on. If someone thinks I am a jerk well then they do its not something to dwell on.

I have said sorry to some people and they get upset or offended. I have no idea if I was rude or sarcastic or if I had even done anything wrong but some people look upset and you ask if they are alright and they get agitated.

I would say I talked more about religion with my classmates when I was younger and no one really said anything against it as I was rather polite with it. These days someone might get upset no matter how you say it.

Has anyone one else noticed people being more on edge in the recent years?
 
SilverLight said:
I hope I do not seem rude saying this at all.

I see many people getting upset over the smallest things these days. To me back in the late 90’s (When I was young and can still remember back to) it seemed like people would shrug things off more often or perhaps I was just seeing things differently and they did get upset.

I am rather laid back and try to not let stuff get to me. How others live, what they say and so on. If someone thinks I am a jerk well then they do its not something to dwell on.

I have said sorry to some people and they get upset or offended. I have no idea if I was rude or sarcastic or if I had even done anything wrong but some people look upset and you ask if they are alright and they get agitated.

I would say I talked more about religion with my classmates when I was younger and no one really said anything against it as I was rather polite with it. These days someone might get upset no matter how you say it.

Has anyone one else noticed people being more on edge in the recent years?
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Yes. I think it’s more likely to happen online, where you cannot judge facial expressions and vocal inflections. Also, because of the anonymity, we may forget that there are actual people sitting at a computer/phone screen somewhere, reading our words.
We forget they have feelings that may be hurt by what we type.
 
AnnArbor said:
Yes. I think it’s more likely to happen online, where you cannot judge facial expressions and vocal inflections. Also, because of the anonymity, we may forget that there are actual people sitting at a computer/phone screen somewhere, reading our words.
We forget they have feelings that may be hurt by what we type.
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I’m not just talking online but in the real world also.
 
SilverLight said:
Are people getting more sensitive these days?
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Yes. it sure seems like it. Not sure how to explain it, or exactly how long it’s been going on, but there is this definite rush to judgement on everything. Being outraged is the new normal. You can even see it in CAF…the occasional thread that pops up about mean pregnancy comments, or offensive comments in public toward women with lots of kids. “You do know what causes that, don’t you” “How do you find the energy” Everyone wants to be a victim of something I guess. 🤷
 
“Sensitivity” has always been there, it’s just more likely to be used as a weapon these days.

IMNAAHO

ICXC NIKA.
 
I agree. I think it is a combination of things. Right now, the “stakes” are higher than during the laid back decades of past. The world is getting smaller and smaller, moving faster and faster. Technology has outpaced out ability to properly use it.

The doors of “social change” went from being cracked ope, to being kicked off the hinges.
The perfect storm.
 
Look at today’s music, TV/cable programing, social media content. Immorality has become an accepted way of life. Person to Person contact, has lost it’s value for a lot of people especially when they have the world at their finger tips. The world if full of judgment, you can’t even walk out the door without being judged by a neighbor, or someone driving down the street.

Its awesome that you are not easily offended. Maybe this is one of the gifts that God has given you to share with the world. I work with high school aged young people, and so many of them are filled with anxiety, over everything! I pray that you and others blessed with similar gifts can be an example for our young people, because they are the future. Can you imagine the ripple effect your gift can have if you can share it with just one person, and then they share it, and their ripple effect. Makes me believe one person really can change the world (or at least begin the change). 😉

Keep staying strong, and God Bless You!
 
SilverLight said:
I hope I do not seem rude saying this at all.

I see many people getting upset over the smallest things these days. To me back in the late 90’s (When I was young and can still remember back to) it seemed like people would shrug things off more often or perhaps I was just seeing things differently and they did get upset.

I am rather laid back and try to not let stuff get to me. How others live, what they say and so on. If someone thinks I am a jerk well then they do its not something to dwell on.

I have said sorry to some people and they get upset or offended. I have no idea if I was rude or sarcastic or if I had even done anything wrong but some people look upset and you ask if they are alright and they get agitated.

I would say I talked more about religion with my classmates when I was younger and no one really said anything against it as I was rather polite with it. These days someone might get upset no matter how you say it.

