Are some individuals happy without God, family and friends?

[Shino918]

I’m thinking that certain individuals are prone to not choose God in their lifetimes. These people have from an early age a predisposition towards, let’s not call it sin, but perhaps a mindset that focuses on their own well-being. This may come from a lack of proper upbringning, with limits and strictness from the parents’ side, and instead an upbringning where the presents and material gifts the parents give their children are labeled as “love”. It could also be a overly excessive, physical affection the parents show their children, very much as a recompensation for, say, a proper home and a proper upbringning. Thus the parents are as much of a fool as the child is. The child begins to associate these events with “love”, creating a connection between the word and the events in his mind. This predisposition will eventually give birth to an attitude where the child does not understand proper boundaries in life, e.g. in the social life, which makes him not so well liked among his peers. He thinks that “if I wrong someone, I just have to say I am sorry, and it will be alright”. The same goes for the relationship with God.Thus he never feels shame for what he has done wrong. He lacks a discernment of what he should and should not do, because his mindset has, ever since an early age, told him that “life is meant to be enjoyed”. His behaviour makes his peers shun him, because he is impertinent and does not heed social customs. Most importantly he does not love, but rather loves games, fun activities with friends, but he never is really interested in the friends themselves, only the fun that comes with them. Over the years he loses friends, and then questions why they don’t call him or invite him to hang out. He reasons that the fault is theirs and not his, and develops a kind of bitter attitude. He develops a low sense of integrity and low self-esteem. And so he begins a life that is just one self-perpetuating downward spiral, each upcoming failure being dependent on the previous. There is just something about him that is false.
Because this person has never felt real love for his fellow man, how is it possible that he could love someone, even after realizing, not just that his actions were wrong, but that his whole * inner self* or set of mind was wrong? Since his nature is so dispositioned towards, or should I say not predispositioned towards, friends, family and God, is it even possible for him to love? Did God create some people wired this way, meant to perish to create a kind of equilibrium for the saved ones?
The best example of this personality is Judas. Or me, author of this thread, because this text has been inspired by my life only. Judas did not repent, and so will not someone with this personality trait.
What are your thoughts?

 

[fred_conty]

It seems to me that everything you are saying can be unlearned and learned over.
We are never stuck with the way we see others. And this can make a difference in the way we feel and see others.

God told us we are made in his image and likeness. This is so in two ways…the natural…and supernatural.

Natural in that we are created as a spirit with love and thought. And nothing was made except thru the Word of the Father. So everyone coming from and thru the Word is in some way reflects his beauty and goodness.

Supernatural in that we know that Grace makes us children of God…his very sons.

Now if we start remembering how precious God made each individual and how much he loved each individual by his death on the cross, then we will remember to treat others even better than we would expect…not thru fear but thru realization of who that are…“The second commandmant is like the first, love your neighbor as yourself”.

If we take a few moments each day to reflect on this, then suddenly without even being aware of it, we will change in our attitude toward others and really make a difference in the way we live interiorly and exteriorly.

This takes practise and a little time to reflect on.