Has anyone one else noticed people being more on edge in the recent years?
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Yes, there’s a huge contingent of SOPOs (Society of the Perpetually Offended) who seem to look for an excuse to take offense, then use that as justification to vilify, verbally abuse and shout down anyone they disagree with.

They aren’t interested in solving any issues they identify, just looking for an excuse to scream and shout about something. For them, everything is problematic, they take offense where none is intended and have no interest in considering anyone’s opinion that contradicts their own.
 
GEddie said:
“Sensitivity” has always been there, it’s just more likely to be used as a weapon these days.

IMNAAHO

ICXC NIKA.
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I agree. I call this generation, “Generation I”. It’s all about me and my feelings and what I want. Don’t tell me I’m wrong or what to do. Basically the generation of entitlement.
 
Schools and dumbed-down media have taught people to think they are 0-dimensional and that issues are 1-dimensional.

Subconsciously aware that they are treated as tools by politicians and commerce, who are nevertheless too powerful to be got back at, they over-react to folks like you and me that aren’t manipulating them at all.

John Henry Newman wanted us to be an educated laity (on all subjects). If the world sees us as that, perhaps they will all want to join in!

These days whenever I am told a half-truth I go and find out the rest for myself. It does take very hard work and I wish I had started when I was younger.
 
I would tend to agree. I work with a lot of young people and the general rule seems to be:highly educated and highly strung. It’s a real pain and takes a lot of patience and ego stroking.

Coincidentally it seems like the ones I meet who have some religion (ooh I’m so biased) seem to take constructive criticism a little better. Just sayin’…
 
Yes, I have noticed. Some people seem to find a reason to be offended. The world has become so PC because a person can’t say this or that because someone may be offended. It has gotten out of control.

I think part of it is that people find out the smallest news immediately. Of course, this is due to the internet. While the internet is great for a number of things, finding out the smallest bit of news immediately, especially something that might offend, doesn’t seem to be one of them.
 
People are more sensitive about their own feelings and less sensitive about others’. In short, people are more self-centered.
 
Hell, yes. I noticed it back in the 90’s, too. They always were and always will be. In talking to an insurance claims person, I had been on the phone for at least a half hour.

I got sarcastic when she apologized for keeping me on line so long. I thought she was doing it to get rid of me.

I said to her, “Oh, that’s all right. I have all day. I can sit on the phone indefinitely. I have nothing better to do. After all, my doctor says I am as nutty as a fruit cake and very dangerous. Hide your weapons!”
 
I’ve noticed among some young friends but I don’t know if it is just the ones I have experienced or if it is a generalized trend. I was listening to a friend who works in retail and was practically in tears because in her view customers were mistreating her and being mean. I said that I had dealt with the public nearly every day in a variety of jobs. I’d been cussed out by customers, shouted at, what would now be thought of as verbal abuse. None of it bothered me much. It wasn’t personal. It wasn’t about me. They didn’t even know me. If the customer was being irate, so what? If I could help I did; if I couldn’t I couldn’t. I never took it as a personal affront. But my friend took everything as a personal affront and asserted that she could not just let it go without it affecting her.
 
In the 1970s, kids in my Catholic school called Cuban children ‘‘boat people’’ Back in the early 70’s if I colcocked one of them, I caught it from Sister, then Monsignor and when I got home, first from Mom and then Dad. The parents of the name caller also got an earful from Sister.

1990s My youngest brother, twenty years my junior, has a problem with a student calling him ‘‘fag.’’ My parents instruct him not to hit. His teacher tells my parents he’s an ‘‘overly just child’’ and a target for abusive behavior and the school counselor advises my parents to not get in the middle of it and let my brother handle it himself. Both kids beat each other bloody but the teasing doesn’t stop until my brother starts calling the boy ‘‘fag’’ ‘‘queer’’ ‘‘queen’’ ‘‘Judy’’.

My youngest brother’s first child is at that lovely age. He doesn’t dare fight back because if the taunt is racial in any form, the school will over react and suspend/expel the name caller. Besides, you have no way of knowing who is carrying a knife or gun. That’s in the nice schools.

My nephew thinks nuns are the old people in veils in old age homes. Nuns who ran schools, taught morals and brooked no nonsense from kid or parent are a story they only hear from old people like me, they’re not real.

We need more nuns.
 
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